u/s if you had your time again..would you?

[PumpkinZulu]

Like BG, if our baby could not live a good life (I know people with downs and others with intellectual disabilities, one is a very close friend and they live a great life ) then I would consider termination I guess. It would be a hard decision, and I guess we would consider the circumstances and REALLY do our research, because as people have pointed out, you can be advised to terminate, and choose to continue the pg, only to find out that baby was either fine or not as affected as the docs said. But then on the other hand, it might be.

very thought provocing Maz.

[Snacks]

I had just a morph scan with Natty. With Phoebe I had a 'dating' scan and the morph. If I were to have another kid I'd just go with the morph scan.
Even though I'm into natural birth and have aimed for as natural a birth as I could manage both times, I still think a level of medical care is part of responsible parenting. I am not comfortable with free birth, and I don't think I'd be comfortable without the morph scan.
I agree in that I don't think anything can prepare you to look after a kid with special needs. However I would want to have that scan in order to find out if my kid had an issue that'd require surgery. At both my morph scans we have had the heart looked at very closely as our family has a history of congenital heart defects.
So while I personally don't feel the scan is necessary to prepare me for any physical or mental disabilities (as I just don't think I could prepare myself for that eventuality) I would want to know if my baby would require urgent surgical intervention because we have increased likelihood of that and I'd want it without delay.