Joy,
Did you ask her to come to the scans of your DS? If so, then by all means ask again. Otherwise, i wouldn't think it would be a great idea. It could come across as pitying and she might feel oblidged to come when she might not want to.
I think you did the right thing telling her before everyone else.
I have found that a few of my friends have really ignored me now that their bubs are born and they know about our TTC struggle. It makes it really hard after the baby is born. I feel like they don't want to ask me over for fear of offending me and things are a bit strained. It makes me feel even more like there is a club and i'm just not being allowed entry. But in saying that i do have lovely friends who treat me totally normally and that's cool.
Wishing you a H&H pregnancy.
Thanks everyone for your thoughts. Its great to have people be honest about something that is really close to their hearts so thanks heaps for sharing, your collective wisdom has enabled me to avoid many possible mistakes.
My choices are to not invite her to the scans, and I will treat her as I always do. I won't tip toe around her but I will also try to be sensitive and keep discussing with her the journey she and her DH are on at the moment like I have been for the past 12 months.
Thanks heaps, your comments and thoughts are muchly appreciated.
Joy, I'm so glad that our thoughts and experiences are enabling you to help your sister through her struggles. It's not an easy path to travel, and everyone having to go through this process needs as many supportive friends as they can find.
You may just find that if you are sensitive and caring towards your sister with regards to her struggles, she may just find it that bit easier to cope with your pregnancy. There is no guarantee, however, and there will always be good days and bad days for her. The only thing I have to add is that as much as possible, you should let her guide how things go - talk when she wants to talk, etc.
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