Well first of all, I hope you all had the happiest Mother's day ever. I couldn't quite get used to the fact that it would be my first either, but I got more and more excited and the day was better than Christmas cos it was all mine and it was fantastic!!! My DH is so damn special, I think I'll keep him. Morning after morning when I thought he was up working on his thesis, he was plotting and planning on the computer making me a book from Jazzy. Then it arrived in the mail and he had to stop himself form showing it to me early. Oh, it's so beautiful, from birth to her first 5 months in words told by Jasmine. It's absolutely awesome and it's going to take some beating for Father's day...damn he's too organised. Meanwhile, I managed only to get my Mum a card made online and still plodding away on a calendar....ahh to have time! And while I'm bragging, then I had yummy smoked salmon and scrambled eggs on turkish bread with garden fresh salad (and the good tea set Grub ) and later in the morning we went to check out a gorgeous surf beach with white talcum soft sand and that was devine until we dipped Jazz in for her first little splash and a huge mumma of a wave drenched her in freezing water. Ooops, DH felt soooo bad as we were only doing it for a photo moment to compare to our former Daintree photos. Off with the clothes and bundled into DHs yummy hoodie and all was forgiven. When we got home, we all had lunch and a sleep in bed together. Bliss Perfection. sorry to boast but I'm the girl that has to sit back when other girls are running down their men for being slack at everything (housework as well) and have nothing to contribute cos I got a goodin and I won't settle for less anyway.
As for how I have been travelling. Oh gawd, too much to tell, too much going on with the surgery saga and the will she or won't she? It's taken over my life, which I didn't want to happen but now I know it has to happen in order to really get on top of things and do everything I can for Jasmine ito have the best opportunities to develop normally. So life, apart from the amazing time I'm having with my 6 month old who is talking up a storm, sitting up, rolling over, laughing, smiling, eating solids and filling every crevice of my world with love and fascination (and mushy banana), is a tad bit busy. I've become one of those people...oh dear a child's advocate, knocking on all doors to find solutions. I am really having a few wins but still don't have all my ducks lined up. I have found a foundation who want to provide support with travel and I have an amazing bloke who is doing a lot of legal work to overturn my health fund's decision to not cover us. He's a ball breaker and I reckon he will win. It's not a legal challenge, it's just a company CEO with a lot of nouse and experience in negotiating. He has already done so much for us just to get us on the program in Melbourne, let alone everything he is trying to do. He has also got our surgery costs donated and is now looking for another $52 000 and we will be good to go. I haven't felt worhty of your praise when you've told me I'm brave, but I guess now I am starting to accept that it is taking its toll. Sorry Grub, but I finally cried. I decided to throw my hands up in the air and tell the world to get stuffed, and had a big exhausted cry, you now the type where you are not just crying for this situation, but for the IVF and the bloody hard time you've had...yep, an all out pity party. But Jazzy was watching and she was so confused as she has never seen me cry so she just tried to crack me up laughing and she succeeded. Yep, that did it. "don't waste another minute being unhappy Mum cos I am so damn happy and I dont know any better", was her attitude. So we just had a big old cuddle and got on with it and I decided to just go hard at trying to get the surgery early but not get too upset if we have to wait and there is a bit of developmental delay. It fully sucks if it doens't go ahead and I considered moving interstate blah blah blah, but we'll get there. We have really good people trying to help us.
So, yep. I have been hiding under a rock and will be there a bit I think. I haven't used facebook in a month, I haven't written to anyone back in the daintree, all the promises go out the window and it's just all about us at the moment until I gain a bit of momentum and then regain balance.
Awww Murph what a nice thing DH did for you they take ages to get together and it is such a special forever gift glad you had a great day.
KellyD at more babies wow back on the train so soon, mind you I miss my belly still.
BOC hope you had an ok weekend and bubs is more settled. I'd steal their porta cot
Saph hope you and the boyz are great and you got something nice yesterday.
Marcellus for work
Neptune hope Adam is back to his nice ruitine for you LUCKY LADY
Wow new set out is strange, will get used to it.
Yesterday was BLAH but I don't want to go on about it, I think I need to be more real with my expectations.
Rang the Union about my rights for work and they have to "concider" part time so I'll see how I go tomorrow. Wish me luck ladies.
I think Linc is teething or something big is going on, runny poo loads of drooling, chomping (hard) on everything. I know this doesn't always mean teeth but he's been up at 12midnight for an extra feed too again so tired mummy.
hi girls. wow the site looks different!
hey murph - you must be a bit spesh to use the 'good tea set' rofl. And crying is absolutely allowed! i hoped you felt better. I"m a bit of a fan of a big sooky-lah-lah cry every now and then. I'm a stress crier, when i stress I cry but it usually makes me feel better. You are the best mum jazzy could have! weather or not everything goes to the ideal time frame, I think she'll be just fine cos she's got you two as parents Remember all this happens for a reason and if you don't make the timeline, maybe there is a reason for that... something that jazzy is meant to do etc (not sure if that makes sense).
Oh and give your DH a good ole pat on the back love! what a treasure. But i'd be concerned about that sneakiness he's shown lol.
kelly d - that is so super exciting! fingers crossed.
well it looks like i have a baby whose a stickler for his routine and his bed and his grobag in precisely the correct order, thank you very much mummy! it's like all the sudden he woke up one day and decided to be precious! lol. My mum assures me i'm getting my comeuppance for being a little bbeee-atch.
But he's settled into a 7am wake up 7pm bed routine with 2 x 2hr sleeps and an arvo nap He's nearly 5 months now and is eating solids like they are going out of fashion, so today i added lunch to the menu. But we are still only on farex, carrot, potato, pumpkin. Tomorrow is 'add a food day' but not sure if i should go sweet potato, oats, yoghurt, avocado or banana. hhmm any suggestions?
The only thing that is bugging us atm is he keeps wetting through his MCNs... THREE complete bed, clothes, nappy changes last night! brh.
anyhoo going to explore this newfangled site.
oxoxo
hope you all had a happy mum's day. I was also spoilt and like murph, I really have no major complaints agains DH - he cooks, he cleans, he rubs feet (usually on the way to elsewhere but hey gotta give a bloke a break lol). We had grilled crossiants with ham and super naughty cheese followed by a lunch of chicken and veg rice paper rolls; fish and chips and sticky date pud with icecream.... mmmwwwaaaahhhhh got a breastfeeding necklace and flowers to boot.
Murph: So nice to see you back, I was wondering how you and the precious Jazzy were going. Wow you sure have a lot on your plate but I agree with Grub, she has chosen the best mummy & daddy to help her through no matter what happens. OMG, so much for Jellyfish Jazz... it seems like she has made huge leaps and is now ahead of Tara. We are only now sitting on our own, still no attempt to roll any further than what she has been doing for almost 3 months and no sign of teeth either.
Grub: Yay for routine but it can be a bugger if you need to do something and it spoils the routine.... Tara is one who also only likes to sleep in her cot (the porta cot will also surfice) but this means if we are out she just will not go to sleep and will only crash in the car seat when she is exhausted but this generally occurs about 10 minutes from home.
Green: I hope you can get some resolution about going Part Time...
And also a big Happy Mothers Day to you all for yesterday... I also got breakfast in bed - poached eggs on toast - and I got a beautiful keepsake present of a Swarovski Crystal baby girl bear (she has a pink bow) to remember my first mothers day. After everything we went through I wanted something I could keep forever to remember this special day. Then to top it all off my mum & dad came over in the afternoon and brought over with them an apple & blueberry pie from the Sovereign Hill bakery. It was so yummy that we had left overs for dessert as well.
Now a question for our more experienced mummies... Tara has now become a child who seems to persist in rolling onto her tummy for her day sleeps. Seems good in theory as she can turn her head but she still doesn't know how to roll back onto her back and therefore she wakes herself up when she wants to change position. We try and put things in to block her from rolling onto her tummy but she can do it in the one spot so that doesn't help, and we generally end up in a rolling game that can take anything up to 40 minutes for her to fall asleep on her back or side. Any thoughts or ideas what I can do?? At night she is no problem and falls asleep on her back it is just the day sleeps that are the issue.
Hi girls! And a big happy mothers day to you all - especially those of you who have just celebrated your very first one. After all the time it took us to get here it really is just such a special day.
Kelly - I went through this with Jazzy also. Unfortunately I didn't find anything that really helped. The MCHN suggested a sleeping bag, but I didn't get around to trying. If it is any consolation, it didn't last for long before Jazzy was crawling and by that time the MCHN said not to worry about it because if they are strong enough to crawl they are strong enough to get out of that position. Jazzy is a big tummy sleeper now.
Grub - your little man sounds gorgeous - so funny how much order he already likes in his life!
Green - I know when I was negotiating my job share with work my sister (who works in HR) said that the laws had changed at the beginning of this year. The change requires an employer to consider more family friendly working conditions - e.g. job share, part time etc. Good luck - I hope that you can come to an arrangement that suits.
Murph - I'm sorry to hear that you are having a hard battle - but it is great to hear that you have some wonderful people on your side. Remember - crying is not always a bad thing. Sometimes it is a great and necessary release of emotions. Jazzy sounds like she is doing wonderfully well and a big woohoo for your wonderful DH - what a great job he did with the book.
Hi Marcellus, BOC, Saph, Neptune and everyone I have missed.
AFU - I have happy to say that Jasmine is still doing really well. Had a little bit of a runny nose the past couple of days, but no temp or signs that she is feeling unwell. She is literally running everywhere at the moment. No longer likes to sit in the pram, she wants to hold my hand and walk beside me - makes going anywhere take a lot longer, but it is just so sweet that I really don't care.
Kelly - cant give you any suggestions to stop her from rolling but I wouldnt worry about it. Xavier has slept on his tummy from birth. Day and night and will not sleep any other way. I have decided that we have a cat napper and we are never going to get sleep during the day. He sleeps well during the night so I guess I cant complain.
Need some help, how did you transition from the bassenette to the cot. Have been trying to get Xavier to sleeep in his cot but he just will not sleep in it. He will cry and scream and then I put him in his basenette and he will go striaght to sleep. If he does amange to sleep in there it is only for half and hour. Campbell had no trouble moving.
Hi Murph . I think we're all just impressed that you have so much extra to deal with on top of the usual mummy stuff! Sounds like little Jazzy as the right idea
It's fabulous to hear there are people working so hard on your behalf - on top of your own efforts! Really wonderful.
Glad your hubby is so good. Really, it should be the norm, shouldn't it?
Wow Kelly, that's just a few months away! All the best
ETA - good luck again with work Green. Hope they'll be more reasonable.
) and later in the morning we went to check out a gorgeous surf beach with white talcum soft sand and that was devine until we dipped Jazz in for her first little splash and a huge mumma of a wave drenched her in freezing water. Ooops, DH felt soooo bad as we were only doing it for a photo moment to compare to our former Daintree photos. Off with the clothes and bundled into DHs yummy hoodie and all was forgiven. When we got home, we all had lunch and a sleep in bed together. Bliss
Perfection. sorry to boast but I'm the girl that has to sit back when other girls are running down their men for being slack at everything (housework as well) and have nothing to contribute cos I got a goodin and I won't settle for less anyway
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), is a tad bit busy. I've become one of those people...oh dear a child's advocate, knocking on all doors to find solutions. I am really having a few wins but still don't have all my ducks lined up. I have found a foundation who want to provide support with travel and I have an amazing bloke who is doing a lot of legal work to overturn my health fund's decision to not cover us. He's a ball breaker and I reckon he will win. It's not a legal challenge, it's just a company CEO with a lot of nouse and experience in negotiating. He has already done so much for us just to get us on the program in Melbourne, let alone everything he is trying to do. He has also got our surgery costs donated and is now looking for another $52 000 and we will be good to go. I haven't felt worhty of your praise when you've told me I'm brave, but I guess now I am starting to accept that it is taking its toll. Sorry Grub, but I finally cried. I decided to throw my hands up in the air and tell the world to get stuffed, and had a big exhausted cry, you now the type where you are not just crying for this situation, but for the IVF and the bloody hard time you've had...yep, an all out pity party. But Jazzy was watching and she was so confused as she has never seen me cry so she just tried to crack me up laughing and she succeeded. Yep, that did it. "don't waste another minute being unhappy Mum cos I am so damn happy and I dont know any better", was her attitude. So we just had a big old cuddle and got on with it and I decided to just go hard at trying to get the surgery early but not get too upset if we have to wait and there is a bit of developmental delay. It fully sucks if it doens't go ahead and I considered moving interstate blah blah blah, but we'll get there. We have really good people trying to help us.
glad you had a great day.
for work
hope Adam is back to his nice ruitine for you LUCKY LADY
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