Here's the thing, about 6-7mths ago i was in the same situation, got pregnant with him and he went nuts, we were together at the time and he said he didn't want a baby with me, he kept saying his family wouldn't approve since i had kids. etc.... That one was a girl, i was attached to her, but i had to let her go as i was just starting work perm. A really crap situation, which is now i guess worse.

I know how stupid this makes me, thing is, at the time he'd say he didn't care if i'd fall pregnant, i guess he was hoping it wouldn't work, which is really stupid and selfish of him. He also treated me bad that day and after it, refused to help me and after we got home he left me. I was in agony and wks later he said he left that day cos he couldn't put up with me winging.

So i know, that the chances of him being of any help is not existent. Plus he'll be married to his virgin as planned by family. If they knew about it, it would cause him hell which would give me hell as he'd go nuts at me.

So if i keep it, it's me and kids only. No help from him in any way. I know that i couldn't have done it on my own with the last two, i was very young too, but it was very hard and my ex was great help. So on my own i really can't see it working. I'd need a nanny that lived with us.

Am i looking for excuses to abort? Do i sound like i want to keep it?