Have you read the info sheet on CS from RANZCOG? A CS is major abdominal surgery. I have had 2 VBs and am planning a CS for this baby as I physically cannot do a VB this time. There are usually less risks with a VB and recovery from a VB is much faster. If you are really concerned about the pain factor then drugs would be more beneficial in terms of pain than a CS because the pain of recovery after Abdo sugery is more constant than a contraction. As soon as labour is over in a VB, the pain stops. You may have some contractions while BFing to get your uterus down to normal size, but you would get those with a CS too.

Some Ob's dont have the same level of faith in the ability of a womans body as others. Some men in general can't handle not being in control of the situation (some women too ). Seeing as your dad does have a special interest in your pain levels I would very stongly recommend that you see a different Ob because I would be concerned that he would be too emotionally involved to make the best clinical judgement.

Labour is different for everyone. Only you will know at the time how much you can handle.

Your Dad is a specialist Ob, so being a specialist he would see more high risk women, and less of the normal straightforward pregnancies. There is nothing saying you will be high risk, so if your dad is doing a quick AN check on you and says you are perfectly fine, low risk ect, then there is no reason to believe that you will need a CS or induction until you are 42 weeks pg. It is normal to go to 42 weeks too

You may be surprised at what you can handle hun, If it gets too bad you can always get more intervention, but if you start wth the max intervention you cant reduce it as easily.