Hello everyone,
so many of you in need of hugs right now so I'll drop in a big and apologise in advance that I can't talk to you all.
Poppiefairy - I think a few of us have felt that isolation you are describing and the way it makes you feel so lonely and removed. You've certainly done it on a grand scale and have many factors weighing down on you but I hope it will help you to know that if you can even make some small steps towards reaching out, catching up with your friends somehow or family that you are missing, you can go on. I just had to do that myself recently, go back home and see all my family and then get a good dose of my Mum's company and then everything is right with the world (or a hell of a lot easier to cope with on your own when you are pregnant). You are probably in that window also where you just need some security and home style loving that noone else seems able to provide. If you can do it, I would try to have that contact that you need and tell people what you are feeling. In the mean time, I had a good chuckle at your birthing classes and rest assured, we would be the ones joining you in the giggle fest at those god awful perineum massages (and there's no proof it works, the pictures just make you want to take it up for fun...not....youch!). Your class sounds like they might be toffy Rover drivers are they? anyway, great that you found someone to talk to and to help you through. It's just a phase and it's okay to feel sad, you'll come through it and be back to your jam making in no time. Oh the accupuncture thing...well I lie on my back for a lot of it, but that works for me despite all the stuff about not doing it and I think that's because she is breech, then when I have to lie on my side, it is always on the right side and I feel rather seedy now cos of the indigestion I always need to keep at bay. Sorry, not much help, but it is always a wonderful peaceful experience even these days when it's not as comfy.
P.s. Poppiefairy - do you not have a car cos DH has it for work, or do you not have a licence and can't drive? If it's the latter, maybe you could see about learning as it can be isolating to rely on others too.
Grub - I'd give DH those cuddles for you but at the moment I'm in can't bear to cuddle mode, which is just really sucky. I fully understand those movements you were describing after your mowing, but I've done nothing to bring them on (except maybe stressing). I did gloss over some pretty rough stuff that happened this week involving fights and confusion with the hospital and gatekeepers keeping me from my OB etc despite having been told I needed monitoring and to bring packed bags, then noone letting me see my OB urgently or booking my scans....arrrghhh! Luckily I have the best GP and she got everything sorted. so my little tike yesterday was nearly making me cry with all that rearrangement of internal organs and really painful tumbles and having that "I'm so over it" kind of feeling that we all get guilty about saying. bugger it though, we wanted to get pregnant and have our babies safely, not get kicked around and feel bloody awful, rundown and at the mercy of every ache and pain and then blame ourselves for bringing them on. My DH came home after walking the dogs and found me at the sink on a chair doing the dishes (damn back, aching legs, you know the drill...and I sure aint up to dog walking). he proceeded to give me a massage right there at the sink and ohhhhhh, that took away some stress and the almost tears I was about to cry. then later, while giving my ice-crazy dogs some ice, george spat his out right under my foot as I walked on it and I really twinged and hurt my back trying to avoid falling on my ar$e and really did some damage so that I have had the crappiest night sleep. when does it stop? In 11 days!!! Hear that Greenslw...in 11 days..you havent been paying attention I'm going under the knife and woohoo, bring it on!
Misty77 - great to hear from you. It's always nice to have an update as so many on our list are kind of unknown and you worry that everyone is okay. Congrats on finding out it's a boy! As for not feeling movements, I was a bit of a late bloomer too. All those things the girls have said are right but there's no need to assume indigestion, it can feel fluttery, bubbly, etc at first. One of the girls in here went through her whole birth without ever having braxton hicks contractions, and I nearly went my entire pg without ever feeling my baby have hiccups (til last week, very cute). We are all so different and comparison is the source of suffering. I know that cos OBs insist on telling me that my baby's abdominal cavity measures off the scale (size wise) when compared to all the babies born in Australia...oh but don't worry, it's only a statistical comparison...yeah just like nuchal scans! Grrrr.
Something tells me I have some issssssuues today and I am expressing a little passive aggressive hostility towards certain recent events, so I might leave you to enjoy your sunday without my rot today.
BOC - thanks for taking up the list next month. I think the moderators just have to enable your edit function but we can talk about it later.
Grub -how very dare you (re shooting looks in my direction insinuating I could talk under water with a mouth full of marbles!)
Lots of love to all. rant away, it makes me feel normal
Murph - i'm with you - the back ache, the hormonal moods, restless legs, sleepless nights are all the finer parts of pregnancy that i'm toatally over!!!!
Grub - my god i had the same movement last night - my tummy looked like their were waves going across it! They were going crazy and it actually began to be very very uncomfortable - my cure - get on all fours and gently rock them into a different position - worked for me!
Neptune - can't wait to hear!!!
Hello to everyone else and big belly rubs and hugs to all!
AFM - back is so much better after pregnancy massage - i have booked in for next week again and can't wait! Still trying to pack my bags - i feel like i'm taking half the nursery and i can't pack all my stuff as i need most of it . Anyway better go - my sister is poping in i just bought cake and couldn't resist - had to try it already he he !!!
xxBella
I have been really busy. Work has turned hectic and we have had so much on and trying to get organised for the arrival of the little one. I can't believe how quick time has gone. Whilst trying to conceive every month felt like it dragged but now my gosh it feels like 2 months ago we got our exciting news.
Neptune- I really hope everything is going well for you with induction.
Kelly- Congrats on the arrival of Tara Rose. A beautiful name.
Bella- Glad the massages are helping. I think I need to book in for one very soon.
Grub- I hope DH had a yesterday. A sooky hormonal meltdown is all ok. Hope you are feeling better and the neighbour was able to mow the lawns for you.
BDT- You have lots of exciting things ahead of you Fiji, baby shower, finishing work christmas and then the arrival of your bubs.
Murph- Not long left for you now. Hope all is going well.
Seph- Hope all is going well for you and the spotting has stopped. I had spotting between 5 - 7 weeks which turned out to be nothing. Try and stay relaxed.
BOC- Wow you got some bargains. Hope you are feeling well.
Poppyfairy- you sound so down. I hope acupuncture helps and you start to feel better soon. for you.
Missmagpie- glad to hear maternity leave has been productive for you. Hope you have enjoyed your baby shower today and were spoilt. I have my baby shower next week and don't want children either but think my sister in law is bringing her children and I don't know how to tell her they are not invited. My invitation was to her only.
Smithy- Love the name CHARLIE ISABELLA. Hope you are baking her nicely.
Misty- Hope you are starting to feel better. Just think the sickness and tiredness will all be forgotten when you are holding your little bundle of joy. It will all be worth it.
Greenslw- Hope you are feeling well. I am struggling to bend down to get my shoes on it is hard now.
Sorry for everyone I haven't personally mentioned. to you all.
AFM- Feeling great have less than 8 wks to go now. I am still working full time. Planning to stay at work til 37wks.
I am pretty organised with things at home the nursery furniture is in the room, pram set up, getting the car seat off layby next weekend and will then have it installed.
I have my baby shower next weekend which I am looking forward to. I have about 50 people coming so I am sure I will be exhausted after it. Both DH & I have big families that get upset if they are not invited to celebrations. With so many girls that's why i don't want children.
Wow Neptune! Thinking of you & wondering if/how it all went!
Lani: Welcome back! We missed you!
Bella: Preggy massage sounds divine! I really have to try and find someone here that does it! Also going to look into AquaNatal, aquarobics for bellies!
Murph: Deep breaths hun, hope it all passes for you soon! Wow 10 days now! OMG you must be so excited!
KellyD: Yay! Glad to hear all is good, great that you're getting into routine!
BDT: Where in Fiji are you going? We had our honeymoon at Shangri La on the main island and also Musket Cove Island. I loooove Fiji so much would go there again in an instant! We're booking a babymoon too, but only to that beautiful little resort we went to a few weeks ago, and it's only an hour away! We'll be there in Feb which is great as the resort has a beautiful pool all the way around it, which is where I'm betting I'll be most of the time!
to everyone else! Big to you all!
AFM went to my folks place for the weekend, had a few people to catch up with and more shopping to do Lay-byed a swing and we've picked a cot out too (my parents are buying cot as a gift) just have to wait, my friend is giving us a beautiful Boori chest/change table and just have to wait & see what colour timber it is before we get a cot. In all my superstition (apparently bad luck to have a pram in your house before bubs comes) I have left my pram at my folks place. Well the cat was over the moon, thought it was a new bed for him! Very cute seeing the little head pop up over the bootcover Not so impressed when we kicked him out! Oh and my Mum got to feel a kick! She was very excited! Now just gotta get DH to be around for the kicks so he can feel one!
Now for the not-so-good news. DH has been offered a new job. Good because it is better money and means I may not have to go back to work after Cookie arrives but bad becasue it includes away work, a week at a time and he seems to think it will be 1 or 2 trips a month! I really don't know what to do, he is just so miserable where he is now and jobs that pay his kind of money with no qualifications are very hard to find, especially at his age! Anyway being that I'm of a HR background he's agreed to have the boss over one night to explain all the details and conditions & then basically IT'S UP TO ME to decide whether he can take it or not! Talk about pressure! I really don't know, I mean I can deal with being on my own with a newborn, it will be hard having noone around to help me (my folks live 2hrs away) and that's not such a big deal, I just hate the thougth of him missing out on Cookie growing up. Anyway, please for me that the right decision is made!
Haoppy Monday everyone and hope you all have a great week!
Last edited by BOC; October 19th, 2009 at 07:57 PM.
what a fantastic day it's been up here. Started the day by getting myself out of the house and off to the beach....ahhhhh, the best therapy in the world. the weather was perfect, got to hang out with the furry kids and DH and laughed so much at their antics. There is nothing as fun and carefree for me. Lotsa laughs and our last preggy photos, some really nice ones to frame and have by my hospital bed. got the belly out too Then, we came home from Cow Bay and it bucketed down...woohoo, haven't seen rain for sooooo long. It arrived in a windy swirl, coming in every window so we were running around madly and yelling at old Huey to send it down. DH ran out to wash the car in the rain and I put buckets everywhere to catch the precious stuff. I can't even explain how bizarre it is to be going through a drought in the wettest part of the country that receives 4000mm of rain per year, but there it is, the driest winter ever recorded this year with only 36mm since June.
Sorry for the weather report, but it's our big news at the moment, daggy as it is.
My advice to all who have been in the dumps like me....do that thing that you know makes you smile. I should have been regularly going to the beach to keep me out of the clouds. I'm certainly going to take Jazzy as often as I can.
More later, but going to hang out with DH while it's just the two of us.
Lots of love from a totally blissed out Mumma. xoxox
P.S Kelly if you still reading...what was your hospital case like I have 2 bags on the go, one each for me and Jazz. She has packed way heavier than me but I have two bags like carry on plane luggage, bulging at the seams did you use all the stuff they tell you to pack and have to take lots of back ups? Thanks so much for your updates, you're a champ! Don't buy into the comments about whether your baby is a "good" sleeper and sleeps through the night or not. she will do what she needs to do in her own good time.xox
just got off the phone with DH... they've extended the course by 5 days so means he won't be home til December 4 - that is TEN DAYS before EDD
i just feel shattered and so upset. i feel so scared of being alone for the birth of this precious one and not coping. We are supposed to be doing this together! Not alone, isoalted from all my family and friends.
i think he is going to come home now for one weekend.. that's a friday night, saturday and leave again on Sunday.
Feel soooo stressed about it all and just have a terrible ''feeling'' that bluey will arrive early.
thanks for listening. must go find fur baby for consolation. ox will be back in a more upbeat mood later.
What a crappy thing to have to deal with! Vent away hun, that's what we're all here for!
Hopefully you found some solace snuggling into furbaby, they are sooo good for that!
I have to ask though, if you do go into labour early, are there provisions for DH to come home early?
for a good outcome for you.
Murph: Gotta love daggy weather reports glad you got to do what made you happy! For me that's "retail therapy" so thank you for giving me permission! Not sure DH will thank you though
I'm off to bed now, have a great night!
PS: Photo site FINALLY updated with latest pics plus pics from our 12wk scan!
Last edited by BOC; October 19th, 2009 at 08:28 PM.
and apologise in advance that I can't talk to you all.
I'm going under the knife and woohoo, bring it on!
, very cute). We are all so different and comparison is the source of suffering. I know that cos OBs insist on telling me that my baby's abdominal cavity measures off the scale (size wise) when compared to all the babies born in Australia...oh but don't worry, it's only a statistical comparison...yeah just like nuchal scans! Grrrr.
. Anyway better go - my sister is poping in i just bought cake and couldn't resist - had to try it already he he !!!
yesterday. A sooky hormonal meltdown is all ok. Hope you are feeling better and the neighbour was able to mow the lawns for you.
for you.
to you all.
to everyone else! Big 
Not so impressed when we kicked him out! Oh and my Mum got to feel a kick! She was very excited! Now just gotta get DH to be around for the kicks so he can feel one!
for me that the right decision is made!
. xoxox
I have 2 bags on the go, one each for me and Jazz. She has packed way heavier than me
for a good outcome for you.
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