does that mothering urge ever really go
I had my tubes clamped after number 2 and then went back and had them reversed to have another 2. I have now had them cut and removed but as much as my life is busy, sometimes hard and crazy that feeling deep down inside gnawes at me.
I suppose you have to know when enough is enough....what your limitations per child is and oinly you know what your capable off.
After 2 babies DH and I made a very sensible decision to stop at that and have no more. The pang at that point was impossible for me to deal with so we decided to go for one more. We got doubly the joy with that pregnancy but now I have 4 kids the pang has all but gone. I do feel a little sad when I see a lady with a gorgeous round belly, or if someone is starting labour I almost wish I could do it. But I do not want another pregnancy or baby so it makes those feelings so much easier to deal with.
For me, I am happy now with the decision to stop, it feels right and that is what stops me feeling sad.
I still feel the pang but less now that i realise how hard it would be with 4! i think part of it for me is accepting that the child bearing part of my life is over and I am getting older IYKWIM?
I'm glad I'm not the only one! I keep telling everyone I'm happy as it is, & no more, but I've always said I'm still young & maybe in 5 or 10 years.
I'm too scared to get DH to get the snip, or me to get my tubes done, coz I don't wanna take that chance away.
I keep actually telling myself that this is enough. Bring on the nieces & nephews!!
Jase decided for us 2 is enough I know its enough but even now as luke grows I get a pang of never being pg never TTC again he wanted to get the snip I am like no way... so its good old condoms for us
We are done - Dh is 'done' LOL. I feel those pangs all the time - when I hear of someone I know being pg I feel a tiny bit jealous that it's not me, and I looooove having a newborn but I think now I love the idea of it rather than the reality. We are at the point in our lives where the kids are getting older, and pretty soon we will be completely out of the baby stage of our lives and we are looking forward to moving onto the next stage - I'm starting Uni next year and we're getting involved in things with the kids. But I think I will always pine away for another one.
yeah DH is 100% against another one. it just must be a mummy thing to alway have a little part of yourself wanting another. a lot of it is wondering about the potential little life.. like what would it look like, personality be, gender, how would the siblings enjoy it etc.. but yeah that kinda sucks that it isprobably gonna be something that will stay for a very long time, even after the decision is made fo no more.
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