OK so I will be 12 weeks on Tuesday 31st August (yay!!)
I have my BF's little girls 1st birthday Party on Sunday 29th Aug, and my other 2 besties will be there as well - and I would dearly love to tell them all face to face that we are expecting number 2!
But:

It wil be her little ones 1st birthday and I dont want to steal their thunder - I would not announce it - just take them aside for a minute and explain that I know its M's b'day that I really wanted to tell them all together and face to face (party in Melbourne and 2 of my BF's live there and the other in country with me) Do you think it would be appropriate? I certainly dont want to be making it about me - its not! But want to tell face to face as I didnt get the chance last time.

Also:
I was going to get my 12 week scan before we told ppl - but if I get it the Friday before the party then I will only be 11w 4days - is that to early?
If I wait till the following week to have the scan should I still tell my BF's?? There will also be a lot of other friends there as well that we would like to tell face to face as well.. dont know if I want to do it before the scan??
We have seen a nice strong HB at 9 weeks of 183bpm - how likly would it be that something may have gone wrong between then and 12 weeks??

Who knew such wonderful news would be so hard!!

TIA ladies
Kate