Reasons for not finding out the sex at the 20 week ultrasound

[teepee2]

The birth of your baby is always going to be such a special time but the suspense leading up to it and then the excitement and surprise when the baby is born is just priceless - well it was for us anyway. We've had 3 and didnt find out the sex for any of them. It was very tempting especially with the 2nd two but after experiencing the excitment of it all when our DD was born we decided not to find out with the others either.

This is one of the only true surprises in life!

[HotI]

One of my other reasons against finding out what it is, if its a girl then everyone will get us pink stuff, and I am not a huge fan of pink (don't really care for the stigma of blue for boys, and pink for girls) I like pretty much all the colours of the kids clothes.

This was one of my reasons too, we got given some really funky clothes in colours other than blue or pink because we didn't know sex. There is enough time later to attempt to avoid stereotypic colour and clothes choices, it was nice to not have everything the one colour.

With my DD, my partner completely did not want to know sex, and although i initially was tempted to find out, i didn't want to know if DH didn't. At the time of her birth, i was so pleased that i had waited because it was just awesome to check bub out and see what bits she had. Funnily, it wasn't the first thing we checked out cos we were just smitten checking out her face and fingers...

Having a surprise waiting at the end can also help you get through the last few weeks cos you can listen to everyone s theory on why they know what sex bub will be and daydream about what it will be like when bub arrives.

We have again decided not to find out sex this time. DH doesn't waiver from this decision, i do every now and again but not enough to do anything to find out.

It is different for partners, its often not until bub arrives that the baby becomes more real to them. Even for me, and i could feel bub kicking etc, it didn't feel real until bub was here.

[feeb]

I never wanted to know sex in either preg but DH said he did want to with DS1 in the end we got sonographer to write it down and seal in envelope but in the end I convinced him to wait and he did and was glad he did.

DS2 we also had written down but only so we could check after birth to see if they were correct or not as did that with DS1!

We had plenty of reds, greens, orange, yellow, brown, grey clothes and some were much cuter than pink and blue things!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[~me~]

I wanted to know the gender of all my kids and DH didn't. That's how we rolled for all our babies. I am very good at keeping a secret. So if you DH can keep it a secret, no reason he can't know and you not
I am not a fan of gender specific clothes or toys either.
After two boys, people assumed I would be pink mad. Quite the opposite, I love bright and vibrant colours on all my kids and not just DD, she plays with dinosaurs and cars and I have not purchased a single doll other than Jemima who was DS1's
Sometimes you wouldn't even know I have a girl in the house as we don't really have any gender specific toys, a few that people insisted on buying her for her first birthday just.
I am with feeb, so many great clothes on the market that non gender specific, I love it!

[beckoes]

fingers crossed he/she has thier legs tightly crossed so you cant find out anyway!!

we found out for both, With the first we didnt tell everyone, just family, with the second we didnt really mind, told friends and family who really wanted to know. i think if i got pregnant again i would find out again as if i have a boy i feel i will need time to adjust, but thats just me.

[leesha]

For me personally I don't understand why people find out the sex. I felt like it was one of the last surprises life would give me as an adult (as a child they happen all the time and I lurve surprises)
We had a boy first then a girl second. Now pregnant with our third this is still going to be a surprise, I have everything for both sexes anyway so no big deal!

Also you can make it a bit of fun by having bets on the sex and doing all the little wives tales to try and tell!!
It would be hard if both parties can't agree on what they want. Good luck with trying to convince him

[purplepixie1978]

My DH was adamant that we had to find out beforehand, even though I didn't want to... then he broke his ankle really badly when I was 11 weeks pg and was laid up for three months. During that time we went for the scan and I was all set to relent and let him find out so that he had something to make him happy. When I offered, he said, "No, I'll wait. If there's one thing this injury has taught me, it's patience." The moment he found out what we had was magic.

I loved the moment I found out too - DH and the ob handed DD to me and she kicked the umbilical cord out of the way and I could see - "A girl!" I exclaimed.

I hope you get your wish. I'd be pushing for the gender in a sealed envelope trick. Then hide it. Or lose it or put a scratch lotto ticket in an identical envelope... sorry. Being evil.

[Early Kids]

We didn't find out for either of ours, was nice to ask what the sex was

[sconeonamission]

One of the reasons we didn't find out was because we'll love it regardless. The family tree on dh's side has been only boys for generations, so to avoid gender disapointment (not that I had it but in case I did). If I'd had had gender disappointment and found out at the scan that it was another boy, I'd have the rest of the pregnancy to deal with it... If I found out at birth. BAM baby is there and I have instantly fallen in love with this newborn. I hope this makes sense.

[AMumma]

Hubby didnt want to know and neither did I to start with, I then went through a faze of wanting to know and now with 3 weeks left Im happy to wait.

I have it written in my birth plan that Hubby gets to tell me bubs gender.

[Cass72]

My DH would keep it a secret and that would drive me batty! I would spend the next 20 weeks trying to get the info out of him!

Either way you go it's a wonderful thing to finally meet your little person anyway.

I didn't know with DS1 and proudly announced to EVERYONE that I had son. DH and I found out with DS2 (our first together) and it didn't change the awe that I felt when I met our little man for the first. That being said, if our FET is a success next year (sorry! had to pop that in .... we're going to go for it in March next year!) I don't want to know.... which brings me back to my first comment: DH will drive me batty keeping it a secret!!