I find it strange that people would say anything to you. What's it got to do with others anyway. I don't think it would matter where you are in life or what age you are, some people will always have something stupid to say. For example I got engaged at 29. married at 31 and had our baby at 33 and people STILL said things like "oh wait until you have a baby you're still so young" wtf? what am I meant to be waiting for? Life is good we are actually ready for a baby, what they hell are they on about lol Do whatever is right for you and ignore any looks or stupid comments.
yes im 27 now but still look young. me and DH were married at 19 and i was 21 and pregnant. you should have seen people's faces when i had DS and was pregnant with DD at 22, people would give DH nasty looks! it was also funny to see people counting backwards in their heads trying to work out if it was shotgun wedding or not, trying to work out DS's age with when we got married! Lol.
i say who cares, and if anyone dares make a comment to you, make them regret it, it's none if their business!!
I'm 24 but look about 19, I get looks from time to time but you just learn to ignore them. I think more often than not people are simply curious not judging. My mum told me when I was a baby she was walking around the supermarket with me in the pram and some old lady came up for a stickybeak and shook her head and said 'how sad, you're so young' then walked off. Mum had me at 33!!
Im 23 and pass for about 18 these days, looked around 17 when I was pregnant with DS. I only had the occasional person look at me funny, probably because I never got very big, and they were probably thinking 'i wonder if she's fat or pregnant!'. And then when I finally got a belly, the majority of people were very polite.
It never really bothered me, I think, that how you feel about your pregnancy will reflect in the way you look, and therefore how people will receive you. If you walk around feeling self conscious, people will see that and start to think. But if you walk around, without doubt, let your happiness show, people will feel that vibe!! And if they still have the nerve to give you a look... look them right in the eye untill they get the message, dare them to say something.... 9 times out of 10, they will walk away feeling ashamed of themselves!
I turned 19 only 31 days before DD was born. I got a few looks, but DP and I always hold hands whenever we're out and we'd be walking along and he'd rub my belly. He was so proud of our little fighter (he turned 24 two months before DD was born).
I got a few comments about how young I was and a few strange looks. But I never cared. I was sooo excited when i got pregnant (although DP and I had only been together 2 months, whoops!!) and I couldn't wait to tell everyone. DP was happy, but not over the moon until my 12 week scan and it became real for him.
I get a few comments when I carry DD around (She's still under 5kg, so we tend to carry her instead of using the pram if we're doing grocery shopping or something).
"Is she yours" I've got a few times.
If you're emotionally ready for a bub, don't let anyone place doubt in your mind.
i am 31 (look like i am 22) and when i was pg with DS the looks and stares i got was amazing! so many disapproving looks from people it wasnt funny. the funniest thing is i live and shop in an area that has a high teen pregnancy rate and yet here i am in my 30's and married and I was the one that had all the bad looks!
just ignore them and dont worry too much. just think of how great you will look in 20 years time compared to some people out there
Bugger 'em! You are 28 years old so you are not too young to have a baby, even if you do look 'good for your age.' ha ha. Honestly, I think you and your DH are at a great stage of life to have a baby. And if anyone queries your age, just tell tem you are 28 or 29 (whatever the case may be) and you're just lucky to be genetically blessed with good collagen!
If I were you I wouldn't care what people think, and 22 isn't too young to have kids anyway. Having a baby is up to the individual and everybody is ready at different times. If you were to get weird looks or any comments just tell people to mind their own business or glare at them right back! I was 19 when I got married, 23 when I had my daughter and that was after trying for two years and going through a fertility clinic. I once got a comment from a woman I knew who was a good 15 years older than me and has no kids - this is when I announced to my friends that I was pregnant - she said 'Gee you're a bit young aren't you?!' my reply - 'I don't think so, maybe you're a bit old!' THAT shut her up. Haha
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it was also funny to see people counting backwards in their heads trying to work out if it was shotgun wedding or not, trying to work out DS's age with when we got married! Lol.
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