I'm not a LTTC er so I can't comment on those terms, but aren't you quite young hun? So if you wanted to have 3 children before 30, despite it possibly taking a couple of years each child, wouldn't it be doable?
I don't know if i would class myself as being a "LTTCer" but we had tried for a baby since i was 17 and weren't successful until 21. But its become apparent that i may be less fertile than i first thought.... the fact ive had a m/c plus 2 chemical pregnancies. We too wanted atleast a 3 year age gap between our kids but when my pcos returned nastily after having DD we reconsidered and we want to have all our children while we know we can.
I do agree with Keike that obviously don't TTC now while the thought of another pregnancy is terrifying. I do think waiting until your DD is 12 months because as you say atleast then if you were to concieve right away you would have atleast 2 years in between.
But only you can decide when a good time is, maybe you can speak with your doctor and start preparing for a second.
we had issues conceiving DD1 and it took almost 2 years due to endo etc. I had similar thoughts and worries, but i had another time-bomb to consider of my PND (unfortunately!). i wanted to be well and truly in recovery from that before we TTC and that did throw a spanner in the works a bit as i set a pretty high bar (ie symptom free for 12 months).
so we were aiming for a 2ish age gap. in the end DD2 took 9 months and we have a 3 year and 5 day gap...which i have found to be perfect
but there was the fear tbh, the fear of not being able to make another baby or to hold onto them long enough to bring them earthside (we had many first tri losses over the years). i dont know, i guess that for those of us that have fertility concerns the worry/fear of 'can I/we?' will never go away. My only advice is to only start trying when you actually really want to (sounds obvious, but i hope you get my meaning lol).
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