Have you read the info sheet on CS from RANZCOG? A CS is major abdominal surgery. I have had 2 VBs and am planning a CS for this baby as I physically cannot do a VB this time. There are usually less risks with a VB and recovery from a VB is much faster. If you are really concerned about the pain factor then drugs would be more beneficial in terms of pain than a CS because the pain of recovery after Abdo sugery is more constant than a contraction. As soon as labour is over in a VB, the pain stops. You may have some contractions while BFing to get your uterus down to normal size, but you would get those with a CS too.
Some Ob's dont have the same level of faith in the ability of a womans body as others. Some men in general can't handle not being in control of the situation (some women too ). Seeing as your dad does have a special interest in your pain levels I would very stongly recommend that you see a different Ob because I would be concerned that he would be too emotionally involved to make the best clinical judgement.
Labour is different for everyone. Only you will know at the time how much you can handle.
Your Dad is a specialist Ob, so being a specialist he would see more high risk women, and less of the normal straightforward pregnancies. There is nothing saying you will be high risk, so if your dad is doing a quick AN check on you and says you are perfectly fine, low risk ect, then there is no reason to believe that you will need a CS or induction until you are 42 weeks pg. It is normal to go to 42 weeks too
You may be surprised at what you can handle hun, If it gets too bad you can always get more intervention, but if you start wth the max intervention you cant reduce it as easily.
thanks for all the fab advice and suggestions i appreciate it heaps
so i had a very long chat with dad and im going for a drug free vaginal birth. Very full on for the first baby but i figure god invented me to do this so i'll do it for my baby i will have the drug option if completley necessary in the birth plan but im gonna try and fight it out after all tiger has fought to hold on so ill fight for tiger
thanks gals
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Sounds as if you have arrived at a great conclusion
I was going to post that if you have a low pain threshold then stick with natural labour plans. I have heard that having a c-section is actually very painful in the recovery period. So even though my threshold got "lower" with each of my 3 births I knew that dealing with the pain for one day was waaaay preferable than dealing with it for weeks afterwards. Bit like ripping off a band-aid; would you do it fast and get it over and done with or drag it out sloooowly? though, at the end of the day do what is right at the time. I recommend drafting up a birth plan... I found the hopsital staff took them more seriously with each one (I had a 12 year spacing with my births). Write down what you would ideally like to happen... but factor in the unexpected. And like Trillian suggested, maybe enlist the help of a doula. I had one for my third birth. She can be the best pain relief you could ever find! Don't underestimate the power of a calming voice and a trustworthyy, constant presence (mid wives are nortoriously busy and you could be dismayed at how much you are left to your own devices). BellyBelly has some amazingly helpful articles about doulas and the role of your partner at birth.... don't forget to check them out
You go girl I'm aiming for the same this time round. i have an extremley low pain tolerance- I've been known to pass out from the pain of banging my finger with a hammer - and the first time round I had gas and a pethidine shot. In hindsight, they didn't help at all- only restricted my body from doing what it should have been (cause the peth just made me soooo stoned, it was ridiculous). I think it was more panic than pain that made me ask for them.
Good idea Lori I agree, I did that too the first time around (asked for peth and gas) and yes: it only made it worse. By the time I had my third I resolved to try to avoid all that and I found that my body compensated naturally by actually giving me far superior natural "relief" in the form of longish periods of pain "lull". Just before transition I found that my body actaully gave me a break... it was weird... I felt tired but the pain really subsided and gave me a good half hours break just before it came time to push. I suspect that taking all that "pain relief" in my first two labours interfered with this process. Let me tell you it was very surprising, and very welcome!
I tend to agree with most of the posts here, and i was secretly pleased to see you have your mind set on vaginal birth. Good for you.
Pain tolerance has little to do with it, it's all about your labour. For me i think the great thing about the vaginal delivery (for me) was that once it was over, the pain was all gone. Even the stitches weren't that bad. I would definitely do it that way again if i can, so that means it can't be all that bad, aye!
Yep, it's painful, but as the other's said, it's constructive pain. And you can always just squeeze DH's hand a little bit tighter !!
Good luck, I hope you have the birth experience that you dream of.
thanks guys
finally getting passed one of the big decisions left me feeling empowered today.
I got alot accomplished and I feel fab
starting to collect all my info I'm so early and so excited ahahahahah.
thanks again for all your amazing advice BB really is the best for answering all the questions that you need a mothers answer for
). Seeing as your dad does have a special interest in your pain levels I would very stongly recommend that you see a different Ob because I would be concerned that he would be too emotionally involved to make the best clinical judgement.
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i will have the drug option if completley necessary in the birth plan but im gonna try and fight it out after all tiger has fought to hold on so ill fight for tiger 
- and the first time round I had gas and a pethidine shot. In hindsight, they didn't help at all- only restricted my body from doing what it should have been (cause the peth just made me soooo stoned, it was ridiculous). I think it was more panic than pain that made me ask for them.
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