Just want to send you hugs Anila, sorry you have to go through this.
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Just want to send you hugs Anila, sorry you have to go through this.
Hun, I think you should call in some help, you dont have to be great company, you just need someone there to help, and allow you time to grieve. Take Mel up on her offer hun, you do not need to do this alone :comfort:
Thankyou every one, my cousin insisted on comming over, she is 8 weeks pregnant and has just moved her from sa, she has been having some spotting also, although her bub has a heart beat, we were able to just chat about stuff and complain about our men, lol.
So i have had dry eyes for a few hours now, they are still puffy and i must look like a mess, but it was good to have company, better than what i was thinking it would be, i didnt even care that my house looked like it was trashed.
She made the suggestion that maybe i am loosing a twin?
But i dont think so, the hcg numbers were quite low, but even though when i wipe it looks like a period, it still has not filled a pad, which i am very suprised about.
I am hoping hubby will stay home tomorrow and i can change my ultra sound date to tomorrow.
I am just so tired now.
:hug:
I am so glad you had some company for a while. It really does help.
I am not a strong person and i havent coped and i still am not coping. Each day is a little bit easier but it only takes 1 little thing to set me off.
I hope DH stays home for you and you are able to spend the time together.
Please be kind to yourself - this is not your fault.
I have been through this and i still dont know what to say - i dont know what the right words are......
You are constantly in my thoughts !!
Take care
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxoooooo
Hi Lisa,
Your cousin did the right thing on insisting on coming over. Sometimes we need people to be there even when we say no. Make sure you take something if the cramping gets bad and try and get an early night, your body will be exhauseted from being so upset.
I hope you start to feel better over the next few days. We are all here for you if you need us.
Love Bec
xx
Oh Lisa :hug:
I am glad you have someone with you to help you through this even if it is just to off load ... we all need that.
I am still holding on to hope for you but I know how hard it is for you.
Wanna reach through the computer and give you a hug,
Nae x
Hugs sweets. You are in my prayers
Thank you Nae, im glad that u are still holding hope for me, but if im honest, i dont feel it, i dont feel the conection with this baby, i never felt it.
Last night while i cried myself to sleep, i rubbed my tummy and told bub, that it was ok, that although i loved him very much, it was ok to leave.
Part of me wants to say stay, dont give up just stay with me, but that would mean me being selfish, and thats not who i am, i understand why bub has to go, and i do know it was nothing that i did, although i question everything i did.
I really want to have my scan and see a bub with a heart beating so strong, but i really dont fell like that will happen, i am trying to accept it now as a loss, and if there is anything on that scan then it will be a blessing.
Hubby still refuses to take tomorrow off work, says we need the money.
He also said he was very hurt and sad by me saying that i hated him this morning, and i understand how he must feel, i dont hate him, i love him dearly.
He says he does care and i believe him.
But i need him, i need to just sit with him, hold his hand have his arm wraped around me.
I cant walk to pick up the kids from school as the longer i stand, the more gravity lets go, iykwim.
I felt calm after my cousin left, as i suppose i tried not to cry and take my mind off it, and mum came around tonight just to see how i was going.
I keep going to tear up now, but some thing stops me, maybe i have run out of tears....
oh hunny i love ya and im sorry you have to go through this...im glad that you had your family there for support.....its sad that dan cant have time off work to be there for you too
Big Hugs
Lisa, I'm so glad your cousin came over, even if to only be a shoulder to cry on and someone to talk to. Again, I am so very sorry you are going through this :hug:, and I'm with Nae, I am holding onto even a tiny bit of hope that your bub is OK. I'm sending you as much strength and love I can muster, big hugs sweetie, thinking of you.
Please stick little one :pray::pray::pray:
Beata xxooxxoo
thinking of you at this hard time....it was really good of your cousin to come over and give you support and im glad that you have BB so you can vent and get it off you chest sending you lots of :hug:s and :comfort: take care xoxoxox
:hug: Sending you lots of love and comfort Lisa :hug:
Take good care of yourself hun, I wish there was more one could do for you to help you through this. Just know my heart is breaking for you and I am thinking of you.
Love Nae x
oh hun i wish i could jump on teh enxt plane and be there for you...
just remember im only a txt away and even though i dont know what to say im here to listen
so im staring at the blank page not knowing what to say, the support here has been so touching, i dont know if i can say thank you enough.
Hubby is home today, he called his boss this morning, after hearing me cry myself to sleep last night from the pain.
I have moved my ultra sound from monday to 11.30 am today.
I know what it is going to say, and even though i thought im ready to hear it, im not.
so i will up date everyone after lunch.
Hi Lisa,
Im glad Dan is staying home today, as the others have said - he was just dealing with it in his own way. Im glad he is there for you today though, especially at your scan. Can your mum or cousin come over to watch the kids when you go for your scan?
Take care of yourself and dont hold back on your emotions.
Love Bec
xx
Anila :hug: this is just such an aweful and painful experience that I wish you never had to go through. Cry as much as you feel you need to, I :pray: the ultrasound shows some good news for you and your family. Will be thinking of you at 11.30 today. :hug:
:comfort:
Still hoping for the best for you sweetheart!
Glad to hear your hubby is there with you today too.
Sending you :strength: and love
xxx
*double*
babe im sorry you have to go through this...........im glad dan is there with you today
Anila - I have only just come on to see how everything is going. I have noticed that you should be having your u/s right about now. I am praying for some good news for you, and even if it isnt know that we are all here holding your hand and helping you thru this difficult time. hugs
Anila, words cannot express what i want to say...am really glad that DH stayed home with you...will be keeping an eye on this thread after lunch...take care and sending you lots of :hug:'s
Am praying :pray: for a strong heartbeat and sending the strongest sticky vibes I can to you. :stickyvibesgirl::stickyvibesboy:
Once again thankyou for all your kind words and support, it has ment so much to me.
My baby has gone to heaven.
The ultra sound showed that it was a complete miscarriage, i do believe that it was my baby that i felt leave us on tueday night, i also passed the rest in the waiting room today, although i am saddened by this, i think in my heart, i knew and have had time to grieve.
My husband who is usually a very strong man, cried, i have only ever seen him cry twice, once when grace was born, and again at our wedding.
He is very saddened by this news.
He ask if he may buy some candles to light with the children tonight, and i said that sound very lovely.
I am very sorry for the loss of your precious little baby. I'm so glad that your husband was able to be by your side today. Please take care of each other.
Oh Anila, I am so so sorry for you hunny :hug::hug::hug:
I am so glad that Dan is with you today, and the candles sound like a beautiful idea.
Much love and light to you and your family.
x
:hug:
I'm so sorry to hear this Lisa. You and your sweet little angel are in my thoughts. :comfort:
Oh Anila, I am so sorry that your little one has flown heavenward. I will light a candle now for you and your family as you say good bye together. I think your DH's idea is beautiful.
:hug:
Oh huni,
I am so saddened by your post. and I literally said "awwwwww" out loud reading what your Dh said about the candles.
I will light a candle for your little one tonight when I get home.
Big hugs
Nae x x
i cant say sorry enough :(
but i am so touched by dans idea and emotions
ill always be here for you
Oh honey :comfort:
I'm all teary now because of your DH's idea - he is a beautiful sensitive man!!!!
Please take care of yourself.
xxxx
oh i am so sorry to hear of your loss...your husbands idea is absolutly beautiful....
may your angel fly free and whatch over you family xoxox
Lisa,
I am so sorry you have had to experience such a terrible happening.
My thoughts are with you.
Bec
xx
Sweetie, So sorry you are going through this. :hug: and finally your DH is with you in the grieving. May you find the love and healing you need tonight with your family.
I am so sorry for your loss. :hug:
Fly high and free little Angel !
Your DH is gorgeous - what a lovely thing to suggest.
I too will light a candle.
My thoughts are with you !
xxxxxoooooo
hunny that was a lovely idea with the candles...i hope that you are feeling better soon,it was nice that you got to say goodbye
So sorry for your loss Lisa :comfort:
Wishing you all health and healing
:hug:
sweetheart, i cried when i got your text today. Middle of k-mart and i just couldnt hold it. I am so devastated for you, D and your gorgeous kids.... :heartbeat:
Keep an eye out for the mail man o.k :hug:
My phone is on 24/7 for you babe, as it has been and always is!
Love you to the moon & back and twice around the stars... :hug:
Thank you everyone.
We just had our special little ceremony, the kids all wrote a note or drew a picture to baby, and read them out, then dan and i said our words of love, dan had bought 3 candles, 1 for me to light and 1 for him and grace and 1 for him and hunter.
We lite the candles and sat for a while, i think as i already knew what had happened i have already done my grieveing, but dan is taking this very hard, i have never seen him cry so much, so in a way i, glad that i have grieved, so i can help him.
Grace who is 7 is taking it very hard also, she has cried all after noon.
she made lots of little circles and drew love hearts on them and placed them in a box, when she feels sad or thinks about the baby, she will put a heart into a bag.
a little later i will type the letter and poem that grace has written, it is very beautiful and i would love to share it with u all, i have asked grace and she said it was ok.
what a beautiful family you have.... was almost in tears reading your last post....
:hug: I am so sorry that this has happened. Nothing I can say will make the pain any easier, but know that you have support and love from all of us here.
Sounds like a beautiful ceremony you had and a great way for the kids to say goodbye because it must be hard on them as well. What a lovely way to remember your precious little angel.
Be gentle with yourself :hug: :hug: :hug: