With DS I had a scan at 18 weeks & another at 32 weeks. I would have been happy with just the 18 week scan, but the 32 week one was due to an suspected amniotic fluid issue.
With DD I had scans at 7 weeks, 19 weeks, 28 weeks & 37 weeks. The first was because she was an IVF baby & it is part of my clinic's protocol to make sure bub is in the right place. The 28 & 37 week scans were because the midwives thought she was small & the doctors thought she was big (conflict there? LOL) but she was sot on for dates at both. I don't think either of those were necessary at all & given the choice I wouldn't have them again.
With my third pregnancy I had just the one scan at 9 weeks 5 days. I was measuring at 12 weeks and my dates were uncertain, so my doctor sent me for a scan to check for twins or if I was further ahead (which was a possibility because of my previous cycle). At the appointment I was going to ask him to send me for a scan if he didn't order one, because I had a dreadful feeling that something was wrong. Sadly I was right Put in the same situation I would absolutely have another scan to set my mind at ease or to find out bad news sooner rather than later.
For future pregnancies my doctor has recommended an early scan to make sure all is ok because of the miscarriage I had in January. I'm happy with that because I have bad anxiety until I feel movement which I supsect will be worse now given that we have lost a pregnancy.
i have had a scan at 9weeks, 12weeks, 19weeks, 31 weeks and am having another 1 on thursday (34weeks) the extras to check cos it hasnt been progress as they would like.
i have to say i like how often i hav gotten to see my lil boy it has helped me bond with bubs a LOT.
SO next time, i think i will b glad with only the normal 2 scans but i will definately have the scans. i dont think i could go the whole 9 months without peeking at my baby.
Absolutely YES from me too. With DS we had scans at 7w, 10w,12w, 19w, 34w and 36w(plus a few very quick scans in my Ob's rooms during my regular appointments up to around 24w.The 34 and 36w scans were to check fluid levels and his growth and it was detrmined at the 36w scan that he needed to be born asap via emergency c/s due to IUGR and no fluid at all. My placenta had failed so things needed to happen very fast. I'm so greatful to my Ob for insisting I had all the scans.
I would have just as many scans again if required.
With DD1 I had a scan at 17weeks5days and that was it.
With DD2 I had a scan at 8wks, 13wks, 17wks, 20wks and 32wks. We were told medication I was on for arthritis would have cause teretogenic effects hence the numerous scans. I was adviced to terminte but refused.
With my next pregnancy I'll be having a few extra scans due to my history of EP's. I'll be wanting to confirm its in the right place and then viable seeing as I have had way more pregnancies then babies. Again I would not terminate the pregnancy if something was discovered but I would want to be prepared (for a disabled child or a baby I wouldn't be bringing home) I'll be saying yes to all the scans on offer. Its not about a bonding thing for me either bonding for me if from the movements, preparring etc. I didn't get any bonding assistance from my scans but thats probably as I wasn't able to see them until it was finished when I was shown the heart beat etc. It was very medical not personal at all.
With DD2 I had bleeding early on so I was very happy to have the scans to keep seeing that she was actually ok. I only had 2 scans with DD1 and had 4 with DD2 but yes I would have them all over again if I was guaranteed the same result as I have now
I'd have insisted on getting the video of my 20wk one. What a disgrace that was... He was wiggling around a lot Must dig up all the x-ray type "prints" we got from that and the 12wk one, have another long look at them
I'd rather not have had the final one, but it wouldn't change the result...
Maz, I had no idea about your history and your kidlets - what an amazing woman and mum you are
When we received the all clear after DD's 20wk scan, we left the hospital and the inevitable discussion began - next time, would we do it again?
For us, the answer was never really anything but "yes". I think the benefits far outweigh the potential stress - and speaking as somoene who has been thru much, much, much unnecessary stress, I think I am justified in making that call!
There are two ministers at my church who recently chose not to have their 12wk scan, just the morphology scan, because they would never terminate. And that is their choice, just like it is the choice of every couple who concieve a baby.
I had quite a few u/s with DS as they were concerned about his size. It caused unnecessary stress (they thought he was small, he was born at 8lb 15oz) and so with this PG i think i will only be having the 20 week scan. I am sure of my dates but will need to talk further with DH about the NT scan, as he may feel differently, but i'd be happy no to have that one either.
Yep.
Jayvan had died 2 weeks prior to us actually finding out, so ultrasounds thru jacksons pregnancy kept me sane, to know he was still alive and kicking! After he starting moving around tho and I could tell on my own he was OK I started to get a bit sick of them - a years worth of being poked and prodded is enough for me!
Maz I am with you, I dont think I would... I am in the healthy age breaket, there is no family history, and at the end of the day after all the tests they can only give you a 1 in 49 chance of something been wrong, so for me all it would do is couse a HUGE agreument beltween BHL and I if the tests came back with a chance there was something wrong with our child... As a doctor once put it too me, you wouldnt bet your house on a horse that is has a 1 in 49 chance of winning would you...
Every child of ours is much wanted and love already, I would just wait for the 19week scan, even though it is lovely to see them as much as you can, it still doesnt stop the worry ( well doesnt for me ) the only thing that stops my worry is when they are saftly in my arms, the I move on the the next set of worries lol...
I think I may just get the 20 week scan next time, one is enough, and only because I'd want to *see* the baby, and so they can see if he or she is developing okay. Termination would never be considered for us, no matter what was worng with the lo I guess its just nice to have something to look forward to midway of the pregnancy.
Those of you who have said termination would never be a consideration...have you been in a circumstance were it was an option for health reasons?
No amount of research (in my opinion) can prepare you for what lays ahead with a child with special needs, its something that you learn whilst living it as every child is entirely different.
Mildez - I dont think that is the case at every hospital eg u/s before birth as Ive personally know of girls who havent had one and gone in to have a hospital birth with no u/s.
What about those who home birth and dont have u/s the entire pg?
I wonder if we depend to much on the technology available today for our pg's then to be able to tune into our own bodies and learn to listen to them? How ever did our mothers and for mothers cope?
I knew I was m/c the pg before I concieved Tank. I told the doctor I was and it wasnt 'confirmed' until they insisted I do an u/s, when we found out that we had actually m/c twins. I handled knowing I was m/c at that stage until then. Its something I sometimes wish I hadnt have know. KWIM.
For me i LOVE the scans not to find out anything in particular but just to see my little one jumping around on the screen.
With DD i only had one scan and that was the morphology scan, i felt a bit jibbed as most people were having alot of them throughout there pregnancies. Oh hang on i lie i also had the 3D scan done just so i could peek again
With DS i had 4 scans throughout and another 3D scan and i LOVED everyone of them For me it was purely so i could see my babies moving around in there and that they were doing alright. If one of the scans came back with an abnormality we would have just delt with it as best we could.
I guess im a fence sitter on this one as well if you dont want to have scans then thats your choice...i dont understand it simply because i wanna see my baby in there
Termination would never be considered for religious reasons, but no I have never been in that situation, and nor would I want to. I beleive that a child is human as soon as he/she is created, not just a 'fetus' so to ruin a human life imo would be like murder.
But again, it would be devastating to hear that your child will not have a 'normal' life. It just would not come to termination for us. But thats just MY opinion.
im feeling like the odd one out
Put in the same situation I would absolutely have another scan to set my mind at ease or to find out bad news sooner rather than later.
it has helped me bond with bubs a LOT.
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