Hi Everyone - finally I think I have a couple of minutes to do some persies.
Murph - good to hear you are all safe and well.
Kahlan - great to see you back. It sounds like Lyla is getting separation anxiety - Jasmine went trough some time where she just would not play on her own, I had to be with her every moment. She has grown out of that phase and now plays quite happily for a while on her own. I don't really have any useful suggestions except that they do get more capable of being on their own. In regards to the moving around the cot - I have the same problem with Jasmine, so will be interested in anyone elses suggestions. I did ask my MCHN and her only advice was to try a sleeping bag to slow down their ability to move - I haven't got around to buying a summer weight one (only have a winter one), but will do so in the next few days. I also introduced a 'snuggly' toy which Jasmine now spoons to sleep - if you get something nice and cuddly that to start with you hold in your arms as you rock them to sleep - then eventually you can get to the stage where you put them down with the snuggly when they are sleepy. It is a hard time with the sleep regression at that age, but keep in mind how many new things your little one is learning - she is wanting to practice at all times of the day and night. I am holding on to the mantra that they will grow out of this stage eventually! Hope some of that made sense - trying to think and type quickly as Jasmine is about to wak up.
Kelly - good to here your MG went well and that Tara was in fine form! Hope the plumbing situation got sorted out.
Sorry girls that is as far as I can get today as Jasmine has woken up - best go tend to the masters needs
Hi to everyone else and I will try and get back later for more of a catch up.
Kahlan - hi! Sounds like lyla is doing so well!
Just quickly, wanting to always be with you is totally normal. You are the centre of her universe. And, at this age she probably hasn't learned object permanence yet, so when you're out of sight, you cease to exist (which is a pretty scary thought). They usually develop this skill around the 8-9 month mark.
Separation anxiety tends to peak from time to time too, especially when they're learnig new skills (particularly moving...).
My advice - don't fight, but find ways to include her. Some days that might mean carrying her around with you, if she's particularly clingy (some days they are), but generally it might just mean sitting her nearby where you are so she feels involved.
Set her up with an activity that puts her close to where you are. Talk to her about what you're doing. As she gets older you can give her 'chores' to do to help mummy (they LOVE that).
DS is a lot older now and helps with the sweeping and mixing when cooking and stuff like that, but when younger i would sit him in his high chair in the kitchen when cooking, for eg, so he could see what i'm doing. when a litle older i gave him a brush and dust pan so he could help sweep.
The more I try to engage him, the easier he would be! Cause if I gave him a few quality minutes of attention (maybe a breastfeed, or read a book, or play together), then he'd be "recharged" with "mummyness" and would happily go play by himself for a bit (only very short stints when younger, but longer and longer now). And giving him helpful tasks to do had the same effect.
The restlessness at sleep time is probably a phase - hopefulluy it'll get better once she masters her moves. Sometimes I think they just have to work these things out of their systems.
Hello girls. I hope everyone is very well as well as their little bubs.
All's well with me. Just wondering if anyone's baby developed a flat head as a result of sleeping on their back? Adam has developed a flat side which is the side he favours. I am trying all the things such as putting him up the other end of the cot, putting all the things he looks at on the other side, heaps of tummy time, and I've booked to see the MCHN next week but it's now quite pronounced and I'm a bit worried!
Apart from that he is just fine.
AFM; about to start studying in a couple of weeks and bizarrely looking forward to it!
I've heard of babies developing a flat spot on there heads, the MCHN has told me Tara's head is a bit out of shape on one side (not flat, but her head shape is not round) and told me to get her to lay on the opposite side. Yeah, like that's going to happen she turns her head whichever way she wants to and I can't stop her from turning her head.
I was very excited last night as Tara has now learnt how to turn onto her side from laying on her back, she hasn't mastered the tummy to back roll (as she just hates tummy time) so it looks like she may learn the back to front roll first. DH spent ages with her on the floor last night helping her to roll from back to front to back again so she gets the jist of what to do.
Neptune - Your MHN will be able to tell you if it is any flatter than what they would normally expect. I think all babies get it slightly as with SIDS guidelines they always sleep on their backs now days. Jasmine did have a slight one, but it rectified itself as soon as she was able to spend more time on her tummy and particularly once she started sitting. If it helps at all, my nephew who was born at 24+4 weeks had an extremely flat spot - obviously due to the extra weeks spent out in the world on his back when he should have still been in his mum. He is now 19 months old (actual) and it is almost totally gone - and they didn't have to do anything special to help correct it. In fact the only reason you can notice it at all on him is because he is still quite bald the little love if he had hair you wouldn't even know it was there. It is so hard to get them to turn their heads to the other side. I know with Jasmine that the MHN showed me some gentle stretches to do with her as it appeared that the reason she was favouring one side was because she was a little tight in her neck muscles on one side - apparently this is quite common. Everything you are doing sounds right, so get it checked out and don't worry too much as I am sure that it will correct itself once he is a little more mobile.
Kelly - how exciting! Well done little Tara. Watch out before you know it she will be rolling all over the place!
Hi to Marcellus, Murph, Kahlan, Bella, BG, Acaica, Tania, BW, Lenny and anyone else I have missed.
AFU - getting very excited as it is now only 6 sleeps until we go to LA and then onto Hawaii - can't wait for our first family holiday together. Jasmine now has 6 teeth (4 top and 2 bottom) and seems to have got through the worst of this bout of teething. We are still having problems with night waking, but it is mainly due to her sitting up or crawling in her sleep - she then wakes up as she can't lie back down again whilst still sleeping. So off to buy a summer weight sleeping bag today to see if that helps to restrict her movements at all. She is just such a delight that the night wakings really don't worry me too much - I know she will grow out of it in her own time. However, I say that as someone who can survive on very little sleep - my DH on the other hand does find them quite diffifult!
Thanks KellyD and Janie, that is very helpful. I'll be interested to hear what the nurse says next week.
Janie - Jasmine sounds so cute! I do think a sleeping bag will help, especially if she us half asleep whilst trying to get up - the restriction should hopefully just discourage her from struggling too much and she can fall back asleep. Best of luck with it. Have a FANTASTIC trip!
Tara is a clever little thing KellyD. How exciting that she can do that now. Adam not quite there yet.
Not sure if I'm allowed to post a link here, so mods feel free to delete, but I have been googling hair loss after pregnancy and this really helped me to understand why and what was happening. I noticed that my normally very thin/fine hair thickened up during pregnancy (which was great) and according to this info, about 3 months post partum your hormones are returning to normal and therefore hair is falling out! I am heding off for a shorter haircut next Tuesday
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: Sorry - had to delete the link :)
Thanks Janie, Marcellus and Murph. I do have some sleeping bag but only put it on Lyla after her dream feed. Maybe I will put it on her when she goes to bed. Will let you know how it goes tonight. Marcellus, thanks for the tips about including her in my everyday work. We have recently put her in the highchair during dinner and since then I have had the opportunity to eat dinner at a decent hour! ie not after DH has finished his to take turn in keeping Lyla company.
Janie, how very exciting... your first holiday as a family. Hope you have some relaxing time. I can't believe Jasmine is 9 months now.
Murph - sometimes I wish Lyla was more advance in speech than physical skills.... she is almost 1/4 of my weight (2 more kgs and she would be) so it is getting harder for me to handle her. i do feel very blessed that she is fit and strong though.. Lyla's two bottom teeth has just erupted at the same time.. oh she is losing that toothless smile.
Neptune, with Lyla I avoided flat spots by putting her on her side during day sleep because I will be awake to monitor her snd made sure nothing obstruct her breathing. This enables me to alternate her head a little. It is very hard to turn their head when they are flat on their back because they could revert back but particularly so when they are mobile. Though when they are mobile the generally move the head enough to keep the rotation going.
To everyone else. Have a great day. I got to run now.
girls,
well i was wondering if i could join your group now as have little charlie after a very long journey like all of us.im finding it a bit hard to leave pgaltttc its been such a wonderful support for me for almost 3 yrs,ive met so wonderful friends in there and its been a real comfort to me but i guess im not pg anymore so its time to leave
so if its ok ill pop in here from time to time but it will take me a bit to catch up so bare with me lol.thank you girls love smithy
have a great day .
Hello! Some of you might know me from the PGLTTC thread. My little boy is here now so time to move!
Literally have only two minutes before my LO will want to be back on the boob so not much I can say. Having a hell of a time bf ing at the moment as it turns out my latching that all the midwives said was great, is actually wrong and he is only taking in nipple and I am starting to hurt. I am finding it impossible to get him to open his mouth wide enough to take in enough breast tissue. When he does actually get enough breast tissue in he cannot cope with the extra flow and wriggles back to the old bad position that he got used to over the last two weeks or so or thrashes about and gets too much wind and lurches off for winding which means the struggle to attach again. I don't have cracks yet but I am sore. Arghhhhhhh!!!! I don't know what to do!!!
Yay for Smithy & Poppy joining us. You will see lots of familiar faces in here plus some mum's who have been around much longer but are a huge support to us newbies.
It is so hard leaving the pg thread, but I've felt so much better about being here because everyone will eventually move across and it still feels like a family but instead of sharing pg issues we now just talk about our babies and all the changes happening with them.
smithy - you should post a link to your video from the preg thread! it's very lovely. Charlie is super cute. You'll see the whole gang is here anyway! lol.
kellyD - hi love! i bet your DH had a great time playing rollies! lol. watch out you've got an active bub there! Ash is alreday tryiing to roll onto his tum, it's so cute and frustrating to watch him try!
Hi Kahlan! i don't think i posted a gday to you when i joined in here!
janie - ooh that holiday sounds wonderful. have a great time! i'm so jealous
interesting chat about flat head. Ash is the same neptune, he prefers one side. i read in one of my baby books that it's very common for them to opt for a side to turn their head and i guess it's pretty good as if they are sick it just dribbles down the cheek. i've tried turning ash's head but he also reverts. so when we co-sleep (usually in the arvo) i lay on his opposite side so he turns his head and sleeps towards me. Love to hear what the MCHN says.
oh poppy that sounds awful. Ash does the same thing but that's because of his wind. he pulls back and fusses and fights it and ends up with the end of the nipple in his mouth. that's when i take him off and give him the dummy cos i think he wants to suck without the milk to help manage his wind pain.
He usually gets about 5 or 10 mins of feeding and then gets pains and starts playing up. I give him two offers on each side if he's fighting it and then close the milk bar otherwise the problem just gets worse and he gets more upset.
I was really worried he wasn't getting enough but he's been stacking on the weight and gets in a couple of long feeds from both sides each day so figure it's working for us. I do monitor the number of wet nappies each day to be sure. Sometimes i just give him a 10min break with the dummy and some burping and he happily goes back on. We are also using Infant's Friend colic stuff and that has helped. And occassionally i think his fighting it cos he wants the other side and i'm just not that expreienced at reading his needs yet. Once i offer him that he then drains that boob. Mind you Ash can suck my boob empty in 10 mins flat. He's been a very economical feeder since birth lol
one thing you could try... put him on latching fully and recline back to 45 degrees (i use our lounge recliner) this can help the flow not be as forceful and he might be able to cope better. as the boob empties sit forward to ensure it's drained. That helped us with ash gulping and takin in too much air.
Went back to the doc on Wednesday and turns out i DO have a nasty infection from the birth and am now on lots of of blasted antibiotics... as a result Ash's great feeding run we'd had over the last week has reversed and he's crying a lot, has lots of pain and is fighting it all the way! brh. the pain is also disturbing his sleep, he either wakes up with an almighty scream or spends half his sleep thrashing and grunting but no actually waking. All i can say is thank god for the dummy - it really helps him manage the pain. poor darling boy.
anyhoo He is 6 weeks now and we have our shots on monday! eek!
okay took me about an hour to write this! lol. And for the girls who weren't on the preg thread with me and murphy - we have a running competition on who can blather on the longest in posts. I believe the score for this thread is Grub 1 Murph 0 lol.
grub hunny i hope your infections clears up very soon and i totally agrre with the dummy thing ,thank god for them lol.
ok here is the link grub was talking about hope you all like it
again thank you all for having me. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ECxZGS8fd0Y
i will post again in a couple of days ,atm just trying to get into some sort of routine with our little miracle shes feeding every 3 hrs ,with the bottle so keeping me on my toes apart from this IM SO IN LOVE ...
have a nice sunday girls xoxo
Ahhh. Them's fighting words Grub!! Alright the challenge is on...but you have to do it like me ALWAYS the one handed typing with babe on boob. It has become a tad more time consuming and lucky for you all, I write most of my comments in my head, not on the thread Yesterday, me and jazz made scones together, beat that (hmm, no.. not while feeding, just in carry mode, until I put her bouncinette on the bench..cute). BBL with photo proof:P
Smithy, i put five new photos for you next door mate...we never really leave.xox
P.S, there seems to be an awful lot of bragging about dummies and i just might spit mine soon cos jazz is too smart and only mum will do. No bottle and no dummy...arrrgggh. are they just naturally going on the dummy or is there a trick. she has wind and we've had some shocking days lately, mixed in with some great ones. dh went to town for wind drops (among other things) and forgot them so been battling and resorted to giving boiled water in a syringe. despite my hundred dollar outlay on breast pump and bottles and dummies and bottles of varying sizes, mum's boob is the one stop shop for anything any time. on the plus side, i have never had any dramas with soreness or latching, i'm just a bit haggard from demand feeding, to comfort suckling, to wind control. it's all about me. dummy tips please??????
Took a look at your photo's, Jazz is getting so big. She has some similarities to Tara, ie: big blue eyes and also the "ranga" tinge in her hair. I'm thinking Tara may end up a Strawberry blonde though and I think Jazz may be the same. Also I love the colour of her hearing aids, when will you know if they will have any effect??
As for the dummy, I started Tara with the smallest newborn size dummy from Avent and have only now moved up to the next size (which took her a couple of days to get used to due to the change in size) although she will only take hers when she is tired and uses it as a comfort to go to sleep. What type of dummies have you tried, maybe the ones that are smaller and more similar to the nipple might be best to give a go, Tara prefers this type of dummy as I think it doesn't take up her whole mouth.
E is another bubba that only wanted to use me as her comforter and i was getting to the point she wouldn't sleep without being attached - as sweet as it was, i knew DH was going to be working away - and for me to get showers and eat, i had to find anothe way (slings didn't cut it!) - we got the Avent dummies, and just persevered. i would wiggle it side to side in her mouth so it knocked against her tongue and caught her attention and after a couple of days she would take it - but only when she only needed comfort - if her mouth was dry or she wanted a drink or feed, it got spat good and proper! now, she only has the dummy in the car (attached to her bib in case she gets upset - she generally just chews the handle though) or at sleep time - and even then only if she's not immediately ready to sleep - if she is super tired, she will turn her head away from it! very cute! she generally spits it out as soon as she dozes off too so i'm not too worried about her getting rid of it. i think she'll end up being like me - a preference for singing at bed time - sounds very damn cute lol
E is also a little fair headed poppet with a "ranga" tinge. it is getting redder so not sure if it we go the strawberry blonde, deep auburn like mine (and her Daddy - poor kid was bound to be a ranga!), or a more orange red like my nephew. not too phased how it turns out - it's rather cute on her anyway
well, E is now 8months - no idea where that time has gone! i spent part of yesterday sorting and folding the clothes that no longer fit her (0000-00, well most of her 00's) - i got a wee bit teary - i am struggling to remember her being so tiny, which is really sad! was holding a friends DD the other day - K is 3.5months and over half a kilo bigger than E was at the same time - but i just couldn't remember it properly. i had a let down cos i got all emotional folding her clothes lol
she is now commando crawling, walking holding our hands, has her first tooth, and is saying so much. she has her words, and she uses them in context. she shakes her head no when she doesn't want something (or doesn't want to do what she is told!), and the last week or so, has started saying "mummy, BOOBF"! she has now added pa pa (for granpa) and mam ma (granma) - it comes out distinctly different than her mum mum and mummy - and she only says it when looking at them so we know the context.
hoping she has a decent sleep now - she has been asking to go in her pool for days - is finally warm enough but she was way too tired so i sent her back to bed. when she wakes up, we'll set it up for her.
ETA - anyone wanting to add me on FB, drop me a PM! i have a photo or 500 up! lol
Not much time to chat, but i just wanted to say to Murph that we struggled to get DS#1 to take a dummy (I was admitted to hosp, and he needed a bit of comfort sucking). In the end we did a trick that is maybe bad, but it worked! We put a touch of Gripe Water (from the supermarket) on the end of the dummy. It's sweet, i guess that's why it worked. Then he got used to it, and was happy to take it. It did make life easier.
girls,
I don't know what to do!!!
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