Hi Bella and welcome over here!
Well done you growing such big boys. Glad to hear things have settled down a bit for you - can't imagine how tough it must be with two.
Bella: Welcome aboard, I thought we lost some of our twin mummies from the pg thread but it is so understandable that things have been challenging for you with 2. But so nice to see you made it here now.
Miss M: I really don't know what to recommend regarding Trent's sleep for you. I had my first Mother Group today and there was a baby older than Tara who still has 5 feeds a day and wakes during the night. The MCHN has told me I'm very lucky and have a very unique baby who sleeps for 11-12 hours every night and only has 3 feeds a day. I suppose it just shows how every baby is so different in their needs.
Everyone else, big hello to you all.
AFU: As I mentioned first Mothers Group today (finally) Tara is the second oldest baby in the group with the oldest being 4 1/2 months and the youngest is 2 weeks. So a big gap in ages although the MCHN has said that us "experienced" mum's will probably be very helpful to the mum's of the younger bubs, and what do you know I had a mum tell me her 5 weeks old has become very clingy and won't sleep unless held etc... Mmm, I then mentioned the Wonder Weeks, she had never heard of them so next week I'm taking my book in for her to have a look at. Tara was such an adorable angel the whole time, looking and smiling at everyone and when I popped her on the floor to play she started her non stop chatting and then promptly fell asleep for about 45 minutes. Everyone was amazed by how cruisy she was, lets hope she keeps it up.
Anyway better get moving, DH has had to do an emergency rush to Bunnings to get some plumbing parts as he puncture an external underground hose but unfortunately it is connected via the mains... So no water until he gets back and can fix it.
It has been a while since I last spoke on this thread. Can't log on at work and finding it very hard to find time at home.
Anyway, it is great to see everyone moving nicely along and bubs are growing.
About the weight loss thing... well I loss all of the weight within 4 months and am not bf. Freaked me out, went to dr and the dr said it is because I am under nourished... with all of the stress and being back to work full time I guess it explains it. Yup, loss the weight but haven't gain back the body shape.. gone big in places where it hadn't been that big before.
I got a question for those who have gone before. Lyla is now 6 1/2 months and growing strongly. She has always been a self-settler and sleeps very well at night. She started rolling by 3 months. This didn't pose much problem but by 5 months she started crawling and since then I have had problems putting her to bed. She would be crawling all over the bed until she falls asleep on her face! Now it is worse, she is pulling to stand and I can't keep her down. She is obviously tired but every time I put her down she would be dragging herself up and attempts to move across along the rail of the cot which resulted in her falling. I put pillows all over the cot to cushion her but this still does not solve the problem of her sleeping. Currently I have to cuddle her until she falls asleep in my arms.. which is killing my arm. My sister thinks I should let her sleep on the ground in the play pen but I could see her standing there, licking the bloody pen walls and looking out.
That's her sleep her, play is worse. She now wants mum to sit there and watch her play. If I just nick off somewhere near by to do some house work she would scream murder! What should I do???
Sorry shouldn't go on a rant like this but am at a loss of what to do.
Hope you all are well.
Smithy, if you do go onto this thread, see if you could change the formula. S26 creates a lot of constipation. Try Nan Pro. I found it much better and Lyla has never had constipation with it.
Hello, Dorothy is back from Oz
Thanks for all your well wishes, I certainly didn't want the house blown away and doubt I cold have sat on the steps like you Grub, this house is slightly less rigid and wouldn't hold its own in a Category 2 blow, let alone a Larry 5. There is not a room without a lovely view but also not a room with solid walls. I know what you mean about your mango tree, my friends parents have one of the only massive old curtain fig trees that we know of other than the protected ones and they got married under it just months earlier. It was the most spectacular tree, then Larry did his work and stripped the poor bugger. It had been there for generations on their family property. They are still trying to save it 4 years on.
Sorry about the tree talk girls. Now for a few comments on parenting. First to KellyD, I haven't noticed the hair coming out in clumps or any more than usual. I have lots of hair and probably nothing a comb-over wouldn't fix
Grub, about the weight loss, sorry but I'm in the same boat as KellyD (tho I can't believe with that tummy that you didn't gain 20 all in front Kel). I think I did the same lose a couple, gain about 6 and when she was out, I was my pre-preg weight. Just different bodies I suppose like our different babies. The best comment I heard about losing the baby weight though is that it took 9 months to put it on, so you should expect it to take 9 months to take it off and not be too alarmed if it doesn't come off overnight. You will get back you shape with time and until then, you look gorgeous in the mummy afterglow. go and buy a few new things for yourself just for this phase and you'll feel better.
Kahlan, hello and welcome back. Lyla sounds like a feisty little one. Wow, rolling over by 3 months! She does sound like she keeps you on your toes. I don't really have advice but I have heard that's about the time when babies start to trust only you and are suspicious of other people. This is when they say to introduce security blankets and special attachment toys I think. Does she have anything like this to feel safe with or is this something you want to do? Just a thought. I hope you get answers on here about the crawling, standing and falling. I can't imagine it but sorry, it does sound gorgeous. I think when they start out this advanced, they dont slow down, that's just their innate nature. My brother's daughter was literally climbing up the internal door frames (to the top) like a monkey when she was 8 months old! She has had buckets of natural sporting ability all her life and has never slowed down - hopes to be an Olympic hockey player. You may have a little star on your hands.
I will have to come back later, to say hello to you Bella, Miss M, Marcellus and everyone else I haven't caught up with. My laptop battery is running flat and I'm in bed with Miss Jasmine who has tangled herself up in my aerial and thinks it's very amusing, keeps looking at me and laughing for a reaction. xox
Hi Everyone - finally I think I have a couple of minutes to do some persies.
Murph - good to hear you are all safe and well.
Kahlan - great to see you back. It sounds like Lyla is getting separation anxiety - Jasmine went trough some time where she just would not play on her own, I had to be with her every moment. She has grown out of that phase and now plays quite happily for a while on her own. I don't really have any useful suggestions except that they do get more capable of being on their own. In regards to the moving around the cot - I have the same problem with Jasmine, so will be interested in anyone elses suggestions. I did ask my MCHN and her only advice was to try a sleeping bag to slow down their ability to move - I haven't got around to buying a summer weight one (only have a winter one), but will do so in the next few days. I also introduced a 'snuggly' toy which Jasmine now spoons to sleep - if you get something nice and cuddly that to start with you hold in your arms as you rock them to sleep - then eventually you can get to the stage where you put them down with the snuggly when they are sleepy. It is a hard time with the sleep regression at that age, but keep in mind how many new things your little one is learning - she is wanting to practice at all times of the day and night. I am holding on to the mantra that they will grow out of this stage eventually! Hope some of that made sense - trying to think and type quickly as Jasmine is about to wak up.
Kelly - good to here your MG went well and that Tara was in fine form! Hope the plumbing situation got sorted out.
Sorry girls that is as far as I can get today as Jasmine has woken up - best go tend to the masters needs
Hi to everyone else and I will try and get back later for more of a catch up.
Kahlan - hi! Sounds like lyla is doing so well!
Just quickly, wanting to always be with you is totally normal. You are the centre of her universe. And, at this age she probably hasn't learned object permanence yet, so when you're out of sight, you cease to exist (which is a pretty scary thought). They usually develop this skill around the 8-9 month mark.
Separation anxiety tends to peak from time to time too, especially when they're learnig new skills (particularly moving...).
My advice - don't fight, but find ways to include her. Some days that might mean carrying her around with you, if she's particularly clingy (some days they are), but generally it might just mean sitting her nearby where you are so she feels involved.
Set her up with an activity that puts her close to where you are. Talk to her about what you're doing. As she gets older you can give her 'chores' to do to help mummy (they LOVE that).
DS is a lot older now and helps with the sweeping and mixing when cooking and stuff like that, but when younger i would sit him in his high chair in the kitchen when cooking, for eg, so he could see what i'm doing. when a litle older i gave him a brush and dust pan so he could help sweep.
The more I try to engage him, the easier he would be! Cause if I gave him a few quality minutes of attention (maybe a breastfeed, or read a book, or play together), then he'd be "recharged" with "mummyness" and would happily go play by himself for a bit (only very short stints when younger, but longer and longer now). And giving him helpful tasks to do had the same effect.
The restlessness at sleep time is probably a phase - hopefulluy it'll get better once she masters her moves. Sometimes I think they just have to work these things out of their systems.
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