! Overweight and Pregnant

[samantha-jane]

Catherine you are a most helpful thankyou xx

Ash love to have you aboard ! day one down for me and only one small sweet (choc chip muffin when mum came for a cuppa, I caved other then that I feel todays effort was 8/10

[samantha-jane]

Day two very impressed I didn't pigout before bed last night, hope everyone has a lovely day

[Hahamama]

Samantha-Jane, you should stop beating yourself up so much! It is great that you want to make changes to make your lifestyle healthier, but as Catherine said, you can't diet when you're pregnant (and I know that you're not trying to) but you shouldn't be so hard on yourself every time you eat a muffin! You are pregnant, after all! Keeping treats to a minimum is good, but in my experience, trying to restrict yourself too much is a recipe for failure.

Catherine I also agree with you that BMI can be a very misleading measure of a person's health. Someone who has a "healthy" BMI can be constantly sick, I have friends like this!

My own weight hovers around 70-72kg usually, and it often makes me unhappy. When I was younger I was more around 63kg, but I think now that I'm older (and have had a baby) it's not realistic anymore. My BMI is around 24 I think, so I guess technically I'm not overweight, but I really want to eat more healthily than I do! I put on almost 25kg with my first pregnancy, I looked so awful. I want to try to keep my weight gain to a minimum this time.

The one upside to my constant nausea is that I'm totally off sweet things! Even over Easter I barely ate any chocolate, I just have no desire for it! That was part of the problem with my first pregnancy, I was a chocolate fiend! Ha ha, gotta look for the silver lining!

[samantha-jane]

Thanks for the support
Its not just about pregnancy though its about being comfy in clothes (being able to find clothes that look ok and fit well) everyday if I need to go out its a sad moment when I go through 'Cant Find Anything To Wear" and thats not being picky is simple way to much stomach fat I dont feel nice about myself, before my son I was within normal weight range or a little below so its a shock now Im the one in the fat clothes (sorry if that offends some) but I hate looking like this and its not healthy.

I wont be crazy with diet while pregnant but I have to try not to gain too much. I have been told if I get up over the 100kg mark my local hospital wont accept me I'll have to travel an extra 40 minutes to a hospital who caters to overweight pregnant women. (cant be 100% sure about this info I will confirm when I see my Doctor again)



I really appreicate the support I do worry alot about weight and I guess its the focus in my life and I WANT it to stop being the focus

Samantha-Jane, you should stop beating yourself up so much! It is great that you want to make changes to make your lifestyle healthier, but as Catherine said, you can't diet when you're pregnant (and I know that you're not trying to) but you shouldn't be so hard on yourself every time you eat a muffin! You are pregnant, after all! Keeping treats to a minimum is good, but in my experience, trying to restrict yourself too much is a recipe for failure.

Catherine I also agree with you that BMI can be a very misleading measure of a person's health. Someone who has a "healthy" BMI can be constantly sick, I have friends like this!

My own weight hovers around 70-72kg usually, and it often makes me unhappy. When I was younger I was more around 63kg, but I think now that I'm older (and have had a baby) it's not realistic anymore. My BMI is around 24 I think, so I guess technically I'm not overweight, but I really want to eat more healthily than I do! I put on almost 25kg with my first pregnancy, I looked so awful. I want to try to keep my weight gain to a minimum this time.

The one upside to my constant nausea is that I'm totally off sweet things! Even over Easter I barely ate any chocolate, I just have no desire for it! That was part of the problem with my first pregnancy, I was a chocolate fiend! Ha ha, gotta look for the silver lining!

[Hahamama]

Aww hun sorry to hear you're feeling unhappy.

It's a good idea to not put on too much while you're pregnant, that's what I'm trying to do, too. It's pretty hard though! It's a bit rough that your hospital won't accept you if you're over 100kg. I mean, you're pregnant, it seems a bit unfair!

[Catherine]

S-J, it is interesting what you say about fat clothes and offence...

My midwife chastised me when I referred to myself as Fat (I said it in an accepting, matter-of-fact tone, I wasn't down on myself), and she said "we don't use the F word here!".

So it is plus-sized, larger, curvy, volumptous...whatever...I am comfortable with fat! 'cause that is what it is, biologically!

I focus on my overall health rather than how I look. Since having kids I have found it easier to accept me as me, and not give two hoots how I might appear to others. This does lead to shock when I see me in photos...I think really? That isn't what I see in the mirror! Having kids has made me LOVE my body. I can MAKE people! I can nurture them and care for them, all with this body...I am cuddly! Nurturing, and HEALTHY!

Yes, I am 'at risk', yes I am putting stress on my bones (apparently)...but I am healthy. I choose to live in this moment. I wasted my 20s focused on 'when I lose weight', or 'when I have a baby"..now I try to live in the day.

In 2002 (pre-kids) I had alot of success with 'easyslim'. this has since be absorbed by another weightloss company (can't remember which). It involved a weekly meeting/weigh in, which talked about different foods and exersise, had success stories for inspiration. The diet part involved 'units', you had to eat a minimum of 15 units a day, divided into veg, meat/alternative, fruit, grains...and then depending on your weight, extra units. So my minimum a day when I started was 17. You could 'earn' units through exersise, so if you had an event where you knew your food would go over the units, you could cancel them out. If you did exersise but stuck to your minimum units: bigger loss! It was very much about energy in versus energy out, eating a variety of healthy (but interesting foods) that you prepared yourself (they had menu and recipe guides).

Interesting for me, though, I found my best successes were when I was away on field work (I was a marine biologist back then), and food was restricted alot more and meals were social. At home I was much less careful, often ate alone, and would eat much bigger portions than I needed.

Having kids helps with the social thing: they are watching! They are learning from me.

Eat conciously - definately, but denying the 'treats' leads into greater temptation!

Being pregnant it is very important to be active. Walking is the best, cheapest way to do it. It is great for your mental health to.

When you have kids it is often hard to find time to walk properly. I found that before my eldest was two I could march around town, her in the pram and away we go! I even had a bike with a trailer, and would ride that around even when I was pregnant with number 2. But after number 2, it got harder. My DD wanted to walk, so walking became a stop and smell the roses exploration (which was great, but didn't get my heart rate up).

I liked it when we would all walk as a family, so dad could carry DD (shoulder ride), and I had DS in the carrier.

If it works, you can walk alone (or with a friend) early in the morning or later evening?
I used a wii fit until the batteries ran out on the board...really shoudl replace them, as that or exersise videos can be a good way of getting active. We borrow binde fittness, so DD and I could move together.

Being Active is not necessarily about weightloss as the aim, but rather fittness. Stamina.

I'd be interested to hear everyone elses ideas for being active: the more ideas the better!

xoxo

[samantha-jane]

You guys are wonderful

I'll try to be a little easier on myself there are many factors to my weight gain (other health problems which I wont go into) its just hard to adjust after years of always being the skinny one .

My aim right now is to eat healthy and hopefully I wont gain too much during this pregnancy

[4cheekyboys]

I forgot about this part of the forum!

i have hyperemesis so i've lost 5kgs. I'm not sure when it will end so not sure if i'll end up losing anymore or not. I'm just eating lots of soup since it agrees with me ok. and drinking lots of water so i don't get dehydrated. the good thing is that i am soooo off sweets. my mum bought me some m&ms today and i can't eat them. wish i could!

[4cheekyboys]

hi girls! I'm just newly pregnant. and overweight. blah. i didn't want to get pregnant at this weight but i came to the conclusion that i'd never have another baby if i kept waiting to lose weight because it just wasn't happening as fast as i wanted and i'm not getting any younger. lol I am hoping that ms will help me lose a little and that all i've heard about overweight women not gaining much during pregnancy is true! I gained 26kgs last pregnancy and most of it is still on me unfortunately. I was 90kg when i delivered him and i'm currently 85kgs(i'm only 5'3 BMI is 33.2). I've gained 2kgs in the last couple of weeks. not happy with that!! My ms has not kicked in yet. I am hoping to maintain my weight more then anything. At least until the last trimester.

[Catherine]

hi S-J
saw the midwife last week: I am a "mallee bull"...so fit and healthy, all good! Weighed muself at mums, still stable.

I am now 24 weeks. Due mid september. Getting lots of kicks, which is nice


and forgive me if this is TMI (but I bet we've all been there!) I have a cough at the moment (I feel fine, but when I lay down, I cough cough cough)...and I have to wear a maternity pad: to catch the escapee wee! This is my third pregnancy, and I have been feeling the loosening ligament thing for a while...so I suspect it has alot to do with that! I am soooo glamarous!

I hope you are all doing well.


xoxoxoxoxoxo

[samantha-jane]

Hey Ladies !
I'm sorry I haven't replied for so long my MS has been awful I hope you're all doing well I hope to post again when I'm feeling better
xx
Samantha

[trishalishous]

Its so hard starting out overweight and trying not to gain in pregnancy! Im 33 weeks now, and have gained 4.7kg (but bubs/placenta and fluid is estimated at 6kg at this stage) so technically have lost weight hehe!
Ive just tried to stay active, but have had reflux so can only eat small meals, which I think helps

[samantha-jane]

How's everyone ?

MS dropped for a while but now back a little. Im up to 94kg (Im 5"7) so I've gained 4kgs but I do think that's normal at 4 months pregnant (1kg per month does that sound right ? ) Anyway I'm trying not to stress.


Catherine I know the feeling ! I've had weak pelvic floor muscles since the birth of my first son, it's a little embrassing but I hear so many other women suffer too so its makes me feel better
Not long now until bub arrives are you organised ?

Trishalishous
I hope you don't get any MS its just dreadful, I hope you manage to lose weight its awful feeling so big isn't it.......... I was 85kg full term with my son and within a few months got back down to 72kgs which I was happy with, lack of sleep and bad eating habbits all contribute to my weight
Im sure we'll get there eventually !


I hope everyone is well
xxx