This might seem a bit of an airy-fairy notion for you, but it is entirely possible that your subconcious wont let you go into labour until after the funeral anyway. I really do think that the power of the mind has a lot to do with letting yourself go into labour and it wont if it isn't safe to do so, if that makes sense. I have read of many women who couldn't go into labour until they had released any emotional baggage they were holding onto, so it might be the same for you. I would be thinking too that if things didn't work out and I needed a c/s then I definitely wouldn't be able to go, so that is something to consider as well