Pregnancy after Long Term TTC #6 - 2009

[grub17]

thanks sooo sooo soo much murph! thank you for being so thoughtful, for thinking of me, for worrying about me. You are a very compassionate lady - what a lucky little jazzy you have there!

and those thoughts are exactly what i used to pick myself up and dust myself off... we have been very very lucky in that he rarely goes away and has never been deployed... and I knew full well what i was getting into when we married. it doesn't make it easier when you are in the full swing of it, BUT, it's only 7 weeks and like you said, it means he won't have to go away post-birth and like my dh said "you are a strong woman'' lol. love a man who loves a strong woman hey!

anyhoo - one week!!!!! i'm so excited!

oxo

[BOC]

Oh Murph, I get what you mean! It used to be a lot easier writing a long list of spectacular persies like our talented BDT does but now it's like I have ADD, I start writing but just lose my mojo halfway through! What kind words you have for Grub, you certainly have a way of saying what we all feel for her!

Grub, so glad you got to see Bluey's face! I can't wait for that moment, to see who our little cookie looks like! Who does yours look like?

Miss Magpie: Can't believe it's only two weeks! How exciting! Glad your baby shower went well and the kidlets were looked after!

BDT: YES! No more lifting for you Missy! And that's an order! Good luck with the packing and hope your holiday is awesome! Very jealous, the Outrigger is lovely!


Well after my major baby brain this morning I have had a roller coaster of a day. Around 12-ish I got really tired and lethargic and laid down and ended up missing bible study. Well my lovely friends at the church got worried and one of them came around to check I was ok, wasn't that lovely! They are so wonderful that it makes me forget the people I'd rather not have in my life! So I felt all rosy for an hour and then out of the blue started to feel like I wanted to strangle someone, the poor kid that crossed the road in front of me had a startled look on his face when I hit the horn and yelled a stream of abuse out the window and then, by the time I got to Coles I burst into tears in the middle of the fruit & veg section, cried my way around the groceries (a lovely old duck stopped me and asked if I was ok), all the way down to get petrol and all the way home! Once home I drowned my sorrows in 2 packets of twisties, some cashews and a rasberry split whilst watching a particularly lame episode of 90210. And I was fine again. But then DH came home, I went out to meet him and instead of hello I got "Wow you're huge today!" to which he copped a swift "F@*k You!" and me storming back into the house Poor dear! He was really trying to be nice not mean!

I know it's all perfectly normal and it's only going to get worse but man what a day! I've had plenty of mood swings in my time but today really takes the cake! Only downside is I was so embarrassed about it all I can't bear to tell anyone else, but I'm sure you lovely ladies understand and have even had the same kind of day.

Anyway enough of my babbling again, DH feels guilty so he's out in the kitchen cooking me dinner while I squirrel away in the office! I feel bad now so I might go and help him!

Have a great night!

[TaRhLi.]

BDT: O.K nighty recommendations. Well there is not a lot around that you would wear, trust me most are for grannies. I found a couple in Big W and Target that had buttons down the front. I am not a nighty girl, but trust me if you have a c/s then it is expected that you will bring nighty's with you. When you come out from theatre, the midwives will change you out of your hospital gown, give you a bit of a sponge bath and then put your nighty on for you. Because you have a catheter in you need to have easy access to the lower parts, plus they are always checking your wound the first couple of days as well. I also found it much easier to wear a nighty while recovering as once you are mobile you still have trouble bending at the waist and also lifting your legs, so trying to put on PJ bottoms would have taken me forever. I did take some PJ's into hospital as well and only put them on the last night in hossy when I felt that I could move more freely and having the waist band around my belly was tolerable to sleep overnight. One more thing, I also have a clean nighty for each night in hospital it is really needed as you end up getting colostrum/breast milk/baby vomit on you and I found that I was really hot and sweaty all the time. Probably a combination of the heating plus the hormones.

[bella55]

Hi ladies,

Sorry just a very quick post from me tonight -

Kelly - great advice re: nighties i will be off to explore big w and target tom!!!

Grub - glad to hear you are feeling a little better and more positive. I really feel for you and i know what it's like once in bed all alone and the floodgates open - but i must admit sometimes i felt so cleansed after a good cry!!! Make sure though that you are getting enough rest xx

AFM - went for my second massage toady - oh god it was soooooo nice - i booked in again for next week I have scan and appt tom - i think my boys have had a growth spurt - or at least their mother has ha ha! Will pop in tom to update you all.

Belly rubs and lots of hugs to everyone

xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxBella

[BOC]

Hmmm thanks for the advice Kelly, definitely something to think about! I was just planning on getting some maternity singlets to sleep in (and pj pants on the end of the bed for when I have to get up) and then trakkies and tees for daytime.

Don't know about nighties, I generally sleep all-year-round in a singlet and undies, no matter how cold it is (and I tend to get all hot and sweaty in my sleep even in winter). I turn over roughly every half hour and nighties or pj pants just get all tangled up so I don't know how I'm going to tackle this one!

Bella: good to hear your massage was great! I have a friend that is a masseur and I've been waiting til I'm definitely out of the woods before going for one, can't wait!

Started my first Aquarobics session last night! Was looking for Preggy version but there's none really near here so I spoke to the instructor and she just modified each exercise for me. It was really great and looking forward to Monday when I can go again!

Hey quick question, anyone have any good tips for cleaning greasy oven trays & racks without the use of oven cleaner? I've tried hot soapy water and jif to no avail.

Hope everyone has a great weekend! Sending to you all!

[bella55]

Hello lovely ladies,

Just a quick update - had scan and appt today - all great still some growth discordance but less than 2 weeks ago - fluid around each baby and cord blood flow perfect. Plan is still induction at 36weeks BUT twin 1 has dropped heaps and they have said i may not make it to induction and may go into labour naturally!! So anytime from now to 4 weeks - wow i'm getting very nervous and excited!
I thought they may have dropped given the intense pelvic pressure i get in particular when walking!

Hope everyone is having a lovely Friday and have a great weekend!

xxxxBella

[Baby Dreamtime]

Woohoo Bella, that is so exciting, fingers crossed they stay baking a little longer, and great news that the growth difference is less.

BOC, yes I have a recommendation for cleaning the oven - DH lol. Aquarobics sounds like a great idea.

Kelly, thanks so much for your advice re nighties, I am off to BigW too, which reminds me of those lovely pics of Angelina and Brad with their latest babies, wasn't she wearing a really pretty white floaty nightie in the pics, very celebrity of us

Yeehaa everyone! It is the weekend. Pizza for dinner tonight YUM. And no house work for me either as the house is so dusty from all the ongoing work, there is no point.

Have a great weekend xx

[barney]

lurking lurking hope you all have a fab weekend im thinking of you have just finished baby charlie room if you would like to see ..
take car all ill be back for persies through the week

YouTube - DSCF3602 charlies new bedroom

[grub17]

BOC, yes I have a recommendation for cleaning the oven - DH lol. Aquarobics sounds like a great idea.

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maybe you could google 'natural cleaning products'. i'm sure there is some sort of household item innocently sitting in your cupboard that has 'magical' cleaning properites

wow bella that is super duper exciting! Can you tell your belly has dropped or was it the pressure feeling more? i'm on high alert for droppping as at my scan the other day the sonographer said bub was sitting "very low, i mean very low'' lol. so i got worried he's engaged already!

boc - do remember you won't be doing much tossing and turnign if you have a c-sect or probably vaggy baby for that matter! and hospy beds aren't that friendly to moving about. But i'm also going preggy/nursing singlets and pants for most of my hospy wear with a nightie or two, and some maternity pjs. but i'm hoping i'll have bub via the main gates iykwim and won't even have a graze lol. (yes, i've been alone for 2 full weeks and have become delusional, have started having conversations with bluey's teddies mmmwwaaahhh)

kellyd - that's great advice about taking a change of clothes for every day.

i'm excited as plan to pack my bags next weekend when mum is here. also, one of dh's workmates left a message for me today - to ring him and let him know when to come and mow the lawn made me feel much less forgotten!

only one week left at work and really not doing too much actual work - lots of bringing others up to speed and tieing up lose ends

feel huge and fat and can't stop eating! anyone else still eating lots? i figure he must be having another growth spurt!

going to preggy pilates tomorrow if it's not bucketing down

hope you all have a fab weekend

oxox

[saph204]

Hi everyone ,hoping everyone is dpoing well.

I am still lurking but just in to much pain to even function really.

Off to the Ballet tonight just hope I can sit there without being in to much pain.

[Greenslw]

OK I'm so far behind again (deap breath)

Grub you gave 8 months notice, you are nice. enjoy the week left. So sad re DP. I send you and bubs lots of hang in their vibes.

Bella massages are the best

Laniwantsababy glad to see another mad lady working post 34 weeks. I've got 11 to go.

BOC re working away. Can he give it a go for 6 months then see if it's working for the whole family? I think it is really hard to say no to good money especially if the job you have sux. I always said "no" to DF but it looks like it may happen, in the end I'd rather happy DF than miserable and around lots. But I love the idea of a review in 6 months and I (or you) get a vote! hope this helps.

Saph, I hope the new meds work and DH is looking after you.

Smithy OMG still spewing! I do sometimes but only if I eat when I'm not hungry.

KellyD thanks for the insight into your bag. Very good to have some ideas that work.

NEPTUNE welcome Adam. Well done.

Popyfairy glad you are in a better place

Baby Dreamtime you sound like you're mega nesting! hope you are taking lots of breaks in between all the hard work. What colour are you painting?

MissMagpie enjoy your board time I think all mums to be need it. 2 weeks how very very exciting, all bags packed?

Murph sending you and DH lots of happy baby is coming vibes

Sorry if I missed anyone along the way. I love readying all your posts but it takes ages.

ATM I got tafe work for next year so that's one more thing off the list.
I've noticed I'm swelling already, I can't wear my engagement ring, so it's around my neck.
This week is full of meetings and I'm scared about my attention span it's about 3 hours then I'm a ball of geww. So I'm hoping we get things done in the morning then I can sneak out with my dignity in tact. Well that's the plan.
Study is going well I feel loads more confident with all the prep I'm doing for a pac on melbourn cup day (bummer) and one the following Saturday. It will all be fine *my new mantra*

Lots of belly rubs to all. Have a great weekend. xxooxx

[Murph01]

Hello everyone,

well all things being equal and provided that Jasmine does not decide to turn now, she will here on Thursday. I am really excited now. I wouldn't have believed it if you told me I'd look forward to it but I've had lots of my fears dispelled about the epidural and caesarian. I know I can read horror stories if I want but I'm choosing to look at experiences like KellyD's and lots of the other girls who have shared previously. We also met with the lovely anaesthetist and he was great...so stay breech Jazzy and we'll have you out in a jiffy

Aww shucks Grub, you make me blush. I'm not good at compliments, much better with sarcasm

Mum's in Best and Less as we speak buying me some Nana nighties. I went out and bought some super duper excellent on special button down tops and p.j pants at Sussans which I live in before finding out about the nightie dilemma. So I text the keeper of all nana nighties and none of hers are suitable for BF. She'll spot a bargain, $7.00 was her last offer. I bought one really cute one at Kmart but it's all they had other than smocks and moo moos and I still fit non-maternity size 12

Saph, I hope you got to enjoy the ballet pain-free. I thought labour was kicking in for me lastnight, I had all sorts of different pains and we were on alert thinking we'd need the ferry driver's after hours number.

BOC - cute belly pics. I just had my last ones taken today wearing exactly what I had on the first time we could see the bump growing (14 weeks) and at 38 weeks, I'm enormous at least by my own comparison (if noone elses My tum never really changed from those measurements where I got everyone out with the measuring tapes...I'm now 103cm when I stretch the tape. How are you all faring?

Smithy, thanks for the tour of Charlie's room. So warm and welcoming and you've done so well being so sick. I haven't exaggerated about Jasmine's room and I wish I could show you, she has her cradle in one side of our wardrobe with no doors on in our bedroom and that is it! Poor little bugger, I'm not showing her your video I think she's putting up shelves in the womb and going to settle in as it's bigger than what she's moving out to. I have got a beautiful ruby red mozzie net draped above and at least her little space in the world will have a theme, so going with lady bugs which I adore and it's been our ticker so I'm even more attached.

Hey to all the lovely girls who have newly become mums and are recovering and bonding at home with your babies. we still think of you often...the list is so long, but you know who you are. This is like my Oscars speech as I will soon be stepping off too and looking back fondly at the support you've all given me.

Baby Dreamtime, take it easy and look after those little twinnies and you too Bella. Glad to hear you are both traveling well in twinville, despite your many aches and pains and worries along the way.

Miss Magpie, so soon for you now too. If you don't overtake me again, I think you're next. I'd better go update. Take care and hope you are preparing for your c/s like me and not getting freaked out.

Poppiefairy and all the lovely girls I know I've missed (again), I hope you are all going well and looking after yourselves. I keep thinking of your last post Poppiefairy and it really gives me a lift to know so many of us are in similar situations, literally worlds away but able to come together here for support. yes, I think you all worked it out, I'm a humanist...give me Maslow over Freud any day.

Lots of love to you all. for me that Jazzy now stays breech, little bugger.xoxo

[barney]

oh murph thursday hun holy crappa how exciting ,and im sure your beautiful little girls space will be just beautiful

hi green thanks for thinking of me sweety..look at you soon 27 weeks woohoo.

grub..how you plodding darlin xoxo

saph i really hope your going ok hun how was you ballet.

boc..bd..miss magpie..poppyfairy..kelly d...bella... omg there are too many of us pmsl..im so soz if ive forgot you but i luv ya all
well just a few hellos today im very lazy after yesterday have a great sunday tomorrw girls

[lise]

Good afternoon ladies!

I hope you don't mind me joining you here in this thread - last week DH and I achieved our first BFP!

A little about me:

I went off Depo Provera in October 2007, and AF returned straight away. DH and I tried to conceive naturally until about May this year when I spoke with my GP. She did some tests and referred us to FS at MIVF, who then told us DH had low sperm count, poor motility and morphology, and recommended ICSI. Our first cycle was cancelled hours before ET as we only had 5 eggs from EPU, 2 of which fertilised, but they both developed muliple nuclei and FS wouldn't transfer them. Second cycle we transferred 2 embies and on Wednesday we got our BFP!!

DH and I are terribly excited, but i'm as nervous and anxious as all hell, hence i'm hoping you lovely ladies may be able to reassure me. I don't know if it's a normal pregnancy thing, or if i'm like this because of the LTTTC and AC, but every twinge, sore back, pain etc., every time I go to the bathroom, basically all day every day, i'm convinced something bad will happen. It's only been 4 days, so i'm hoping it's just early nerves, cos I really don't want to be anxious the whole 9 months! Did others experience this? Did you calm down? What helped?

Our first scan is Nov 6 where the nurse said we should be able to see if we have one or two on board...!!

Thanks for reading this far (if you made it!). I look forward to getting to know everyone and sharing your stories

lise

[barney]

LISE a huge congrats to you and dh hunny i hope you have a wonderful pg..your more than welcome in here hunny

[grub17]

hi lise welcome aboard lovely!!!

this thread rocks. its very supportive and full of neurotic pregnant women (you all know i mean that with love lol).

as for going to the loo every 20 mins - well that sounds pretty normal. And i hate to break it to you but the anxiety does not let up! there is always something. I think its about you choosing how much you'll let it get to you. But for now, i highly recommend just enjoying your acheivement thus far enjoy the moment with your DH.

thanks smithy for the shout out! can't believe you ask how i am going and you are so sick all the time. day's been okay. but am getting lots of back pain, so making dinner/lunch was somewhat a challenge as i can barely stand. ended up ringing DH for husband sympathy as i really really really needed someone to help me out today ah well.

mum here on thurs!

greenslw - sorry didn't understand the tafe comment. does that mean you've got a definite return to work/study date for next year? (sorry if that's a really dumb question). and yep, my work had lots of notice cos my boss (who is the most loveliest wonderful boss ever ever ever) knew what was happening with our lttc. Despite losing his 2IC with me going, he offers nothing but support! lol. and let me take off whatever i needed - mostly without having to take sick leave etc.

murph - you can't go from this thead! who will i give sh*t to lol? But i'm so glad you are excited! i'm excited for you sweet! I can't imagine actually getting to the arrival date! does it feel a little surreal? after all this waiting and longing, your dream will arrive??

saph - how you going lovely? how was the ballet? which production was it? i love the ballet but it doesn't come here often and dh won't go with me.

ooh bella- that is exciting news!!! any updates!

bdt - how was your peezzzaaa???

hi to everyone else!!! oxox

[TaRhLi.]

Murph: Just dropping in to wish you the best of luck for Thursday and I can't wait to hear when Jazzy arrives safely. I'm so happy that you now feel empowered about your c/s. Looking forward to sharing our parenting journey together, catch you on the flip side.

[barney]

hang in there beautiful grub your doing so well sweety i wish i was closer so i could help