Scan dilemma

[Ozziehoffy]

I have seen women go ahead with pregnancy when there has been definitive diagnosis of abnormality. A large number of these women (though not all) felt glad tht they had pre warning - they kind of did some of their grieving for the baby they thought was coming before it came. So when the baby was born they could welcome her/him with the full knowledge of who she/he was. Do you follow?

Deb, that is pretty much along the lines of why I was going to do it...just in case and then I would have time to get my head around it and not be sprung with this HUGE surprise so to speak. My mum kinda had a go at me about it but she just doesn't understand. I was adopted, so she hasn't been pg and doesn't know the feelings and questions you get in your head. There isn't any history of it that I know of, although I haven't really stayed in contact with my birth mother, but she was around when I was pg with Joshua and would've mentioned it then anyway. This will probably be last baby so I'm guessing that I just wanted to make sure that all was perfect IYKWIM. To be honest I would feel upset if I didn't know and then my baby was born with D/S. Not to say that I wouldn't love them all the same, just would take away some of that bonding time whilst getting your head around something you were not expecting.

Is this something that does get picked up in the 18-20 wk scan as well?

Michelle, thanks for that offer I think that I do my own head in sometimes lol. Overthink, over analyse and just worry too much in general when there's probably nothing to be worried about at all. Right now, I think just hearing my baby's h/b would do me some wonders!! Must try to find a doc with a doppler I think.