Hello - I'm afraid I agree with Poppy and airline. My mother is law is pretty cool - I mean we arent' best friends but she's pretty nice. But I wouldn't want her to be there for the birth - seeing me scream and wee and poo!!! never mind when you are trying ti concentrate!! No way jose. If she came post birth, I'd probably get some help out of her, but it's not like your own mum is it.

I'd say, lovely of her to offer - and as you say, nice that she's making an effort. Let her come, but send her a list of B&Bs in the area. And see if she takes the hint, as Poppy says, it's only a few nights and not that expensive in the great scheme of things. If she wants to come, she'll stay in one, if she doesnt' then make DH get brutal with her. From past experience, I'd say that bad messages must come from him not you, otherwise you become the "difficult" in law... good luck!

airline - sounds like you had some great advice yesterday. I do wonder how exact some of these decisions are, the science seems so open to interpretation sometimes. Before we started trying to concieve, I saw a chinese medicine person and he said that my blood wasn't good enough and tried to get me to do all these things to improve my blood - I have no idea if it made a difference, but for a vegetarian, my blood iron is practically off the (top) scale. It was much easier for a meat eater - let me know if you do and I'll hunt out and send you the list. I'm sure a bit of a blood boost won't hurt?!