I feel the same hun. We can only conceive with IVF so I am constantly reminded that I can't have children the good old fashioned way. I grieve for the natural conceptions I can't/couldn't have. Yes, I have been blessed with two babies through IVF, but it still hurts that I couldn't have conceived them naturally like it's supposed to be. And it especially hurts when the PA announcements read 'we weren't even trying' or 'it was our first/second attempt at trying'. Some people are just extra lucky I guess. I am actually going to start seeing my psychologist as I know I have an issue with the IVF process, and since we'll be trying again very soon, I want to make sure I'm as ready as I can be.
Ditto for me, I find it really hard to hear too, especially when it appears to be so easy (and cheap!) for them to conceive. I think it's entirely normal, and to be honest it doesn't go away, even after I had my son I felt like it was so hard when I heard friends and family were pregnant, but I realised I was often directing my anger at my infertility at people who weren't responsible for it. Christmas is a tough time which adds to the emotions too. Try not too work yourself up too much and enjoy what you can
Totally feel the same, and I get angry at myself that my reaction is sometimes not genuine, but have learnt not to beat myself up about it. I agree with Mad B, BA and baby chatter I can deal with, but PAs get me every time. Although I must admit when I hear comments made by mothers or fathers venting about their kids, I always feel a bit angry, cos they should be grateful they have kids IYKWIM.
Yep another here who can relate to those feelings. Been TTC three years and I also dread those announcements and can get myself quite upset just thinking about it. I know it is not thier fault either and it's only me processing what I have been through and grieving for what I don't have.. It's hard because it is such mixed emotions trying to be happy for them while dealing with your own grief...
Thank you everyone for sharing how you felt too. It is sort of reassuring to know that I am not the only one who feels like this. I guess, even 3+ years since finding out we needed IVF, I am still coming to terms with it. I talk about it with other people but none of my closest friends have had IVF or similar trouble TTC.
To those without babies yet, it is so much harder for you. Sending you lots of
I was thinking about this the other day and I realised a lot of it is jealousy. I want what they have (an easy conception). I think I need to let go of wishful thinking and accept my lot in life. I have been blessed with children, no matter how they came.
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