I agree.. No perfect age gap. BUT my pros of having them close are.
You have baby stuff already around so no need to find, rebuy pack up etc as you already have it.
You are busy but wiht 2 at the same time.. and once they get older things get easier,
My DD and DS are 19 months apart and DS loves his little sis to pieces they share a room and cannot get enough of each other.
Cons, Financially can be hard on families,
You are getting 2 kids into car seats..
You are maybe waking to 2 kids at night.
I have made a pact with myself to only ever have 1 kid in nappies at a time.. and i have done just that!
My DS is almost 7 months old and DH and I have just started TTC. Not putting pressure on ourselves, but I've stopped taking the pill and we're just letting nature take it's course. DTD lots and enjoying the time we have with our little man. We always wanted our kids close in age so we're hoping that DS is between 18month and 2 years when we have the next. But as others have said, you do what's best for you
As you can see from ticker I have 3kids 3yrs apart. I find the 3yr age gap pretty perfect if there is such a thing. Usally by the age of the 3 they are reasonably independent and possibly toilet trained. I can on a certain level reason with my DS2 when I need to feed Tess or tend to her for some reason or the other and he is also willing to help out. And my DS1 is a great help when Tess needs someone's attention as he will go to her to see what he can do.
Yep it can get pretty tough around creche and school pick ups, I find Tess just goes with the flow..she doesn't have much choice. Babies are very adaptable so whatever decision you make it will be the right one.
Good luck with whatever you or mother nature decide in the end
I don't think there is a perfect gap, it's just what works for you. my two boys are 16 months apart and although it was very hard for the first 4 months or so, it is fantastic and we are really enjoyinging having two so close. i think a great age gap is between 16 and 20 months. ds1 coped really well when ds2 came along, but i think if he'd come along now (while ds1 is 2.5yrs old) it may have been a different story.
There has been many thread about this on BB as its a common question and really it all boils down to what is best for you.
My ages gaps have been great for me, I love it while some people would be horrified, as I prob would be if I had 3 under 3 LOL
I think everyone adjusts to the gaps they have.
All I am going to suggest is that you go with your gut. Do what feels right. I always thought I'd have a bigger gap than we do, but I changed my mind after a family holiday last year. We used to do big camping trips and DH lives for these. I decided that I was unhappy taking children under 3 years old on these trips, so we decided to have our kids closer together so that we could start taking the holidays again.
I wish I hadn't made that decision. I love my girls, but am finding having them this close together really difficult. I wish we had've waited until they were 4 years apart.
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