feel like poo
want to hurl most of the day
i have reduced one of my medications so my skin is on fire
can't do a heap of things
can't eat a heap of things
scared to go to the loo because of spotting
need to wee constantly
other people are excited so you have to pretend to be
and i've got getting fat and stretchmarks to look forward to.
They start early, these kids of ours - the torture of being a parent begins at conception!! I feel for you hun, I had easy, complication-free pregnancies but heck no I'm not going to have any more, purely because I hated feeling like you are right now!
It will get a lot easier as your pregnancy progresses, and then it'll get worse as you approach the day you give birth... but, when you're meeting your gorgeous baby, all the morning sickness, the cramps, the worry that something's going wrong, the restrictions on food and activities that you enjoy, and everything else... will all be so worth it. These few months just fly by before you know it (although, while you're doing it, it feels like it's dragging on forever, but once it's over you feel like you were only pregnant for half an hour!), try to relax and enjoy it
Just wanted to offer you some sympathy, I know heaps of women relish every second of their pregnancies but I'm with you - at times it *is* overrated, uncomfortable and downright inconvenient. You're not alone! *hugs*
Hang in there Kate it will be worth it in the end! I had an aweful start to this pg I remember the feeling of everyone else being excited and felt soooo sick that I just wasn't and the faking it. I luckily have picked up and am much better now and I actually can be excited with everyone else.
Its not nice to be soo sick with MS its aweful really. Yes our bodies go through a lot of crap and will never be the same again (sometimes we get better).
While its hard to think like this when you are feeling so darn lousy, just be grateful for the experience - yes I am a psycho by saying that, but every moment of pregnancy is something to be embraced, the good, the bad and the disturbing.
Every trimester brings its own set of symptoms but it won't last forever and before you know it, it will all be over adn the next phase begins.
Again - I am sorry your feeling so crappy but I promise it won't last.
As for the getting fat part - not everyone gets fat hun. While I have put on 8 extra kilos so far I am ALL baby, yes I have stretchies but you cannot go through a transformation like this and be untouched. They do fade with time though - I promise that also.
If you are not excited don't pretend to be for the sake of others - just be yourself. Your feeling aweful so why would you pretend otherwise. People will understand
All I can say is 'hearing you loud and clear on the mega phone' BUT....focus on the 'prize' you get at the end of the journey. Your precious bundle will make every bit of pain and suffering worth while. I'm CERTAIN of that.
Hang in there, think positive (but feel free to have a moan - I sure have!) and try to enjoy the ride
I so, so, so could have written this post when I was pregnant. I was really miserable when I was pregnant, especially the first....ooooh, 6 months or so. It is seriously hard, and impossible to understand that it might be worth it in the end when you have never experienced the awesome love you will have for your bubs when you eventually meet them. I thought I might smack the next person who told me "it will be worth it in the end"....I thought that would be absolutely impossible given how completely and disgustingly horrible I felt. But, amazingly, they were right.
Just get through each day as best you can. It really can be very hard. Be nice to yourself.
One of the best things someone told me when I was so unwell and miserable was that you might go through all this difficult stuff, but as soon as that baby is out, your body really does start to heal. I was so scared I would never be well again, that I had done some permanent damage to my body and I would never feel like my 'old self' (at least physically) again. But you really do heal. Of course you have to get over the birth stuff, but eventually you do feel physically 'normal' again. This shall pass!!
Yep, and sometime within the first 4 weeks of bringng bubs home you're gunna say the samething about motherhood
BUT, at sometime not long after that, you will realise why we do it.
Big Hugs xxxx
**high five** to that.....and you don't have a toddler to run after LOL.
I had a friend with a couple kids once say, "what I love most is being pregnant"....I was like WTF!!he,he.
I hope you feel better soon. I'm over half way & didn't think I could feel worse than the last time but hey, what do you know! I'm still throwing up & am eating the same boring stuff every day. Oh & it's only August but already 30+ here & I want to be drinking big cans of UDL with lots of ice LOL!
but YES in the end it's all worth it, even though things will never be the same again. And each day brings a new challenge its a good one filled with lots of joy.
Hey Kate, I hope things improve for you soon (by beginning of 2nd tri hopefully!). I am sure the end result will all be worth it. But I understand having to deal with other's expectations of how you should be feeling about being pregnant. You can feel whatever you need to feel. It is your pg and your experience.
xx
Kate - IKWYM hun. The constant need to wee gets to me too! It's very frustrating when I am out somewhere. Don't worry about getting stretchmarks - they fade.
Don't pretend to be happy if you're not darl. Ask those 'excited' people to help you out and take your mind off your ms for a while by talking about non-pg things!
This pregnancy gig is overrated.
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