hun i think u have great concerns i have never had a c/s but i know that usually the second labour is alot more settled compared to the first ur body is more educated on the going on's..
is there a reason u laboured so long? was she stuck at all?
as for the spine side i had 2 boys do the same n i was induced with both.. they can sometimes turn over during contractions so try n remain positive that bubs will try help u out..
i cant tell u what to do n i hope u do whats best for u but i would prob try the vbac n see how u go im pretty sure they will be monitoring u alot more then usual n they willa ssist u in every way they can..
as for tearing etc.. if u do what is instructed n go with the flow which i know can be hard sometimes u shouldnt have an issue tearing isnt really that bad ive heard n if u didnt have much pain from a c/s u should be laughing...
i think u need to talk to ur ob abit more n express ur concerns.. so that way u can gather alot more info n be more comfortable with ur decision..
worst thing is too make a decision when ur not informed properly n when ur scared of the what if's.. iykwim
GL in what ever u decide...