We've not hid it from Charlie, we've always referred to him as our IVF miracle baby, and when he starts to wonder what that means, I'll try my best to explain that it means mummy and daddy needed doctors to help us have him. When he's old enough to absorb the ins and outs of it all (after sex ed!) I'll explain the technology to him in more detail.
It was the same with my older kids - they knew we were going to Drs and I have having injections and ops etc to try to get pg, but it was in my second cycle that I actually sat my two older kids down and drew out diagrams and stuff to show them exactly what was happening (which grossed them out btw!) DS2, I only explained how Charlie was conceived about a year ago, but honestly I suspect he knew the details in a fuzzy sort of way but didn't want to know all the gory specifics.
On a completely OT note, my DS1 had a discussion in Social Science last year about genetics and someone said IVF babies were 'fake' and shouldn't exist because nature didn't want them to exist. DS1 (my budding IVF advocate) told the kid that like all other medical conditions, infertility is a medical condition and why shouldn't it be treated like any other medical condition? He also made clear his baby brother was an IVF baby and if anyone wanted to make derogatory comments about IVF, they could sort it out with him directly (my budding gangster!) LOLOL!
Last edited by sushee; May 11th, 2009 at 10:27 AM.
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