Parenting after LT TTC #4

[Murph01]

Congrats on Xavier's hips Saph. that must be a load off. It's great ticking off all the seemingly endless tests for problems or potential problems. I know we were totally shocked that along with our hearing tests for Jazz, we needed ECGs, eye tests, hip x-rays and other genetic testing just to rule out other problems and when they come back clear, it's sweet relief hey? Now if only you could get him to sleep. Surely common sense would have to prevail with sleeping him where he is comfortable and there must be ways to do it safely. Sounds like a real tough one. I generally put Jazz on her side if she has just fallen asleep through a feed and is that way already, she goes down really easily, but always goes back to her back. I've never tried the tummy, so I'm no help, but I'm thinking of you and hope you all get relief soon.

Smithy, you little rooty toot!!! Woohoo..Great news girl. You must be so happy. Sounds like the big place we have just moved into which after being in 1 and 2 bedroom houses on the edge of the rainforest the past few years, is pure luxury and we are loving it, even though it's huge on us. lol. You will just love it...no neighbours, you couldn't ask for more. I'm so thrilled for you because I know you were unhappy.

As for me, I'm off to our first therapy session today in Adelaide and my Mum is coming over from Melbourne and we are all having a big family get together at my Auntie's so I am very excited. Mum hasn't seen Jasmine since she was less than 2 weeks old and it's been so hard on us to be apart. she is now moving back to Townsville and we broke the deal moving to the other end of the earth so we have to get in all the visits we can while she is close. She is flying over to be with us for a few days after Adelaide too so I can't wait to see her tonight. Yay!

Off I trot. Catch you all in a few day's when I return. xox

[Murph01]

Err, that's a terrible place to put an apostrophe "a few day's when I return". I live with the apostrophe Police. Moderators, please don't let me publish such grammatical errors in future. Typos I can live with but, oh the horror of mis-placed apostrophes

[grub17]

murph, misplaced doesn't need to be hyphenated hhahhaa. I'm hearing you about the aposts. I'm not such a nazi anymore cos we had heaps of trouble with this keyboard awhile back and it wouldn't type what i was!

sounds like you will have a degree in dealing with bureacracy! what a jib to have to go through that! my mum had to have heart surgery in Brissie a few years ago as they did not do that type of surgery in NQ and it was pulling teeth to access the govt remote travel allowance scheme! i hope you get the hang of it soon as i don't think the system will improve - only your ability to see the loopholes. And don't forget to google! you might find a forum where the members have some good tips for you. Have fun with your mumma!!! and your fam! how exciting

Smithy - YYIIIPPPEEE! good luck. no neighbours! sounds devine. I think ours have moved bedroom as last night for the first time in 5 years i heard them coughing, sneezing, snoring at night!!! it's like they were in my bedroom. it freaked me out in my sleepy haze so loving no neighbour plan! lol. When could you move if you took it?

saph - i think the guidelines are to let them be, but don't wrap them if they are rolling onto their belly as they can get tangled or the wrap can bunch under their face. with the cooler weather maybe the time to invest in a sleeping bag thingy. I tend to think let him be, what else can you do that would have him sleeping happily? not alot me thinks. I think that really is the best advice for any mum - whatever they want, just go with it, even if it's against the "rules". and yay yay yay for hips!!!

Hi Campbell, are you being a nice big boy for your mummy?

oh kelly, i'm feeling for you. what you feel is pretty understandable love. But look at what you have! I know it doesn't make it any easier, but we all are on this path for a reason and I believe, for us anyway, its made us stronger and closer in our marriage and more able to treasure DS (not that those lucky for normal conceiving don't treasure but ykwim). And maybe if we didn't have this battle our relationship wouldn't be as great as it is! I really do think it's a case of "door closes, window opens".

Personally i never felt any aminosity to my friends or family who were able to get preg at the drop of the undies because i wouldn't wish anyone to have to go through AC BUT the preg smoking 17yr olds with a snotty, dirty baby in a trolley and a bottle of wine ready to go makes me mad beyond comprehension. and yes, they actually exist out the front of our shopping centre. But also remember your friend will have her hands full! 2 under 2! oh god, now that sounds like a nightmare (says the lady considering doing the same lol).

marcellus - i like your words that it waxes and wanes. I think we'll definitely wait til August to see how we are feeling. Never know, if ash weans himself early then we might just go for it. atm we've decided to enjoy our baby for at least 2 years and then come back for the embies. but doc says i have to go back on metformin a few months before we start to try YUK YUK YUK CACK CACK CACKY. hate that stuff!

neptune - how is ads going? are you running with him in the pram? i've been sssooo slack, after hyperextending both my knees repeatedly i had to stop runnign for awhile and now can't find the motivation to get back out there! boohoo. still have lots of weight to lose too.

lenny you stil about?

Janie how is Jasmine today?

BG - is E keeping you on your toes this week?

boc - my lovely friend? how you coping? is all going well?

green - our unused frosties would go to research. but we are going to use em as we figure we paid for them (read that as "dh is a tight bum and wouldn't ditch anything we'd paid for. yes we are the doggy bag people at the restaurant). But if we happened to have left overs we have opted to give them to research. Like someone else said, I coldn't handle the thought of a little child or ours was walking around with someone else, if they are going to live, then it has to be with me! WE had to choose what to do and fill out forms for our clinic before we started ivf. WE figured research would be helping others still.

did he continue the sleeping extension? i hope so!

All is well here. were thinking of camping for easter but need a portacot; want to go where there's fresh water and no people; and it's raining - so staying home and going another time.

one of my BFFS had a baby boy, named him Augustin - unusual but quite like it

Ash seems to have fallen into a pattern at night - goes to bed anywhere from 7.30pm to 9pm and needs me to cuddle him to sleep (i don't mind ) then no matter what time he goes to bed wakes at 2/2.30am for a feed and change and then sleeps through to 6/6.30am and then back to bed again!

lovin the rain and can't wait for easter. wonder if the Lindt bunny will visit me

what you girllies doing for easter?

[briggsy's girl]

BG - is E keeping you on your toes this week?

YES!!! LOTS!!
i'm loving every minute of it, but it makes keeping up with people and persies so very difficult! we are in the midst of a wonder week (yup, she gets the teeth through that are giving her grief, has ONE good night, then the WW kicks in!) - will sleep on me, will sleep in her cot during the day. but at night, try to settle her, she goes into a deep sleep in the bed beside me, try moving her to the cot so that i can sleep comfortably - not a chance! she wakes up, kicks her legs, flaps her arms, is as chipper as anything - no matter how late it is! last night she didn't want to go to sleep so i took her to bed at 9.50 - 11.30 she finally crashed into a deep enough sleep we though we could move her (this was after being put in her bed twice and ending up coming back to feed again and again) - nope! ended up cracking the poos, putting her between us and just closing my eyes. no idea what time she eventually crashed, but she got put in her own bed about 3, slept til 5, had another feed. woke again at 6.50 (10 mins before i was getting up to try and get a shower before DH left for work), feeding for 20 mins, then fighting sleep while i had a quick dunk and DH was still around to resettle her. she has now been asleep since then, but it's not a deep sleep - she is stirring a lot. won't get her up til she wakes properly though as we're going shopping with mum today - the more rested she is the better! lol

this is kinda the pattern for most nights for us - which is getting very tiresome. DH and I have a theory that she wants to be an only child and is trying to put us off the idea of another (or is trying to prevent another happening in her own way!) - she is such a beautiful natured little girl most of the time though - her master plan isn't working! we had a bad morning the other morning when she was tired (17 tanties in just over half an hour) - but episodes like that are so few and far between.... she has moments where i wonder what is going through her brain cos she seems so much older and frustrated with her limitations - but mostly, she is a happy, smiley, chatty, engaging little girl. ahhhh mummy is in love!

so, with all this going on, and keeping up with a couple of friends that have had some issues, helping DH find his place in life now that he can't drive trucks, organising E's birthday and getting ready to go back to work, i tend to read, but just not have time to post persies - it's not that i don't care, i just run out of time!! this thread and my baby buddies stay open all day some days with the intention of getting back to it to post - and nothin!

argh - best away - might have time to post in baby buddies before e gets up! or maybe a hot cuppa... decisions decisions...

[grub17]

lol BG glad to hear she is well. and Yes, this mummy is in love too! I hope she settles down soon regarding the sleep.

Ash was doing something similar... rock him to nearly asleep put him in his cot... screaming awake. so i just rock him til he is good and passed out, then dreamfeed and then put to bed. it means i'm stuck on the lounge for a couple of hours at night, but i'm a tv addict and saw a great doco about the heart last night But he usually only does this once a day - mostly the first night sleep and usualy (fingers crossed) once he's down, that's it til the wee small hours.

I can't believe E will be one soon!!! Whenver you get the chance to pop on again, i'd love ot hear what you are planning for her birthday?

And anyone else - what are you planning or did you do for your child's 1st bday? Theres a possibility we'll be on the road driving to our new home for Ds's 1st bday so i'm not sure what we'll be doing. i really really wanted to make him a cake tho. we'll see.

he's still asleep! it's so dark and miserable here, i think he thinks its nighttime! lol.

[Greenslw]

Murph enjoy some nanna time I hope you have a great therapy session too.

Grub my Dh is the same re use of things paid for and lots of things sort through scavenging (from friends etc). Thanks for sharing your frostie story too Yes DS sleeps 3x4 hours now at night 7-11 11-3 and 3-7 happy mummy (15-30min feed in there too). Then apauling during the day. Oh I had a lindt bunny for Nanna but last night it disapeared

briggsy sorry baby is being fussy it sux.

Marcellus my sore bit is at the front on the side were a stitch was. ouchy still but a bit itchy so fingers crossed it's healing 7 months is ages, I hope not.

KellyD pg at the drop of a hat has down sides, 3 under 3 4 under 5 (that's my friends) they are so tired and would do anything to have had a little more time in there, before DS I was so envious but now I'm happy it's my call. Well done on organising mums group too.

Saph Linc sleeps in a woombie (sleepsack cos he get's out of wraps) inbetween wedges on his side (I know I know not SIDS recomended but with a windy baby it works better) in a bassinet (for a bit longer) dark room radio on LOUD. Great about Xaviers hips too

Goodluck for today Smithy

OK yesterday was a horror. DSS was suposed to watch Linc who was stiring for 5 minutes while his dad got home and I went for a wax, well I gave him instructions about it's time for a feed etc. DH got home DSS went to his room said nothing. DH though Linc was due for a sleep and when I got home an hour and a half later Linc wasn't feed histerical! OMG. We fed Linc ASAP and DH ripped into DSS, I was so mad but just stayed quiet. He said "I was only going to tell DH if he asked!" because that's what I said. OMG. Did you not hear the screams and did you not think to open your mouth.

So no more baby sitting for DSS and notes will be left for DH. I really was ****ed off though. I also think DH needs to chat to DSS NOW re his feelings I do think he is jelous or something, this is so out of his normally helpful nature.

Linc then was up from 4.30-7.30pm didn't want to sleep, so I just went with it put him on his play mat, he ate double and spewed up but was still hungrey I guess over hungrey. But then got back into his pattern of 4x3 hoour waking. 7am is so much more civilised.

He also seams to go down like a dream at night pat pat out like a light but during the day OMG pat pat sleep, then ahhhhhhhh in his bed, dummy in then ahhhhhhhh with the dummy in, pick up pat pat etc for about 5 mins then out. Who knows what's going on in his head.

Oh how long does it take to change our avitars?

[barney]

oh green your little boy seems to be settleing a lot now ,what a good bubba boy any sleep is better than none hey lol AND DSS wellllllll i think to me it sounds like he really needs a swift kick up the back side (how old is he hunny ?) jelouse or not there is no exscuse as im sure you and dh would give him just as much attentions as linc so maybe he just needs to grow up a bit as this is the boy linc will be looking up to his big brotherhope dh has a chat to him hun and all calms down a bit with him
re avvys hun not long at all usually
MURPH, yay hunny enjoy some nanny time im sure your mum will be so thrilled to see jazzy
GRUB,hello hun thanks for all the luk ,im so excited i tell ya i just hope the inside of the house is as nice as the outside

[onthefly]

Green - hopefuly it won't take that long for you

Saph - me, I would just sleep him on his tummy.... Good news about the hips!

Murph, that's what the Edit Post button is for...

Hiya Grub, BG, Smithy and everyone else.

btw, Lenny's internet crapped out. Not sure when she'll be back

[briggsy's girl]

Grub, E's invites got printed this week ready for me to put magnets on the back and send them out. we had loosely bantered the idea of rainbows for a theme. E has no specific obsessions yet (thankfully) so i thought rainbows would be nice and bright and easy to achieve. i won a half price photo manipulation on FB (gotta love pages that give stuff away!) and gave the girl free reign to do what she wanted - she put a scene together that incorporated E as an angel in a boat, floating in a boat, the earth in the background with a rainbow across it and unicorn as well. it was just perfect - so now we're taking the rainbow/unicorn theme together and using that for her birthday!

we're having a get together here - we have a reasonably sized house and large carport, will set up here, just having a light afternoon tea (homemade sausage rolls, savoury scones, quiches etc), unicorn balloons and stuff. her cake is a present from my ex-boss (who i have remained good friends with) - two layers with a unicorn and rainbow. bottom cake is going to be a swirled choc/white choc mud cake (i hope!), top cake a lighter vanilla type cake (though it will be swirled with chocolate and pink cake as well) that we can remove and freeze to use for a cake smash photo shoot (unless we can arrange photographer for the next day - or i get brave and take them myself).

E's birthday party will wind down and those who want to hang around will be able to hang here for a bit of a late celebration for my 30th. i can't justify putting on two parties in a month and seeing DH is insisting on doing something for my bday, that will do! i have my bday and first mothers day together - why do i need a party as well.

argh! there she goes - better go get her! late nap today cos we were out with mum!

Grub - i read your birth story hun - sounds like a very positive experience for you - well done hun!

[barney]

marcellus hun
and a big hi to everyone else today im off to get some easter shopping done though not much as i find it a waste of money so all the kids can have a new pair of winter pyjammas(sp ) and a small egg,we also seen the house yesterday and we love it so hopeing to be mooved in there in 3 weeks time,i really just need to get my head around the thought of snakes im petrified of them but i suppose ill be ok i mean its the bush what didi i exspect lol.
not sure if ill get on again till after easter so i wish you all a beautiful one with your families especially all you girls who are having your first easter with your new bubbas ,enjoy girls and if anyone is going anywere in your cars PLEASE BE CAREFULL.
love to you all smithy xxoo

[Janie71]

Hi Girls - just wanted to jump on and wish everyone a happy Easter. Like Smithy, I'm not sure if I will get a chance to get on again.

BG - Jazzy also went through the same thing about a month or so ago - around the time that 3 of her top teeth popped through... must have been in agony poor thing. Hope it improves soon. E's birthday sounds wonderful!

Smithy - got my fingers crossed for you to get that house!

Green - how naughty of DSS - it does sound like a heart to heart is needed. My advice (which you don't need to take) is that your DH take him somewhere to do something that they both enjoy and try and get him to open up about how he is feeling. As the child of a broken marriage and a remarriage I can understand the way he may be feeling, but that does not excuse the behaviour. Blended families are wonderful things, but they do come with their own set of challenges. Hope that you can all get it sorted out and get DSS back to his normal good self.

Hi Marcellus, Grub, BOC, Murph, Saph, BW, Kelly, Neptune and all those that I have forgotten.

AFU - well MIss Jasmine is still sick. We thought she was getting better and then she developed a cough. Took her to doc on Tues and she said the good thing is that everything else is looking better - temp, ears, throat. So it is just the last stage of this virus. But she is not well enough to be a daycare - mainly because if any of the others are sick she would catch it as her immunity is low at the moment. DH stayed home with her yesterday and I am home from work today. One good thing is that the doc is impressed that the virus has not developed into anything more and that although it is taking a long time Jazzy's immunity is fighting the virus on its own with no help from meds. Hopefully this will make her stronger for the future.

Its Jazzy's birthday tomorrow!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Wow, I still cannot believe that it has been a whole year. She is definitely not a baby any more. She is taking increasing steps on her own which is just amazing. We have not put on a party for Jazzy this year as most of our family are o/s. So we will have celebrations with them when they make their trips over in the next couple of months. We as a family (Me, DH and Jazzy) were hoping to go to Melbourne Zoo and have a picnic tomorrow, but it is really going to be dependant on how well she is... we can do that any day over the long weekend if she is not well enough tomorrow.

So hope you all have a great long weekend and stay safe.

Janie and Jasmine xxx

[briggsy's girl]

Happy Birthday for tomorrow Jasmine!

[grub17]

oh janie! a year already!! Happy Birthday Jasmine!

ox

[saph204]

Happy birthday Jasmine.

Smithy I agree with the easter, we all get new PJ's and a small egg, especially since Campbell shouldnt eat chocolate.

Well Xavier had his needles yesterday as did Campbell and I. Background for you here, Campbell has never cried having his needles he just gives the nurse dirty looks. well Xavier screamed the surgery down. I have never heard anything like it. It was a cross between a baby cry, cat scream, violent fit noise. He was quiet unsettled but then he always is. Doc also gave us a script for losec. Campbell had this when he was about 8 months old and it helped no end. So lets hope it helps Xavier as well. Didnt help last night but then he had the biggest power chuck every. (Also finding it hard to get it into him as he spits it out.) I was sitting in the nursery covered in it calling for Dh as i didnt want to stand up because it would have gone all over the carpet. But he didnt hear me so bundled it all up in my clothes and went to find him. Nice having to have a shower and one o'clock in the morning. We are starting to stretch out the feeds at night Last night it was 9pm, 12.30-1.30 (had to do it twice as I wore the first lot) and then 5.45 its just that I have to resettle him three or four times inbetween these. I am not worrying about trying to fix it at the moment as we go away in 11 days for two weeks. All those of you in Adelaide and Townsville you are about to be invaded. It is our 10th wedding aniversary and I have organised for Dh to be a Zoo keeper for the day at the Adelaide Zoo and I want to take Campbell to see the Pandas. Well this was a bit of a ramble. Have a lovely easter everyone. Chat again soon.

[TaRhLi.]

Hi All

Just wanting to wish you all a very happy Easter as well and a special happy birthday to Jasmine for tomorrow.

I've been really busy lately and with a grumpy baby it's been tiring. We have been getting teething symptoms and Tara has also been getting a bit colicy as well with the solid foods (lots of stinky farts ) so have had to give her some colic drops as well to get things moving for her. She has also gone back to being a very chucky baby again... She still has the extra thickener in her bottles and even if I thicken up the solids we still get vomits up to 3 hours after feeding, so my washing machine has been working overtime lately with lots of changes of clothes for Tara for me and also having to change her bed linen as well. Don't know if this is because of the teething, the colic or just her being a pig and overeating but it is so yucky especially if we have to go out and both her and me end up smelling of sour milk. I can't wait until she can sit up properly as hopefully this will help to keep everything down for longer. I'm also having fights with her at the moment to have her day sleeps, as she no longer has the dummy she will only fall asleep sucking her thumb and during the day she will only do this if she is put on her side to sleep. Only problem is that once on her side (in the safe sleeper) she still manages to get onto her tummy which wakes her up again and I have to go in to her and start the whole process again. At least at night we are still o.k and by 8pm she is falling asleep on our lap if we don't put her to bed and generally don't hear anything from her until 8am the next day.

Anyway DH has today off work as a public service public holiday so 5 days at home to give me a rest, he is even going to do the full time mum thing one day while he is off to see it is not as easy as it seems. I'll have to let you all know how that one goes.

[barney]

WE GOT THE HOUSE GIRLS.MOOVING THE 22ND


AND A BIG HAPPY FIRST BITHDAY FOR TOMORROW JAZZY.

[Greenslw]

Oh smithy your new pic is adorable. DSS is 16! got us both some chocolate for easter b4 leaving for his mums, he is a good kid but DH and him need to chat. hope you enjoyed your easter shopping. I'm off when DH gets home. good work on new house too. Been a week re avitar what email should I use?

Briggsy hmmmmmmm your get together sounds so yummy. Happy B'day to your little budle of joy

Janie, DSS is great to me, very helpful and we've always got on like a house on fire, since he was 12. DH and he have been chest beeting on and off for a year now, I guess it's the roster thing I've said similar to DH but we'll see he seams to focus on what DSS has done not the reason behind it. MEN. HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO JAZZY

oh saph Linc had his needles today it was awful but two nurses so only one pain he loved the oral stuff though (lucky me) but he was hungrey so I guess that helped. wow what a treat for DH I hope he loves it. wonder what you'll get? what is it? copper? (I'm only at 4 here)

KellyD sorry to hear Tara's belly isn't the best and I sympothise with the washing. what drops are you using? DS seams to work best on Braurer for me.

ATM Linc had his needles and is very sooky and sleepy. So loads of cuddles and sleeps. I got a hamock on ebay WHY DIDN"T I GET THIS SOONER. Link is about 3 inches from being too big but he loves it, He hasn't slept like this during the day for weeks, he actually slept an hour before stiring then down for another 40mins. I'm hoping this might ease the horror of Mr overtired at the end of the day (yesterday only a 20min nap 3.30-8.30pm)

DH was happy Linc woke up at 5am I'm not happy cos he didn't go back to sleep till 6.30am then up at 7.30. oh well can't complain really.

Happy easter all

[grub17]

wwwhhhooopppeee smithy!!! that's fantastic. And snakes aren't THAT bad! lol

kellyd - yay for dh being mum for a day! pity Ash's milk supply is attached to my chest, as i'd love a bit more of a break.

hi green. what you doing for easter? glad linc improved his day sleep.

Ash rolled over!! twice! He was supposed to be having a sleep as per the little routine he'd settled into over the past 2 or so weeks. but instead cried out a lot so i got him up and he laid on the ground and happily rolled over and played with his hands! His feeds and sleeps have been all over the shop today... he's been awake for a lot longer than usual (which is normally 90mins MAX) so maybe he's finally decided to extend his waking times.

I was getting worried as some days he'd be lucky to stay awake an hour at a time, including feeding, changing times!

i really wish they'd give us their plans a day ahead so we can plan our day too! lol.

mmm choccie choccie. i bought DH some chocs but i think he forgot to get me anything

be safe everyone ox