Glad you liked the photos and thanks for all your support. I will be definitely posting the video of the switch-on. Yeah she was a brave little bugger. I went with her to give the anaesthetic in theatre and I havent told DH but she really fought the mask and didn't go without a fight. It would have killed him to see her that way. As it was, I just fell apart when I got back to him but at least I felt like I saved him from seeing her. Enough of me banging on about the yuck stuff now, it's all up from here and she got her wounds checked yesterday, dressings removed and finally a lovely big bath.
It was so funny, I'd got used to that yuck smell she's had since last Monday but at the library yesterday there was this cute little boy who asked if he could give my baby a kiss. He was 3 and a half and completely adorable. At first his mum agreed to a kiss on the hand if Jasmine wanted it, but later he sneaked in a kiss on the head and he backed away saying 'poo, yuck, her head is stinky'. Out of the mouths of babes hey?
Does anyone here follow the Save our Sleep settling methods? I have had the book recommended and have read heaps of reviews and discussions. I'm off to read the book cover to cover as I have just had an unsettled night from hell with Jazzy because I tried to put her into her cot after her midnight feed and she didn't trust me all night. Ibrought her back into bed but she was so untrusting, she jsut kept climbing onto mine or DH's pillow and curling up. It's time to get into some sort of dreaded routine so I'm thinking of following this book for a little while.
Meanwhile in totally unrelated news my DH's research from the Daintree has just been published in the most important journal in the world for his line of work. It got knocked back and rewritten so many times that he had given it one more go before taking it to a lesser journal, but they accepted it today. It's impressive stuff and the bread and butter for a wildlife biologist. Yay, it must have been due to his trusty sidekick, all those leech bites and falling on my face in the mud...and I didn't complain a bit...MUCH!!! "I'm getting paid how much for this....sweet FA...oh well it's all worth it then"
Well the book says, 10.15 lie her down for a nap so off I go (oh dear, she's not going to like it, she's so happy cruising around blowing raspberries at everything).
Hi guys
Thanks for teh new thread Lenny.
Murph I love that pic in your signature! at that little boy
I've heard of SOS and wouldn't touch that with a barge pole, but that's me. To be fair to Tizzie, she's not the worst 'expert' out there. Anyway - she may have some good tips in there for sleep, personally I wouldn't be trying to follow a strict routine (ie, by the clock) unless it actually fits more or less with your child's natural rythyms. They're all so different, you know, I can't see how there could possibly be one strict way of doing things.
Right now Jazzy's probably having a hard time - she's been through surgery and getting her wounds checked and moving around - it might not be the best time to try and make her change, you know? She needs some stability and certainty - her mummy, that is. Once things settle down again the sleep may sort itself out, or it may be a better time to try making changes.
big congratulations to your hubby! I'm sure he couldn't have done it without you.
woah, private school already Saph? Hope you guys can sort it all out ok.
Yep Marcellus and we have been spared a year as our school doesnt have a kindy program so he will start from preprimary. We live across the road and it is a very good school so we had always planned to send them there its just that the fees have doubled from when we regestered him to now. lol
Murph I agree with Marcellus, SOS is very structured and by the clock and does not follow your babies natural body clock. It would totally not suit my style of parenting or Xaviers nature. Jazzy has been through an enormous upheavel lately and is bound to be unsettled. Please dont think that I am critising I always say you have to find what works for you. Perhaps now is not the time to be starting a new routine. Dont feel like you are spoiling her by letting her be close to you, it is just making her feel secure. Give her big hugs from us all. WOO HOO for DH.
yeah murph i'm with the other's. I read it cover to cover after it was recommended by some friends (all whose baby's were bottle fed unlike Ash at the time) and promptly disregarded it.
i ended up giving it to a friend who was going to buy a copy. she mainly used it when her 2nd arrived to give her an idea of timings for managing 2 kids.
but I really didn't like the tone nor the do-or-die structure of it and I'm like marcellus, I just follow DS's tired signs and he goes to bed when he's tired and gets up when he's awake - and i find that he naturally has his own routine (which changes slightly day to day but is pretty much the same).
for what it's worth, Ash did the same thing when DH got home from being away ... a few days after he got home, he just decided that he WOULD NOT go to sleep without mummy or daddy with him. It took us two nights repeatedly going in and calming him before leaving and returning when he cried... but he soon got hte gist and managed to go back to sleep by himself. But it killed us! happened from 9pm to 11pm one night and from 2.30am to about 5am the next.
I do do some controlled crying (don't shoot me people!) but i think he's old enough to understand and I also am good at guaging his cries. Often they are 'hollow' whingey cries and if i look on our video monitor, his body language is relaxed and playful. So he gets left and often will eventually just lay down and go to sleep. I'm telling you this video monitor changed my parenting!!! i can see everything that little manipulator is doing to draw me in lol. telling you, these kids are crafty characters!
but we are also very structured in our bed routine ie change nappy, get dummy and sooky rag, have a cuddle/bottle if night time; at night he gets a couple of books and henry lawson's Andy's Gone with Cattle Now (bub loves this when dadddy sings it); then every single time (except in the middle of the night of course) i sing twinkle twinkle while cuddling and as i put him down say "it's sleeping time now, nigh nigh" and leave.
I sing twinkle in cafes, in the street, in the imaging centre this morn as that's his major sleep cue - i have dummy, sooky rag, clean bum, my song... Oh! it's bed time. i'm a terrible singer too! but it works! lol.
murph, i think read the book and make up your own mind. there are certainly some good suggestions but i think you need to take it with a grain of salt... BUT horses for courses so if it works for you - then that's great.
oh ramble!!!! what were you saying KellyD!!!
oh one more thing, Ash had his 2nd kidney scan today... remember when he was born we had to get one down and they found one kidney was slightly not formed properly??? (we had a single umbicial artery during pregnancy - where you suualy have 2, ash had 1) so anyway, find out the results in a couple of weeks when we're home. I get the impression that even if it is slightly "not perfect'' it's no biggy... i hope!
at that little boy
everyone else!
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