Hi Seekinghelp - it's so nice to see a male on here trying to help his partner - Good on you! I had massive mood swings with both pregnancies - sorry to tell you. I think they are fairly common. I would be happy one minute then DH would do or say something and I would explode (then think "why did I just do that"). All I can say is just ride with it and don't take things she says personally (we usually don't mean what we say LOL!!!). Be supportive and it doesn't last the whole pregnancy. For me it was in the early stages and the final stages (when we are just over it!).
I remember absolutely losing is with (ex)DP when i was pregnant cause it was a gorgeous day and he said he'd take me out for dinner. When i discovered nothing fit y fat belly i started yelling at him to go out for dinner on his own cause i wasn't coming.
Honestly, the hormones make you crazy. I knew i was being irrational but couldnt help myself either.
Sadly, i was like this the entire pregnancy. I hope you don't get too scared by that!
Good luck with it all
I haven't been too bad. A few times I've just let it go and then when I've gone and said sorry after, DH just says it's ok I know it's pregnant brain...lol. I would suggest though that saying that to some people might invoke it again, with me it was ok cos I blame everything on it myself. I hope this gets better for you really soon and good on you for seeking information to help both yourself and your partner
You are such a lovely partner SeekingHelp! It's lovely that you are so caring and supportive of your partner.
Like the other girls said, pregnancy hormones sure do play havoc on our moods! But I am aware of part of your partners history (from another thread you posted) and would just like to point out that *some* of the mood swings may be related to that - especially if she has begun a maintenance or withdrawal program. If you are at all concerned about it, it is a good idea to discuss it with your caregiver on the off chance it is a little more than the pregnancy hormones.
Good on you for being such a loving and caring partner and keep up the good work.
Seekinghelp - I think my husband could relate to you on that one! And I hate it when he asks me what I'm upset about - can't he read my mind??? Unfortunatly there is no real way to deal with mood swings regardless of the cause. All you can do is be patient and try not to take it personally - even when it seems very personal. You partner can learn ways to deal with her moods and emotions but if it is something she is going to hold against you if you bring it up, it might be something she can tackle in counselling if she is receiving it as part of her program (I am only assuming you were able to get into one?). Hang in there, you are doing a fantastic job. It's never easy dealing with a women in either of the circumstances you are and your partner are facing - let alone when the two get combined. Keep up the good work.
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yes she did get into a programme been 1 month now but unfortunatly she fell off programme and had a drink which is another of many addicitions she has
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Unfortunatly there is no real way to deal with mood swings regardless of the cause. All you can do is be patient and try not to take it personally - even when it seems very personal. You partner can learn ways to deal with her moods and emotions but if it is something she is going to hold against you if you bring it up, it might be something she can tackle in counselling if she is receiving it as part of her program (I am only assuming you were able to get into one?). Hang in there, you are doing a fantastic job. It's never easy dealing with a women in either of the circumstances you are and your partner are facing - let alone when the two get combined. Keep up the good work.
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