In the end I found what worked was explaining to her how hard it would be to "un-tell" the news if worst came to worst and I had a miscarriage. I was at pains to say that I wasn't thinking negatively at all, it was just protecting myself.
This actually was brought home to her when a friend of hers announced to all and sundry his daughter was 8 weeks pregnant and then 2 weeks later had to tell everyone she had miscarried - so Mum has been very good about keeping it secret since.
But it is so lovely to have someone so excited for you, isn't it?
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