When to tell people?

[Tanya]

I am now of the belief that pregnancy should be celebrated. All pregnancies take effort no matter how long or short that pregnancy is and that effort should be recognised. You can only find support from those close to you from them knowing that you are expecting a baby

Good luck with your decision.

xx

[Kazbah]

I think weddings are a celebration of life and love - if you want to share your good news then do so! I had told my parents etc at 12 weeks and everyone else at 18 weeks - but we have a history of downs in my husband's family and wanted to be sure that was all A-OK first. But at the same time, I think keeping it secret contributed to my depression ...

[Cherished]

Hi hayley_kate and congratulations on your pregnancy Can't you just tell people you are on antibiotics or something? It amazes me how much pressure adults feel to 'have to ' drink at a party or function! It's amazing how empowering it is to just say no for just saying no's sake iykwim You don't have to have a 'reason' not to drink but make something up if you don't want to tell people you are pregnant.

[*LittleMissSummer*]

We told everyone when it was confirmed. If we had of lost the baby we would have wanted the support rather than trying to hide it. But thats our own personal preference. I think with future children i think we will hold off a few more weeks.

Good luck

[~Kim~]

I have two different experiences. One where we told and then lost and one where we chose not to tell. The latter was awful because it felt so lonely with a 'secret'.

Yell it from the rooftops I say

[UntoldAngel]

We told my parents and sister after we did the POAS test, and that was 5weeks! We waited til the blood test confirmed to tell DP's family just to make sure... but we told my parents' straight away as it was their 25th wedding anniversary so we thought it would be a nice present. We told family and close friends once it was confirmed, then waited til 12weeks before making it 'general knowledge'
I too have been know to enjoy a drink, and then some and it actually took people a few strange looks before they realised I wasn't 'drinking' and had a bump going on...
Good luck and enjoy the pregnancy

[FunHols]

We told everyone when we found out...it was a bit of a surprise, and as I'd always been a drinker, couldn't be bothered hiding it. If something went wrong and we lost the baby i knew I would want the support of all my friends and family. However, if you want to wait until 12 weeks, just tell people to mind their own business if they ask why you're not drinking.

[hayley_kate]

Thanks for all your replies. I've decided to wait until after the 12 weeks scan. It's easier now, as the hens thing is actually a day thing, as opposed to an over-night thing where drinking would be involved.
I think I would tell people, but really, I don't feel pregnant at all, and I still kind of don't believe it. I have zero M/S and if it wasn't for the 8 week dating scan where I could actually see the little blob, and plus not getting AF, then I wouldn't believe it. Maybe I'm just lucky. But really, not even one bit of nausea! So I guess I'm not in the pregnancy mindset yet. Think I will be at my 12 week scan though. I hope!