Parenting after LT TTC #3

[Acacia]

poppy - very glad to help and give you the support you need I thought straight away after I posted that you could even just go to get DS weighed at a baby clinic and bypass having to deal with a HV other than at a clinic, when they usually don't ask you much or offer much unless you request it as clinics are usually busy. So I think you know exactly what you're doing, and never doubt yourself hun, no matter what HVs tell you. I'm more than happy to dig up that co-sleeping brochure - I'm sure I still have it somewhere and post it to you so you can have a look if you're interested - just let me know! LOL you might be right about Dorset - I think we have one of the most progressive maternity services in England at Dorchester - it's certainly in the top 10 in England for quality of the unit. I feel really lucky to have been able to access their service. Might mean that the PCT is a little more forward thinking overall when it comes to perinatal services. I was wrapped with the cloth nappy rebate, and I'm heavily involved with the local NCT, which I think has a good voice on the maternity services committee. Come to Dorset!

Kelly - Happy Birthday! I hope you have a lovely day!

Kahlan - it's so wonderful that you've been able to capture Lyla's moments on video. We havent' used video but DH is a fantastic photographer and I'm very keen too so we take so many pictures of her with DH's DSLR - we were really happy to capture some of her first steps really well. DD's grandparents have a little bit of video of her, so I tend to snap them up off them! She really knows what she's doing with her hands already, and those teeth hey?

grub - LOL Ash sounds so beautiful, discovering all those new things - hands, faces, touching faces with hands hehe. I know what you mean about doing things almost in your sleep when it comes to getting up in the dead of night - sometimes when I wake up in the morning I don't even remember how I got back from DD's room into bed! Hope your face has recovered!

marcellus - ooo, how bittersweet DS is growing up!

smithy - I think you're doing so well! I can imagine it would feel all new again - I think I am lucky enough to have another baby too, it'll all feel new to me all over again as well! Big cuddles to gorgeous Charlie

Neptune - glad to hear all is well.

Greenslw - ooo, I hope that that you're able to get that thrush under control quickly and hopefully see a much more settled bubba. We've been through thrush too, and whilst it was hard to get ger rid of overall for us we both had it, as soon as I started treatment for both of us - within a day or two my DD was so much happier. Just a thought - I have also read that thrush can cause gas in babies (not sure of the reason, but could be because they have sore mouths they feed differently and take more air in, perhaps?) Hopefully the answer to the thrush may make a difference overall.

AFU - I have, almost unbelievably, had food poisoning on top of my flu on top of my cold Already feeling much better, but had an awful awful night. Balancing that out is that my DD has turned into a happy, relaxed, well rested and engaging baby/toddler for the first time since I can remember and it is like a breath of fresh air! No more illness (for now), her first two molars are almost through so most of the discomfort is over (except at night) and she's seems to have gone through a big developmental leap recently too. It's so wonderful to have my beautiful, cheeky little girl back, even if it's just for a small amount of time before things are harder for her again. I love seeing her happy and loving life and not struggling and uncomfortable. Makes the sun shine in my heart. Hoepfully my health will be back to 100% before long and it'll all be well.


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[TaRhLi.]

Wow poppy, how horrible for you. I don't think anyone has the right to put every baby into the same "box", every baby is so different in their needs and a mothers instinct is always best I reckon. Re the co sleeping, Tara doesn't sleep with us but every morning DH brings her into bed with me and we have a sleep together and we always put the doona over her legs to keep her warm (as you know this is a big no no) but it works for us. I think you are doing a fantastic job and if bubba is putting on weight and is a contented baby with what you are doing then you are doing all right in my eyes.

Green: I'm so sorry your little man is so unsettled and as you said after all the hard work getting your BF'ing sorted to then be told he may have other problems to deal with. Tara is on Lactose Free fomula since birth, both me & DH have some lactose intolerance so the paed suggested to us to put her on the lactose free formula just in case. While I was giving her EBM (as she wouldn't feed from the boob) I made sure that I was having lactose free dairy products myself (ie: milk) just to be on the safe side. I hope things get better for you soon, but your DP sounds very supportive which must be a huge benefit.

Big hello to everyone else....

[barney]

girls thanks so much for all the lovely words,love to you all as you have all made me feel lots better knowing that im not over feeding my girl shes just a hungry baby.
so still no better here though and ive just sent dh to the chemist to see if we can get something for charlies wind,like you green my girl is suffering bad,cant burp and crys from pain ,i can put her down and 5 mins later shes crying again as she cant get the wind up DOH.. so im waiting for my man to get back hopefully with some magic medicne lol ill keep you posted oh and we now think that 2 am is play time until anout 3.30 am mmmmmmmmmm im so confused lol..
have a wonderful day girls agian im reading all the posts and big hugs to you all hang in there girls lets stick together and in years to come we will be laughing at all this I HOPE LOL...
happy birthday kelly.

[onthefly]

Acacia - What a wonderful post!

Poppy - It really sounds loike you know exactly what you're little one needs and are doing fantastically.

Green - Sorry things are so unsettled for you. But....babies don't get lactose intolerance. I mean, it's extremely rare. They can develop it at a later age, but babies are designed to drink milk and so are designed to have lactose. They can get lactose overload - especially if they've had diarohea, as this can strip the gut of lactase, which breaks down lactose. It generally just sorts itself out with time. I hope you can get some better advice - maybe an LC or the ABA?

They can have an allergy to dairy protein, which is also fairly uncommon. If that's the case, you would need to eliminate dairy from your diet so it doesn't pass through your milk. I think you really need to get expert advice on that, though, preferrably from your pead - what a nuisance they're so hard to see! Have you made an appointment anyway? Probably a good idea - you can always cancel if things imporve before then.

Has the medication for thrush had any effect, do you think? Thrush can make babies very, very unsettled and uncomfortable. They have all the signs of reflux, wind, colic, whatever you want to call it.

The best thing for silent reflux is being upright as much as possible. We used to have to hold DS upright after feeds - at least 20 minutes or so. And for about a month or so we literally could not lie him down at all. I slept sitting upright in bed holding him. It was the only thing that gave him relief. It's not ideal, but it was the only way to get through it. Once the reflux settled by around 9 weeks, we were able to start lying him down again. I even propped him up in the pram to sleep (with rolled up towels on either side to stop him sliding over).

Do you have a sling or something Smithy? It's the easiest way to keep them close and upright, which can help with gas.

[barney]

MARCELLUS,honestly hun were would we all be with out you and your wonderful advice .me personally just want to say thanks for trying to help me trust me im listening to everything you say ,so just then i made charlies bassinet uprite lol ive now got a big blanket under her little metress so shes asleep on a lean-sloap iykwim and dh bought back something called INFACOL and so far so good but im not going to get to excited she might hear me pmsl...and tomorrow when i get paid im off to buy a sling thanks hun

[Murph01]

I'm late, I'm late for a very important date, but got three things to say

happy Birthday to the Divine Miss Magpie too

Poppyfairy, your HV or weighing cow is a fecking eedgit....grrrrrrrrr. My gorgeous girl never self settles (at 16 weeks today), but I love cuddles and kknowing we do it together. No stress, just wonderful, short-lived settling to sleep. The warmest feeling there is...and boob on tap. So what.....more grrrrrr at that stupid woman.

Oh and as for me...heave away, haul away, bound for South Australia. He got the job!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!

[onthefly]

Congrats to your DH Murph!

[TaRhLi.]

Yay Murph, congrats on DH's new job... Better start stocking up on winter woolies though, you must have a wardrobe full of summer stuff only and by geez it will be cold on KI during winter bbbbrrrr and windy too me thinks. Yay though that you are moving down south, now I know you are SA bound DH & I might have to make a trip to SA as I would love to meet you in person and we are only 3hrs away from the SA border. Will it be easy to get all of Jazzy's treatment transferred down to SA?? or will you still have to go back to Brisvegas to get it done???

Smithy: because Tara had reflux we have always propped her up to sleep. First by using towels in her bassinet and now in her cot I bought on Ebay a "sleeping wedge" I think it cost me something like $30, but since we started using it it has worked wonders for us. Just a thought.... and now she can roll over the sleeping wedge makes it harder for her as well.

[Greenslw]

Acacia your having a rough trott aren't you. Hope you're feeling better soon

KellyD I'm hoping to keep bf and have been looking into lactos intolarance that is passed through my milk, aparently if I eat drink cow products it can effect DS. I already avoid chease and milk drinks but don't want to give up my cerial and yoghurt but if it helps I will.

quick update, DS has a bladder infection! poor little man, so the GP said take him off the reflux treatment for now, which is good cos it's giving him the worst runny poos and they seam to really distress him on the way out. So cos my mum freaked me out re penacilon etc. I'm now watching baby even though he's fast asleep and probably would sleep in his bed which he did twice today

[onthefly]

Hope the bladder infection clears up soon - no wonder he's so unsettled

KellyD I'm hoping to keep bf and have been looking into lactos intolarance that is passed through my milk, aparently if I eat drink cow products it can effect DS. I already avoid chease and milk drinks but don't want to give up my cerial and yoghurt but if it helps I will.

Green, I'm no expert admitedly, but as I understand it lactose is not transferred through milk from the mother's diet. Lactose is the sugar in milk - human and dairy. If a baby has an allergy to dairy protein, however, that can be passed through the milk from the mother's diet. An LC would probably be able to clarify this properly.

[barney]

quick update, DS has a bladder infection! poor little man, so the GP said take him off the reflux treatment for now, which is good cos it's giving him the worst runny poos and they seam to really distress him on the way out. So cos my mum freaked me out re penacilon etc. I'm now watching baby even though he's fast asleep and probably would sleep in his bed which he did twice today

aww poor little man hun ,i hope it all clears up very soon and i also hope you get some rest tonight sweety.

acacia.. oh you poor thing hun i truely hope your feeling better soon MWAH to you

kelly.. ok off to look at ebay now sweety thanks for the tip

murph..yay for dh new job..way to go

poppy.. thinking of you hun

mm..happy birthday to sweet.

neptune,grub,bg,kahlan a big hello girls and nosey nosey from baby charlie

omg my first perssies pmsl wasnt much but its a good start and im so sorry if i missed you but im still getting there.

[Neptune]

Well done Smithy love, good effort!

Murph - Wooohoo, how exciting, a big move!

Green - you poor bub, and poor you, hope things settle for you very soon.

Acacia - goodness, you have been ill! I always think when your system is compromised, you will get everything, so here's hoping you feel much better very soon.

Hello to everyone else, just sneaking on here when supposed to be studying.

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[onthefly]

Oh. He's beautiful Neptune!

[Murph01]

I'm not trying to steal your thunder Neptune I am racking up firsts (and last memories) with only weeks til we leave our tropical paradise. I have lots of photos on here as I put them up for family as well so feel free to skip through them before you come back and tell me how gorgeous the cutest girl in the world is...hahaha...you think I am kidding but lucky Jasmine cant hear, because that's what I call her. I bet you all do that too, but in my case, it's true... Ooh, I can feel the love coming back at me...and I'm ducking!!!

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[Murph01]

Kelly, where do you live? Sounds like it's near where I was born...do you know Casterton/Merino? Yes, it would be great to catch up. It's so funny you mention about the winter woollies, as I have some beautiful outfits that jazz would never have been able to wear up here and I actually thought of sending them to you! Sorry, better keep them now by the sounds.

Green, hope you are faring a bit better now. It really does improve as they get a bit more robust and learn about the world, but right now, you are his world and it helps to lower your expectations of getting life back to normal. This is normal for now and these little people don't manipulate us, they just have needs that are more important than ours at the moment. I still can't get over those comments that HV made to Poppy.

Poppy, I personally think the term "velcro baby" is unhelpful at such a young age, as most labeling usually is. Your baby's needs are just being met by you right now, which makes you a pretty damn fantastic mother and you should be proud of yourself. I am! Seriously, you will find so many rewarding moments for choosing to trust your own instincts and learn what works best for your family. I still lie there after a cuddle and sarcastically remark to DH that we are making a rod for our backs and should be letting her cry it out and learn the rules! Instead, here we are, snuggling together for food, comfort, warmth and love...what bad, bad parents we are hey? Keep up the fantastic effort and hang onto that man of yours...he speaks good sense too

[onthefly]

awwwww

man i am so clucky now

[TaRhLi.]

Green: Your poor little man, so much has happened since he entered this world. At least you can get his bladder infection sorted out as I'm sure that every time he peed it would have been hurting him as well..

Neptune: OMG Adam is so BIG, the photo's of him sitting up make him look like he is so much older than he is.... although I suppose everyone tells you he looks big for his age.

Murph: Oh you are so sweet to think of us but yes Jazz will be needing all her woolies for sure and wow moving so fast hope all the packing goes well. Yep we know Casterton, we live in a little town called Linton which is about 30km's west of Ballarat, from here it is about 3-3 1/2 hours to Mount Gambier.

Smithy: yay for the personals, but we know what it is like when you are sleep deprived.. everything starts to blend together..Happy I could be of help re: the sleeping wedge.

Acacia: Man you have had a rough few weeks as well, hope you feel better soon and at least you now have a happy DD back to make you feel better as well.

Poppy: Hope you feel better today, you are doing so well.

Marcellus: Your words of wisdom are so helpful, that's what I love about this thread having mum's who have experienced so much more than us to offer advice.

BW: Haven't seen you around for a while. I hope Sam is feeling better and has got over his germs..

If I missed anyone else, I'm sending you a big hello as well...

[barney]

have a great weekend girls.