What to ask at my hospital appointment

[LimeSlice]

It is scary being a first time expectant mum!
It is your choice where you give birth hun.. Im not sure what the rules are over there anymore for these things, but you can ask as mamy questions NOW as you want.
I would suggest that you contact the midwife at the antenatal clinic and ask her the questions. Go into the hospital and ask for a copy of their maternity policies if you want to.
Check this out: Northern Health
If will give you some info on the hospital and you can go form there.

I hate to be negative, but the kind of support you are looking for - it doesn't come from the hospital. It comes from the mothers around you, from family and friends, from the fabulou scommunity of women here on BB.
It is hell scary where you are now, and there is the emotional support you are after out there, just not probably where you are expecting to find it.

Go out and look for a Calm Birth class, Lamaze classes, go to birth workshops - your local Maternal Child Health Centre should be a great place to start to look for these too.

Ask as many questions here as you can possibly think of - nothing is silly and nothing has not been asked or wondered by another mum somewhere - there is so much knowledge and support here for you to tap into. I fear though that you will not find this kind of support form a hospital clinic, they sinply have not the time nor resources to spend on Pastoral Care of antenatal patients.

Google Antenatal + birthing classes + Melbourne and you will find some great resources.


The other short answer to your question as to what should be happening now...you do anything and everything you can to prepare your body and your life for the arrival of your baby.
Yoga, Plates, classes, CalmBirth, HypnoBirth, research the pain relief options available - pethadine, epidural, gas, etc, plan your nursery and just generally enjoy your pregnancy!

HTH - what you are feeling is totally normal and I think just about every first time mum feels the same fear and anxiety.

[TeniBear]

I hate to be negative, but the kind of support you are looking for - it doesn't come from the hospital. It comes from the mothers around you, from family and friends, from the fabulou scommunity of women here on BB.

I didn't read that as negative at all The only "friends" I have who have kids are ones I've lost contact with, mostly by choice, and most of my family don't know yet, so I am feeling pretty alone. Even when my family do find out, my guess is that they won't be able to relate anyway - all my cousins are much older than me and the ones that have young kids now started late. The ones who started young have kids older than me... Two of my cousins are even grandparents! For now, yeah, I'll lean on all you lovely BB ladies

Ahhhhh I'm so confused, I don't even know what's bothering me, really... I'm a lostie lol

[Daytona's Mummy]

I was just as confused as you are right now when I was 1st pregnant with this baby! I honestly felt like It was my first pregnancy all over again! Thats how I came to find this lovely place (BB) and the wonderful world of knowelege and support!
In the end, I had to pretty much demand information from my ob's receptionist about what appointments, when.. I'm still taking a list of questions to every appointment, but at least now, I know what tests and appointments are due when, Most other things I have learnt from stalking the forum and especially my BB group.
I know what it is like to have your heart set on something, (like which hospital you want to go to) I wonder if it would work to tell them you want to go to the other one because you will be moving at some time during your pregnancy and you will have to go past this one to get to the one they want you at???
Have a look for a birth centre near you, they will give you heaps more support, A doula in your area would also be a big help and would proberbly have a pretty good idea to guide you through till your on your knowelege feet (so-to-speak)
Good luck, and as the others have said, just enjoy your pregnancy , everything will soon become alot clearer to you!!

[Fleur]

I hate to be negative, but the kind of support you are looking for - it doesn't come from the hospital. It comes from the mothers around you, from family and friends, from the fabulou scommunity of women here on BB.
It is hell scary where you are now, and there is the emotional support you are after out there, just not probably where you are expecting to find it.

Go out and look for a Calm Birth class, Lamaze classes, go to birth workshops - your local Maternal Child Health Centre should be a great place to start to look for these too.

Ask as many questions here as you can possibly think of - nothing is silly and nothing has not been asked or wondered by another mum somewhere - there is so much knowledge and support here for you to tap into. I fear though that you will not find this kind of support form a hospital clinic, they sinply have not the time nor resources to spend on Pastoral Care of antenatal patients.

Google Antenatal + birthing classes + Melbourne and you will find some great resources.


The other short answer to your question as to what should be happening now...you do anything and everything you can to prepare your body and your life for the arrival of your baby.
Yoga, Plates, classes, CalmBirth, HypnoBirth, research the pain relief options available - pethadine, epidural, gas, etc, plan your nursery and just generally enjoy your pregnancy!

HTH - what you are feeling is totally normal and I think just about every first time mum feels the same fear and anxiety.

:yeahthat: all of the above!

ok i get it now, I understand your worries.... you do sound a bit lost
It is scary having a baby & what you are feeling is very very normal, but I'm afraid I agree with LS - you won't get what you are looking for from a hospital (although you might get lucky & find a really nice midwife who will provide some comfort & ease a few worries).
A doula is a great idea, as are calmbirth classes if you can.
If not, there is BB

I'm not too sure what the rules are WRT what hospital you go to. It might be worth giving the Mercy a call & asking what happened to the forms you sent?
If you are going to feel better about things going there then that is probably going to be better for you - but then again, hopefully when you have your appt next week & you ask your questions you will get some reassurance & feel a bit better about things anyway.

Don't know if that made sense, I'm a bit foggy this morning but sending you hugs - I'm sure as time passes & you start to get a bit more info from whichever hospital you go to, you'll feel better about things.

ETA - with regards to if you are high risk or not -it's probably better for you to be treated 'normally' , I think it is better for them to assume you are NOT high risk unless there is a reason to think otherwise ITMS? Try not to worry too much

[HollyC]

I understand you are feeling a bit lost. My hospital seems to engage it's mothers to be a lot more, but being private I suppose they need to provide the service or people would go elsewhere.

All that being said, it isn't until 20 weeks that they really start to get into the having a baby stuff. Before that it is all just routine pregnancy checks and after 20 weeks there is more info about giving birth and care and all that.

So at your next appointment, maybe rather than asking your long list of questions you could just ask if there is a time when they go through all that. I would like to think that they intend to and maybe they just aren't up to that with you yet.

But first of all I'd be asking why you have ended up at a different hospital from where you wanted to go. It really seems to be bothering you so best to get some answers.