Ladies Thanks so much for all your support! Acacia, Marcellus, BG, Green and Neptune!

I feel soooo much better about how I am doing things. My instincts tell me that my LO needs this time with me and I am going to continue ignoring the HV (HVs are the health visitors who take over from the community midwives when your baby is 10 days old here in the UK. They are nurses who visit, weigh and check your baby over and distribute pamphlets telling you not to smoke or shake your baby etc!!! A bit of Nanny State Britain!!)

Green- My baby cluster feeds like that too. Nightime is hell here. He feeds from about 8pm till 2am most nights but then crashes and sleeps till 7am. I feed him on the couch until we go to bed at midnight and then feed him for the two hours in bed. Feeding lying down is getting better with us. He doesn't attach as well but we are getting there and the bed is usually a mess of milk stains by morning!! He tends to have tons of wind at night as well. I think it builds up in the day as he feeds really well (efficiently and quickly) in the morning feeds and is really chilled out and burps after a feed by himself mostly, but by night he screams on the boob, thrashes about tugging at the nipple and needs tons of patting and burping to get rid of the wind. I read somewhere that keeping them upright for at least ten minutes after every feed all day can help with stopping the build up of wind. I am trying it from now on.