Parenting after LT TTC #5

Thanks Marcellus & BG.

So happy to hear that starting back at work wasn't too bad for you and E. Oh, I have been giving Tara water for a few weeks now, especially when she had her cold a couple of weeks ago to make sure she stays hydrated. I gave her some last night after she vomited to help get the horrible bile taste from her mouth and to also keep up her fluids seeing we had it coming out the other end as well. I keep a sippy cup near her at all times now as she is clever enough to pick it up and put in her mouth if she wants a drink.

I think I might also cut out solids for a couple of days as well and just stick to bottles and water to help her little tummy settle down as well. :crossfingers: it's just a 24 hour bug thing. Come to think of it, I think it was from swimming on Monday as the instructor mentioned that some kid had an accident in the pool... O.K I'm angry now...

Smithy I think anything like medi wipes will work ok, did you order some spray too?

BW :hug: teaching is hard work, hope it all settles down for you.

BG glad your first day back went well.

Hi To Kelly and Marcellus.

ATM :shakehead: wonder week alert. Linc is very clingy and very fussy, he wants to be fed when he wakes only about 20mls then play for a bit (not long) then change then another 80mls then screaming and very fussy, put him into his sleeping sack then he wants 20+mls while being rocked in his room. OMG I'm exhausted, he also woke up at midnight last night, 3am then 5am and was a big fussy boy till he finally pooed at 6.30 (STINKY) and it's been fussy pot since.

I start work tonight and have nothing organised cos he wouldn't settle for DH last night at all. I'm exhausted. and so is Lincoln that's why he's cranky I think.

Kelly - sounds like a bit of a bug. Not nice, but the fact that Tara is happy and her behaviour hasn't changed is a good sign. They are pretty good at picking up bugs, but pretty good at getting over them too. Not fun for you though!

BG - aw, I'm sure she missed you lots. :hug: But easier to know that you have such a balanced settled wee girl that she is content when she is with grandma and you are gone. Mr L still is funny sometimes when i drop him at ODC, but i know it's good for him, otherwise it's just mummy all day every day.

BW - I want a holiday too - and I don't even work! :lol: Teaching's a tough job, and I respect all those who do it, especially with some of the behaviours that teenagers seem to think are acceptable these days.

Green - good luck at work tonight. I'm sure Linc will be settled and fine - they always play up for their mummy!

:hug: for baby tara and i hope shes better very soon.

green. i sure hope linc settles soon hun.

afm..:lol: well im signing out for a week or 2 as were mooving tomorrow :leap: and will have no computer till they reconnect us.i will miss you all and be thinking of you all until then girls i love you all and please take care.
smithy and charlie.
ps..bg the salty water must be doing its thing hun as we have no red ears here and they look great,thank you
:dance: bye bye girls im off to do some last minuet stuff awww im sad im gonna miss bb

Thanks, guys. I really appreciate having messages of support like that... Some days are rough, and I think today was worse than yesterday, and I'm just exhausted. Teenagers are hard to work with, but the job is rewarding as well. It is nice to hear that the teaching profession is valued by some - even if it's not necessarily the parents of the kids I teach!

Funnily enough, we just had the conversation about how if it weren't for the money we wouldn't do it... but a lot of that feeling here is from the extra stuff we have to do - paperwork and the political nonsense in schools.

Hopefully DH will arrive here very soon to pick me up and I can get my fix of Sam cuddles... and then get back to preparing a lesson to be observed by my HOD tomorrow.

BW

See you round Smithy!

Teachers have to deal with a lot of **** BW, no question. But what would we do without you all?

BW I couldn't be a teacher and especially not a High School teacher, so my hats off to you girl... I think teachers are so unrewarded for the time and effort they put into other peoples kids... So no matter what you always have us girls cheering you from the sidelines..

hi girls. haven't been on for ages. my subscription keeps dropping out and we're on holidays :)

so will try to get back on for persies soon :) hope you are all well.

ox

Hi girls - thought I would drop in quickly while I have a chance.

Grub - hope you are having a wonderful holiday.

BW - teaching is such an important and challenging job. I so admire teachers - I used to teach ballet, and I can tell you it certainly made my respect for teachers go through the roof! Thanks for your advice re infection control. We will certainly be chucking Ms J in the shower as soon as we get her home from now on.

Smithy - hope the move is going well. Look forward to having you back soon!

Green - hope Linc is settling down a bit. Jazzy still has times even now that she goes through those clingy stages, but she has always been a bit like that.

Kelly - hope Tara is feeling better. It certainly sounds like a tummy bug to me.

BG - how is work going? Hope you are settling back into it okay.

Hi to Marcellus, Lenny and anyone I have missed.

AFU - I am pleased to report that I have a child who is 100% healthy (knock on wood - don't want to jinx myself). This operation and the medication are like a miracle. We had gotten so used to Jazzy being sick that it was starting to feel normal. It is only now that she is well that I can really look back and appreciate how sick she was and for how long! She managed 2 days at nursery this week. We kept her home with my DH on Wednesday as we just didn't feel she was quite ready, but she went on Thursday and Friday. She was very tired at the end of each day, but that is pretty much the norm when they are at nursery. She was a little teary at drop off but nothing too bad. And - oh my goodness - she is EATING!!! Her lack of eating was obviously related to her not feeling well. I thought she was still getting used to some foods prior to the operation, but it now appears that her lack of appetite was probably a result of the illness. When she was at nursery prior we were lucky if she had a taste of her lunch. Well I am proud to report that on both days at nursery this week she ate ALL of her lunch and ALL of her desert! So proud of her.

We are now down to 3 milk feeds a day (1 booby and 2 bottle). I am about to start weaning her off formula and onto cows milk - I was just waiting on her feeling better, so we may even start on that today. Can anyone whose baby is over a year old tell me if they are still using bottles or if they give the milk in a sippy cup? Jazzy has water from a sippy cup, but I am wondering if I should be starting to get her off the bottle for milk times also. Any advice on this change over would be hugely appreciated, it is all so confusing! She is also in the process of going down to 1 day sleep - some days she does only one, others (like today) she still needs the two.

Much love to all - and here is to a happy healthy little Jasmine!

Janie and Jasmine xxx

Janie, Sam still has bottles for milk. He drinks water from a sippy cup and likes to play and pretend that he's drinking from our cups. He probably doesn't really need the bottle, but he still can't tolerate cows milk and it's so much easier to mix formula in a bottle rather than a sippy cup! It's such a relief to hear that your little girl is well again after so long!

BW

Hi Girls

Thought I would jump on while everyone is still sleeping.

Thanks for all your well wishes about Tara, and it appears she had a bit of a gastro bug but is now feeling much better. Only lasted for about 2 days so I'm happy that her little immune system could get rid of it so fast for her. So now we are back to trying to get our routine going again as her being sick pushed that one off the radar.

So far so good, although she has only started back on smaller amounts of solids again and it seems she has gone back a couple of steps as she only wants pureed mush again. I've tried her on vegies but she either gags on them or spits it all back out, so I'm resorting back to tins of savoury solids (horrible mummy) as they are quite pureed and watery and she is happy to eat them. Also her rice cereal and fruit in the morning has to also be runnier for her as well. I'm thinking she may have had some reflux burn when she vomited up and the mushier stuff is just going down better at the moment.

Not too much to worry about though as so long as she is eating and having wet nappies and more formed BM's I'm not complaining and we can always start back on the veggies in a week or so.

I hope you all enjoy your long weekend, I have my IL's here for a week but luckily DH has a weeks holidays as well so I don't have to entertain everyday.

Anzac Day wow bit emotional today.

KellyD glad Tara is on the mend, so scary when they're not well

Smithy and Family I know you're not reading just yet but :leap: for moving hope it all goes well

BW sam cuddles will fix any bad day.

Grub enjoy your holidays :D

Janie :leap: for healthy bub

ATM: Well Last night little man slept till 4am after a bit of a stir at 10am. He no longer will settle with the dummy popped back in I need to pick him up but usually only for 30seconds or so.

Work went great only 3 students. I'll have to prepare more for this week.

Hmmm what's on my mind the most is yesterday we went to a friends place to visit she has two little girls 3 and 9months, she kept going on about wanting more children etc. :shakehead: when they are broke now. but what really upset me (still) her 3year old got her phone and said "mummy call uncle" and she'd managed to unlock it. My friend slapped her full on over the face :o I have seen her hit her on the bum but this was a bit much I thought. DH and I have decided no smacking due to our parents hitting us etc. and I have never really got on my soap box about smacking but slapping across the face. I didn't know what to do. I know my face said it all cos DH walked in and came over and said what's wrong.

Oh Green, that is shocking, I wouldn't have known what to do either. It sounds as though she was just reacting rather than thinking about how to handle it. such a fine line isn't it? I'm doing child development in psych this semester and that is such a big no-no for so many reasons. Poor kid.

Kelly = sorry to hear about little Tara, and very glad she's on the mend.

Janie - thank goodness regarding little Jazzy and so glad that she is now so happy and healthy.

Grub- hope you're enjoying Tassie! Are you keeping up the running? You're looking pretty fine in your FB photos and it looks like the weight is dropping off. I'm managing about 5 - 7km twice a week...would love to do more but I just don't seem to get around to it.

BW - Hang in there, it sound slike you are doing a terrific job. It sure is challenging though, keep up the good work, and at least it is rewarding!

Hi Smithy, BG, marcellus, Lenny, Murph and anyone I have missed.

All ok here. I haven't made any move to leave and frankly don't want to....I know I may be forced to with the safety aspect, but I do love my husband and there will be a lot of damage if I go. I have been gently telling him about rental properties, either for all of us to go or me on my own. He seems reasonably receptive, although I don't think he will actually go, but he seems to understand that I need to keep Adam safe and I can't do it here. So if I can get him to gently come around to the idea that it is not safe, and that if Ieft it would not be "to leave" it will make him more amenable to doing something about it.

Still waiting to here back from a obsessive-compulsive hoarding expert at UNSW - I have just asked her to point me in the right direction for counselling in Sydney, both for me and DH.

Adam is well, started swimming last week which he loved. Solids going well, but I think I am lacking in imagination. They say no cow's milk until 12 months old, but in the next sentence say to add cheese and yoghurt? Aren't they cow's milk? So confused....

i think they say no cows milk as in straight cows milk (so no adding milk from the bottle to weetbix for breakfast - use the milk your baby uses for drinking - EBM or formula) - milk in yogurt and cheese has been processed significantly and is ok to use. are you planning on following BLS or are you going with purees?

we have gone the BLS path and have never had any dramas with foods for DD - for the first month or so of her being on solids, we stuck mostly to meat and veg for dinner - gave her the veg and let her munch away to her hearts content. i figured if she didn't get any down, she was still learning about food. after about a month, we started making more complex foods, and including her. vegies in sauces, fried rice etc. we started by making the sauces more subtle (spag with no added garlic or chilli, milder curries) and putting a lot of veg in there (completely normal for us anyway) and over a month or two, we got back to eating what we were eating before. DD is now almost 11 months (wow!) and eats everything and anything. she prefers food with stronger flavours (which is great, cos we do too!) and will happily eat whatever we're having for dinner. it has taken the "creativity" question out of it - she eats what we eat! snack wise we've had to look for foods that are a little more bubba friendly. where i might have crackers and cheese, i'd prefer she didn't have the biscuits due to the salt factor, so we got plain rice crackers for her. we make pancakes one a week for breakfast, and for a couple of days she has leftovers from the fridge - with a teensy scrape of butter and vegemite if she is looking for more flavour. yogurt and custard are fantastic snacks - we bought some of the baby custard powder (just add ebm or formula) and DD loves it - we then stew our own fruit (with no sugar - and chunks - you can't buy chunky fruit with no added sugar in the shops here!) and mix that through for variety for her. it's a fantastic afternoon snack if she lunches early (or we're having a later tea due to work) - or we use it as a meal replacement on the odd occassion that she is just too tired to wait on dinner (after work last week was a bit ordinary).

wow - that was a lot of waffle - can you tell E is sleeping still? lol

AFU - work was boring last week - on thurs mum had to go do some shopping in the town where i work so, because i was in training, i got her to drop E off and she came to work for a visit. meant no expressing (BLISS), E got to visit, trainer got to meet her - was really nice. i ended up voluntarily going on the phones in the arvo just to make time pass - was (and i think i will be!) soooo bored! i miss the interaction with E - she is as happy as larry with my mum taking care of her, it's me that is struggling!

Thanks BG, fantastic advice. That's pretty much what I thought re the yoghurt/cheese, so thanks for that. You've given me some great ideas. At the moment he is having rice cereal mixed with formula with home made apple or pear puree for brekkie and then trialling vegies in the afternoon (pureed, he can't seem to tolerate chunks yet). So far so good!

have you tried giving him fingers of vegies to try? you may find that his digestive system isn't ready for solids just yet, but by giving him fingers he is still experimenting and will take it in as he is ready for it. i know it took E a while to actually digest things - before that it was just playing and getting used to textures and flavours. at six months they don't really need solids - they can start on them and gradually increase the amount, but don't have to have a certain amount. just keep offering stuff til he takes it. i know it seems pointless to offer food over and over that they don't take in, but each thing is a step towards getting it all balanced out

E will now grab and eat raw capsicum straigh from the plant (and cracks when i take it off her to get the seeds off her!), eats celery raw, will pic individual peas and corn from the plate. we've let her take it at her own pace. she eats custards and things, but we let her feed herself - we just load the spoon for her

Ooh sounds good BG, will try all of that. Mess, here we come!

BG - Thanks for the great info on BLS. I am planning to do BLS to do all I can to prevent fussiness and food problems down the line and it is good to hear it works!

mum used to do FDC and i seen some of the fussiest kids ever so i didn't want to go there!!

tonight for dinner we had fried rice with chicken. E at the whole thing. while we were cutting up the vegies she was snacking - a stick of celery, lumps of capsicum, etc, then she sat down to dinner with us - some rice got left behind, but she ate all her dinner, then was hassling us and taking the celery, capsicum, carrot, peas and corn from us - we offered chicken and that got turned down - she was just eating the veg!

fwiw - there really isn't as much mess with BLS as you might think. because they're eating solid food, you don't have mush to be spread everywhere! we put a mat underneath E (you can get proper messy mats in places like big w, but we just use a cheap plastic tablecloth!) and clean up as we're going. she gets a bit of sauce on her face when we have things like spag bol (we use spirals - easier to handle lol) but she's only needed a bath after food maybe two or three times in 5 months - so we're not doing too bad!

make sure you have the camera handy though - some of the photo ops are just gorgeous!

Can I ask, what is FDC & BLS?

BLS is Baby Led Solids or it is also called Baby Led Weaning.

Still waiting to hear what FDC is but I am guessing it is the opposite?

FDC is family day care.

I wish I had time to type of everything that's going on... but I need to get things organised for the day at school (I'm not going) and it will take forever. I'm just not in a good headspace at the moment. :(

BW

sorry, mum did family day care while i was growin up - there were other kids in the house most of my childhood. some were so fussy they refused to eat anything but noodles and dim sims (at 6!) -i didn't want DD to be like that so we've gone with baby led solids so that we are exposing her to everything from an early age

Wow some wonderful solid ideas to remember.

What are your thoughts on starting solids when Linc is at Child Care? I wanted to start before but I don't think he'll be "fully started"

Well we went for our first visit yesterday :cry: Linc was ok, did his normal hungry song and dance and then fell asleep in my arms while I was talking to the assistant director about blah blah blah.

I've decided I can cope with 1 day but not two. So fingers crossed my boss is flexable on my working hours, but if not I'm taking AL and RDO's to make sure I'm home with him an extra day till he's 6 months at least, then maybe Nanna will be confident enough to have him for another 1/2 day. :pray:

Oh speaking of Nanna :leap: linc is now sleeping in her cot :D took a bit but a few little ajustments and he's sleeping his normal :shakehead: 40min naps. I wish he's sleep 2 hours like some babies but he is sleeping 7-3am so not too upset.

Have a great day all

Hi All

Been busy here with having my IL's staying and DH also home on AL, so trying to do my normal routine stuff with Tara is pretty interesting with a house full of people.

With all the solids talk, we give Tara pureed stuff and I will gradually increase the texture once she is back to normal after her gastro bug. I've tried the BLS option with her as well but as she is so used to swallowing her solids as a puree, when she does the BLS she wants to swallow whole chunks of unchewed food resulting in gagging and sometimes spewing. So we are going through the different food textures here.

Oh, another milestone reached here as well.... Tara can now sit unassisted :dance: she is still a little wobbly at times but she did her first unassisted attempt and MG on Tuesday and at Baby Gym yesterday she was happy to sit and reach in front of her and then come back up to a straight back position. It will be interesting to see how she goes over the next few weeks with her reflux, I'm hoping now she can sit upright to play it will help enormously. And the other good thing is that I can now sit on the floor and play with her face to face.

Anyway better be off and get organised for the day. Hope you are all having a good one.

Just wanted to say a big well done to little Tara! What a big milestone! Sitting unassisted is massive. Kelly - watch out now because she will get on the move very quickly from here. Jazzy was a very colicky baby and I found her colic settled down heaps once she was able to sit unassisted - not sure about the reflux, but hopefully it will help.

Green - I would just go with when Linc is ready with the solids - don't worry if that is when he starts at daycare or not, they should do what you ask of them with feeding him anyhow. Good luck with your boss - I hope you get some more time with Linc.

Got to run girls as at work (naughty me!) My mum arrives from NZ for a few days tomorrow night so really looking forward to that.

Hope everyone is well - we are still all well in our house (fingers crossed)!

Janie xxx

:D hello to all my beauties,
just popping in to say a big hello to you all as im at mums rite now and we have no internet as yet,im missing bb so much its crazy how much i miss all you girls and our chats.
our new house is awsom ,i just love it so beautiful and quiet:)otherwise all is great with all of us.charlie is as cheeky as eva and growing so fast.
i went to sit on the toilet last night and there was a huge frog in the dunny omg i crapped my self:lol:
anyways girls please know i love you all and miss you all heaps and heaps,ill be back asap

also a big thank you to BOC for sending me a msg on my phone,though i had no credit to return the mesg hun but gee it was so nice to get it ,you made my day
by girls

Hi again Gals!!!

Me and Colt are ready to join you here. We are finally getting organised enough to be on the puter lol.

The little man is doing great, he is now 8 pound 8 and will be six weeks on saturday.
He is sleeping through the night and having awake periods in the day. I am breastfeeding and expressing and am finally getting used to it. The housework has gone to hell in a handbasket and my c-section tummy bothers me no end but other than that, all is well. No sign of the PND.

It makes me so happy to read about everyone who travelled along this road with me:) You girls are the best!

Not sure how to post pics here but if anyone wants to see some, please feel to send me a friend request on FB.

http://www.facebook.com/sammie.jamieson?ref=profile

Oh dear, there is a bit of a pong coming from lil Colts neither regions (he is squirming around on my tum as we speak) better go sort that out.

Hugs to all!

Sammiejam

Hi Sammie and welcome aboard the mummy train. It is so nice to see you over here now to share all your experiences being a mummy.

:hello: to all my other girls.

Well I'm now celebrating :leap: as my IL's have finally left today after being here for a week. So now Tara can go back into her own room (she got kicked into the portacot in the study so the IL's could sleep in the spare bed in her room) which now means no more night time trips over the cold kitchen tiles to the study to check on her and no more having to carry the baby monitor with me all the time as now she is back in her room we can hear her when she wakes. So just finishing up washing the sheets from the spare bed and then catching up on my washing and then our little family has the weekend to ourselves without having to entertain people and also means we can get Tara back into her routine. Don't get me wrong, visitors are great it's just that it is hard enough work with Tara as it is let alone having 2 extra people to overstimulate her for 7 whole days.

Oh and at least tomorrow we can go back to having our family sleep in (when Tara comes into our bed in the morning) without having the IL's wanting to come into our bedroom for a conversation :dunno:. Anyhow I hope you all have a good weekend and I hope our girls who are having holidays at the moment are having a fab time..

Hi all sorry Ihave been MIA we were away on holidays and then I got sick. Darn gastro if only the kgs stayed off permenantly. Otherwise we are doing well. Xavier is settling into something of a routine and is growing so fast. We are still struggling with Campbells toileting and have now discussed it with his paed. He is on some strong antibiotics to kill all the bacteria in his intestines as he thinks this might be the issue.

Two exciting and interesting thinks are happening. My bestie is having her baby tomorrow. I so cant wait i am hoping she has a girl I want to by pink. We have had four boy born in our family this year.

Number 2 is I have inquired about donating milk to the human milk bank for premmie babies. I have such a huge supply that I have more than enough for Xavier. Will have to wait an see because i may not beable to because I had the blood transfussion.

Hope everyone is doing well.

KellyD family sleep in sounds good to me :D

Welcome Sammie and congratulations

Janie hope you and your mum are having a great time loads of cuppa's and chats :D

Smithy glad you love your new house :D great it's quiet too

Saph glad to hear Xavier is in a ruitine does that mean he's sleeping more for you at night? toilet training ahhhhhh not looking forward to that. How was your holiday? relaxing?

ATM little holiday on KI on the weekend Linc in the porta cot and he was good, although he was really windy and a bit chucky too but it passed who knows. Off to mums group for the first time today, really nervous but I think It'll be good for me 2pm so there is less stress about getting up and organised.

Getting mums house cleaned for mothers day tomorrow :) I hope she notices.

I'M BBAAACCKKKK MMMWWAAAAHHHH long post here i come!

Hi girls, been reading the posts but not a lot of spare time lately. Hey where's Murphy, you gone AWOL on us lady?

Neptune - thanks for the kudos love. good on you for logging those runs. I havven't been out for ages (i'll explain below) but the last run i did was about 3.5km, which i was happy with. I really want to get back to daily 10kers again soon, plus have a friend's wedding in a couple of months and all the kids from school will be there, so want to look fab! lol. Did you hear back from the prof about the counselling?

Janie is your mum there yet? so exciting. mine is coming from the other end of the country in a few week's time, i'm also excited... can't wait to show of bubba.

KellyD - yay for inlaws leaving! we just had a week staying with them and it has been a trial for Ashton. don't get me wrong, he loved the attention and got used to all the new faces pretty quickly, but we've paid for it since we got home! What brand is your portacot? did you find it sunk a bit in the middle? Ash would not sleep in the portacot, thankfully a friend lent us a bassinette, which he only just fitted into. and what a smart little girl you have there! sitting up! :)

green - did your boss agree to one day a week? and what a great idea for mum's day!

Hi smithy!!!

BG- the BLS advice is really appreciated. its so good to hear what others are doing.

hey sammie - sounds like you guys are rocking alogn very well. i love the name Colt too :)

hi BW - just remember, you can make such a difference to kids' lives. even if they don't appreciate it now, they will later. how fondly do we all remember those genuinely good teachers who obviously loved to teach and liked kids! it makes a real difference to people's lives.. and you probabl don't get paid enough either!

hey boc how are you going love? what is happening with you guys atm

Poppy - is it warming up over there yet? lol. any news? exciting happenings? ooh it's election time isn't it, do you think there'll be much of a shake up?

hi marcellus and lenny :) hope you girls are great.

AFU - well we are back home from tassie and as a result had one very unhappy overtired baby. In fact up until last night, we had about 3 weeks of unsettledness... started with a wonder week at 17 weeks, then immunisations and flying to tassie at 18 weeks then the week in tas and then home at 19 weeks. I haven't had more than 2 hrs sleep in a row in all that time!

He did NOT like the portacot, would only sleep in snatches in the bassinette, ended up sleeping in my arms most of the time just so he would actually get some sleep. Got home and he was wakign all the time, feeding all the time, not resettling, not going down happy and being pretty grumpy aarrgggh. exactly like having a newborn again! brh

to cap it off he's gone back to 25th percentile for his weight but up to 90th for his length!! gee, tall, thin... hmm sounds like hubby

Also we started solids. I know, it's very early and I was intending to wait til 6 months and do what BG has done.. BLS.. but the doc advised us to try him on solids with all the waking, unsettledness, extra feeding and not as much weight gain.

and oh, my, goodness. He does this crazy little dance when he sees his food bowl and eats it all! (mind you i'm not giving him too much). WE are taking it very slow, he's had about a week of farex with booby milk; then introduced pureed pumpkin and this morn added potato.

I can't believe him, he eats the whole lot, hardly spitting any out. grabs the spoon and puts it in his mouth as well. Anyhoo, I've noticed he's chubbed up a fair bit and seems a lot brighter than before. Fortunately we have steamed veg nearly every night, so making his food is so easy for us lol. the most time consumign part is pumping milk to mix with it but i think i'm going to slowly go over to using boiled water... any thoughts there girls?

But we were still having sleep issues. so rang tresillian last night... i suspect he was over tired and being kept up too long. So last night, in bed by 7pm, rocked to sleep and put down. fed at 9.30pm when he woke, rocked to sleep and put into cot... slept til 1.30am (that is a huge acheivement, it has been only til 11.30pm after a 9.30pm feed) had a feed, fell asleep with eating, Went into his cot happily again, and didn't hear boo til 6.30am!!!!! then only wanted a nappy change, small drink and back to bed til 8.30am.

When he woke i offered booby 3 times, with 5 min break inbetween (placed in his cot for quiet, unstimulated time) and he didn't want it. so made his puree breakky and he ate it all then finished iwth a small booby feed??? So was a bit confused by this as he seemed to know it was solids time and he didn't want booby? any thoughts ther girls? just go with it do you think?

anyhoo the even more exciting part comes next, about 9.45am i stopped playtime, changed him, read a book in his room and had a little cuddle and rock. put him to bed awake with dummy... said ''nigh, nigh'' and walked out of the room.... AND HE WENT TO SLEEP BY HIMSELF... hhhoooorrrraaayyyy. So that was an hour ago! and not a peep! :)

please keep your fingers crossed he sleeps til at least 12.30pm then will have a good booby feed :)

i'm sure i've jinxed myself by hoorraying his sleep last night, but i really hope we've turned a corner now! don't mind doing a 9/10pm feed and an early hours 1/3am feed but feeding every 2-3 hours over night was killing me!

Also, post wonder week - he's really changed again. is much more coodinated and apparently nearly everything mummy does is funny. Even when he's screaming, once i settle him, he'll turn to me and laugh!!! WTF! we tell him that it's not nice to laugh at someone you were just screaming at 30 seconds ago! lol.

So anyhoo, we aren't putting him up for adoption just yet hahhhaahhaaha

waffle waffle waffle... now... i have spare time, and not baby is sleeping on me. what to do? what to do? oxoxo

Hi Grub, I haven't met with boss yet next Tuesday I put it off cos Linc was unsettled last week and I was too mad to chat with her cos I think she'll say no :wall: but I have 6 days Annual leave and 2RDO's so I can have 8 Thursdays off anyways (evil laugh) I will get what I want then I'm hoping Nana will take Linc for another 1/2 day :pray:
:hug: OMG three weeks! I'm so lucky Linc will sleep (not that well) but anywere for now. so great to hear the solids are going down well :) now for some more sleep form mummy.

Today I had a mini melt down (linc did anyways) I'm trying to not let him snack feed in the hope he sleeps better during the day, so I'm not feeding him earlier than 3 hours. It's hard work and he woke up so hystericle (spelling??) and when I fed him he ate so fast he gaged threw up and cried for an hour. OMG but he is sleeping really well so maybe it's worth it. Mother group was ok but a bit odd will give it a go though.

But I did want to pop in today and give a big :grouphug: It's just sinking in for me It's going to be my first Mothers day :leap: so so so excited and wanted to share my joy.

Green - so funny you say that about Mother's Day.....I am going down to Melbourne to see my mum in Melbourne, as i always do, and i keep forgetting that I am now a mum!!!!! Very odd. Sorry about your melt-down, hope Linc settles for you soon.

Grub - hi love, welcome back from tassie, again hope that little cute Ash settles after his big trip. it does seem to upset them doesn't it? No wonder you haven't been running, what kind of spare time have you had????? None I'm guessing.

Hi to everyone else, sorry for lack of persies, I'm just knackered and need to get on with an essay blurrrgggghhhh.

AFM: Adam is a little unsettled at night at the moment, can't quite work out why, so just trying go with the flow. He is waking and crying out from a bout 3am, but when I go in there, he is sound asleep. Then he is waking full-on at about 545am. This is a huge change from sleeping until 7am without a peep......I realise that i have been very lucky and the honeymoon is over, but I would love to work out why all of a sudden. Teething? Maybe, who knows. Anyway, because I am a bit of an anxious bunny, the first cry at 3am wakes me, I check on him, then I am lucky to go back to sleep at all until he gets me up for his brekkie. So i am pretty sleep deprived at the moment. Plus, my dog is waking me to go out for a wee at 11pm, 1am, 4am....don't know whether she really needs to go, but think I am being manipulated hahaha, but don't want dog pi$$ in the house! Anyway, I am sure it will settle soon.

I now have the name of a psychologist who specialises in hoarding......but have I done anything about it??? Not yet, but i have showed DH the name, and I keep showing him units/flats for rent that I could move into, or pet friendly places for all of us to go.....so he is getting the message loud and clear that I mean business. For the first time in YEARS he sat down with me and told me what he is going to achieve in the next 2 months...it wasn't much in the moving stuff OUT of the house, but it was enough to clear the lounge, the hallway and make the other rooms safe enough. In the past his plans have been huge and in my opinion too big for what he's capable in a small time frame. This was far more realistic; i felt disappointed at what he told me he would do, but now that I"ve thought about it, I think he is being realistic for the first time ever and maybe he will do it. I told him that I will still move out for Adam's sake if he does not do this.

So I don't feel like counseling for me at this point, but may need it down the track. I feel better, finger's crossed.

Hi everyone
I've been reading but too slack to post, sorry :redface:. Those taking the time for all those persies put me to shame.

A has a cold and is not sleeping much. He's been in bed with me the past few nights. It's cute, really. I go in in the middle of the night. He sits up, clasping his teddy and water bottle and says: Mum take me to mum and dad bed.

DS does that neptune - yelling, crying then fast asleep. does my head in, cause it jolts you awake and it takes ages to get back to sleep. Don't want to turn the monitor off though because he still wakes at night sometimes and our room is at the other end of the house. Glad to hear your DH has a realistic plan.

All the best for sorting out work Green.

Murph - hope the sleeping is improving for you. On the booby feed question, the only thing I would say is be wary of replacing milk at this age. In the early days solids should be a complement to, not replacement of milk. That's why they usually reocmmend boob first. But then if he does it the other way but still has plenty of milk then it guess that's fine. How old is he now? He can put the spoon in his mouth - that's pretty good! Sounds like he's been growing upwards more than outwards recently - little bean pole.

Hey Saph, did you find out about donating milk? I think that'd be an awesome thing to do.

What a relief Kelly! :)

Hi Sammie and welcome! Never mind the housework. I still don't do any. Hope the scar is healing up ok though :hug:

Hope you had a nice time with your mum Janie.

Well, must dash. I'm actually supposed to be working :P

Marcellus - yes I found the milk donation place. Unfortunately they require donors with there own electric pump at the moment as they have none avaliable. I dont have one only a manual one which is fine for us as Xavier refuses to take a bottle so i only need to express for comfort. The other down side is you have to deliver it to pmh for storage. I live uo near Joondalup so the trek to pmh with 2 kids is beyond me at the moment. So for the moment Xavier is going to continue getting extremely fat with my abundance of milk. We have all decided that his vomiting is due to the fact that he is a little pig and gets to much milk the vomiting is just excess.

Hope everyone is doing well, Xavier is waking so off to do the grocccery shopping.

:hello: everyone!

Yay Sammie! Great to see you in here at last!

Smithy: Glad you love the new place, we missed you!

Grub: I too get the screaming then the big grin! Does my head in! But I can never stay mad at that cute little face!

We are all good here. DS is a little tank, weighs 5.5kg @ 6weeks, put on 840g in 2 weeks, then 450g the following week :lol:, yep that's 2kg since birth! So much for him "not thriving" if I chose to bottle feed! He's out of 0000 and some of the 000 are getting a little snug around the beer gut.

To all those with unsettled bubs, thank you, you have made me feel a little more normal! I'm used to hearing of my cousins with their bubs, 13 weeks (slept 11.5hrs a night from 7 weeks) and 15weeks (slept 6-8hrs a night from 5weeks) and it drives me mental! We were still going every 3 hrs. But last Thurs DS went for needles (can you believe 6 weeks already???) and I got Doc to check him and he has reflux AND is lactose intolerant so is now on specially made Losec solution & is on De-Lact formula and we mostly seem to get 4hrly feeds at night.

Spent the weekend at my parents and he slept like a dream in the porta-cot. Wonder why he won't sleep in his OWN cot??? He'll lay there and kick for 30-40mins then it's WAAAAHHHHH!!!


Ahhh Mothers Day, will be so much nicer this year. Last year I had just had my first ICSI and a week before Mother's Day did a HPT and got a BFP. Then the next Friday had my BT & they said I was BFP but that something was wrong and chances were it would end in a miscarriage. So Mother's Day was not a very nice day. My family tried to be positive and make it a good day for me but I spent most of it in tears. Then the Tuesday after the inevitable happened. Can't believe it's been a year already. But at least the only tears this year will be of happiness.

Interesting though, dion't know how to approach the 1yr anniversary, I want to acknowledge it but DH has never accepted what happened. He believed "nothing was there" becasue it was so early (5weeks) and wasn't a foetus yet and when I Mc-ed he got really angry and told me I had no right to be upset cause nothing really happened and that I should have been prepared for it to go wrong. Since then he has acknowledged it for my sake but still admits he has no feeling towards it himself. I don't know what to do about that. Any thoughts?

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Anyway had better go, trying to get him to settle in his cot, he's gone from the attention-seeking whinges to full blown "get me out of here" screaming *sigh*

Hi all

Been busy lately so haven't had much time to drop in and post but have been reading how everyone is going.

BOC as for you question about your DH, with both my m/c my DH couldn't really understand either what it was like. To him the pregnancy didn't seem real until he could actually see something and even then it took him ages to really connect that a fat belly meant a baby. I think most men don't actually get the connection until they hold their child.

Anyway, looks like we might have brought forward our plans for no.2. I took Tara into DH's work yesterday and his boss mentioned that when I'm ready to look to go back to finding a job to let her know as they always have part time admin roles coming up (at the local hossy), so that bought on the conversation of do I get a job and then try for No 2 and possibly have to leave or do we bring forward our plans for No 2 and then possibly go back to work later.

Well we decided to bring forward trying for no 2 as I'm not getting any younger and it might work 1st time or the last time or not at all and then we will know where we stand on me going back to work sometime in the future.

So the plan is to make an appt with the FS for July and start the ball rolling for out FET's, by that time Tara will be 9 mths old so worst case scenario would mean that there would be an 18mth age gap. So how scary is that... in a couple of months I'll be back on the baby train.....

Oh wow! It's been soooo long. Where do I begin??

Well first of all, I hope you all had the happiest Mother's day ever. I couldn't quite get used to the fact that it would be my first either, but I got more and more excited and the day was better than Christmas cos it was all mine and it was fantastic!!! My DH is so damn special, I think I'll keep him. Morning after morning when I thought he was up working on his thesis, he was plotting and planning on the computer making me a book from Jazzy. Then it arrived in the mail and he had to stop himself form showing it to me early. Oh, it's so beautiful, from birth to her first 5 months in words told by Jasmine. It's absolutely awesome and it's going to take some beating for Father's day...damn he's too organised. Meanwhile, I managed only to get my Mum a card made online and still plodding away on a calendar....ahh to have time! And while I'm bragging, then I had yummy smoked salmon and scrambled eggs on turkish bread with garden fresh salad (and the good tea set Grub;) ) and later in the morning we went to check out a gorgeous surf beach with white talcum soft sand and that was devine until we dipped Jazz in for her first little splash and a huge mumma of a wave drenched her in freezing water. Ooops, DH felt soooo bad as we were only doing it for a photo moment to compare to our former Daintree photos. Off with the clothes and bundled into DHs yummy hoodie and all was forgiven. When we got home, we all had lunch and a sleep in bed together. Bliss:D Perfection. sorry to boast but I'm the girl that has to sit back when other girls are running down their men for being slack at everything (housework as well) and have nothing to contribute cos I got a goodin and I won't settle for less anyway:p.

As for how I have been travelling. Oh gawd, too much to tell, too much going on with the surgery saga and the will she or won't she? It's taken over my life, which I didn't want to happen but now I know it has to happen in order to really get on top of things and do everything I can for Jasmine ito have the best opportunities to develop normally. So life, apart from the amazing time I'm having with my 6 month old who is talking up a storm, sitting up, rolling over, laughing, smiling, eating solids and filling every crevice of my world with love and fascination (and mushy banana:shakehead:), is a tad bit busy. I've become one of those people...oh dear a child's advocate, knocking on all doors to find solutions. I am really having a few wins but still don't have all my ducks lined up. I have found a foundation who want to provide support with travel and I have an amazing bloke who is doing a lot of legal work to overturn my health fund's decision to not cover us. He's a ball breaker and I reckon he will win. It's not a legal challenge, it's just a company CEO with a lot of nouse and experience in negotiating. He has already done so much for us just to get us on the program in Melbourne, let alone everything he is trying to do. He has also got our surgery costs donated and is now looking for another $52 000 and we will be good to go. I haven't felt worhty of your praise when you've told me I'm brave, but I guess now I am starting to accept that it is taking its toll. Sorry Grub, but I finally cried. I decided to throw my hands up in the air and tell the world to get stuffed, and had a big exhausted cry, you now the type where you are not just crying for this situation, but for the IVF and the bloody hard time you've had...yep, an all out pity party. But Jazzy was watching and she was so confused as she has never seen me cry so she just tried to crack me up laughing and she succeeded. Yep, that did it. "don't waste another minute being unhappy Mum cos I am so damn happy and I dont know any better", was her attitude. So we just had a big old cuddle and got on with it and I decided to just go hard at trying to get the surgery early but not get too upset if we have to wait and there is a bit of developmental delay. It fully sucks if it doens't go ahead and I considered moving interstate blah blah blah, but we'll get there. We have really good people trying to help us.

So, yep. I have been hiding under a rock and will be there a bit I think. I haven't used facebook in a month, I haven't written to anyone back in the daintree, all the promises go out the window and it's just all about us at the moment until I gain a bit of momentum and then regain balance.

Love you all,
Murph and jasmine xox
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Awww Murph what a nice thing DH did for you they take ages to get together and it is such a special forever gift :) glad you had a great day.

KellyD :D at more babies wow back on the train so soon, mind you I miss my belly still.

BOC hope you had an ok weekend and bubs is more settled. I'd steal their porta cot :D

Saph hope you and the boyz are great and you got something nice yesterday.

Marcellus :( for work

Neptune :hug: hope Adam is back to his nice ruitine for you LUCKY LADY

Wow new set out is strange, will get used to it.

Yesterday was BLAH but I don't want to go on about it, I think I need to be more real with my expectations.

Rang the Union about my rights for work and they have to "concider" part time so I'll see how I go tomorrow. Wish me luck ladies.

I think Linc is teething or something big is going on, runny poo loads of drooling, chomping (hard) on everything. I know this doesn't always mean teeth but he's been up at 12midnight for an extra feed too again so tired mummy.