Hey Rachel,
It was going to be different this time round for you hun. Hope you can start enjoying it all a bit more soon. I am still coming to terms with it all myself too.
It is such a shame when people start to blab...it is not their news. I am sorry you are facing this. We are lucky...on the other side of the world. We told my Sil and 1 bro the next day...but i am very close with that SIL and i wanted her to be a part of all of it. Then I told my other brother and his wife...and Mum and Dad at about 6 weeks. I tried to wait longer but mum would have been hurt and it was timed well for when she got back from os. As for friends..BB girls knew straight away...and we have been very selective to tell close friends...about 3 couple...who we know don't even see anyone else we know..and that are good at keeping secrets. Otherwise it is all over.
It is funny but after trying for so long and finally getting there, everyone (for us) has been really supportive of keeping the secret. For some reason they feel it is more important for us...which we are so grateful for. My poor SIL told close family and it was all out in less than a week. ONce it hits the cousins...all over! We had an interesting reaction from my SIl that i am not as close with...love her but we are more family than friends IYKWIM... She said ' Oh that is great news...I hate knowing this early though.' I could have hit her, but she is just like that, lack a bit of maturity and thoughtfulness. Got to love her. She waited a week to congratulate us over email...we had called her work but couldn't get her a number of times so i left it to my brother in the end...then didn't hear anything. Ha sorry you probably didn't want to know so much detail...feeling chatty!
As for your boy and girl issue hun....i can understand what you mean re people having their opinions and insensitive views...i don't blame you for wanting to avoid comments like that. We are the same...i think it comes with the territory of LTTTC.
I really hope the scan can bring you comfort and you see that little heart beating like mad...find the excitement and blow caution to the wind...do what you like and bugger everyone else. Bless your DD, she is already getting excited for you. Aren't children so intuitive.
Good luck adn let us know how it goes.
Love Hm xoxo
Last edited by Gigi1; November 20th, 2008 at 12:55 AM.
on tra_k (I forget names as soon as I hit reply and can no longer see signatures!), our decision on when to tell family was based more upon our miscarriage history than our IVF history. We'd twice had to go through the process of "untelling" people we were pregnant, and it was something that we were desperately trying to avoid this time. My immediate support network amongst close friends and work colleagues knew straight away (I desperately needed some people to know, and it had to be the people I deal with on a day-to-day basis). Work had to know because I was really not myself with regards to morning sickness, and I needed them to know just in case the worst happened yet again. We didn't tell parents until we were 10 weeks or so - emailed them scan pictures. Siblings found out much later - my sister was told around 16 weeks, DH's sister was told closer to 20 weeks or so, and his brothers didn't find out until they saw us at 25 weeks... All of our family are quite a long distance away from us, which was why they didn't find out until much later compared to friends. I'm quite glad we did it that way... but a little sad that it was all calculated, rather than just being able to be happy and tell people because we wanted to.
I'm still desperately tired here - copping a pounding at work with extra periods because so many others are out. I find that if I take a day off, I end up being hit hard the next day, so it just doesn't seem worth it. I'm now extremely behind with my reports and things will be quiet as I spend the next few days trying to catch up and get on top of things again. I'm just hanging out for the end - three weeks to go now! We have a scan this afternoon to check on Munchkin's growth, should be the last one we have.
Sorry no personal (again!) as I am so busy at work. Got my BT results back and my hcg levels have jumped to 157,000. Yay! MS has increased somewhat but I am copying o.k....not sure it is because I am just generally good at copying with sickness or not. It is worse during the morning at at night...
Thanks for the congrats, we are are all home now and doing well.........riding the rollercoaster!
Julia & Owen are doing great now we have sorted out some feeding issues and going great thanks for all the well wishes. Will be back later to catch up.
BT results from yesterday were not encouraging so it's going to be a nervous weekend until my scan on Monday.
HM, BW - thanks for sharing your strategies for telling people ... if this all goes pear shaped I might not have to deal with that particular problem anymore ...
Shan - great to hear from you, congrats on the safe arrival of your twins ...
Shan...yay you are all home safe and sound. Glad to hear things are going well, COngratulations again.
On Tra_k/Rachel...hope it all works out for you hun.
Kahlan...oh that is great news...wow nice high results. Hope the MS is nice to you babe and you don't suffer too much.
BW...HOpe you are able to get some rest soon babe. So sorry you are swamped with work and can't get a breather. You are on the home straight now. We felt a similar way..in the end the people that know so far are the support network would have needed if it went tits up. So far so good though.
Love to you all and lots of belly rubs!!
AFM...Bit tired but getting plenty of rest...bit off but eating what i can to keep my nutrition up. DH being a dream and huge support...cooking for me when i feel off. Must get some house work done today...all falling behind a bit.
Love to all
Hm xoxox
Still getting slammed here. I was at work for 4 periods yesterday, and had my regular classes for 3 of them... and got an extra period thrown at me for the one I did have off. I'm just so completely over this! I'm ending up too tired to even sleep properly.
Yesterday's scan went great - we got some fantastic shots of Munchkin's facial expressions, heart is still perfect, and he's now well above average size. They've gone from being worried I'll have a tiny baby at 18 weeks, to now worried I'm going to have a monster baby at 32 weeks. The estimate for his size at 40 weeks is now at around 8.5 lbs, but I'm terrified he'll go way over if he keeps up his current growth rate! The thought of getting this kid out has now become really quite daunting... Especially when I consider that now that Shannon's twins are here it's Miss C then me...
I'm hoping to catch up some time over the weekend... but I don't have a lot of hope. My baby shower is on Sunday and as my mother and sister are pretty much refusing to alter their plans at all they won't be there, so I didn't bother sending an invitation to MIL... I did invite SIL, though and she's told MIL and MIL rang last night and invited herself to stay. Now I'm freaking out because the house is in an absolutely shocking state, the spare room is crammed full of Munchkin stuff and you simply can't get at the spare bed any more and she doesn't want to know the gender until he's here, but it's pretty obvious as soon as you step into that room! DH has instructions to call her back today and tell her that we simply don't have space and if she does come (because she couldn't tell us that she would of course, just to make things even worse - I'm not going to wipe myself out cleaning up in a hurry for someone who only might come because she may not be well enough!) she's better off staying with SIL. Not very happy with SIL at the moment - not just for telling MIL, but for insisting that DH spend the day with her husband and son while he's just as swamped as me because he's having to do pretty much everything around here because I'm out of action as well as entering into the most insanely busy time of year for him...
Excuse the self-absorbed grumbles... all the emotional crap from family is simply making the physical fatigue even worse. I really don't know whether I want to or
Just a quick post to let you know I am still around and my babies are great. I'm just having some personal problems at the moment and will chat when I can.
Shannon- Wanted to say a huge congratulations to you. I'm sure you must be exhausted right now but totally over the moon and in love!!
Shan - great news - glad you are home safe and sound. How did the birth go?
Quick question - I was looking at the scans the other day of the sneak and my 12 week scan had 9.3cms on it. Now I have been reading up recently and really it should have only been 5 - 6?
Does anyone know what the deal is with that? I'm a bit confused at the size of the babino on board.
nixon, depends on what measurement they were taking at the time - it may have been around belly or around the head. we measured 5.55-5.65cm CRL, over 7.3cm head circ - can't remember belly, but it had a little pot!
It was the only measurement I could see on the scan pic - I don't remember them measuring belly or head- oh well will just have to wait and see what they say at the next one.
does it have an EDD on there at all to show you whether it was unusually large measurement? i know for every measurement we had taken, it showed, based on that measurement, what the EDD would be. Every date was within five days of our EDD so on average it all worked out to be on par. if a measurement had been particularly out of character, the doc or sonographer would have commented i'm sure.
AFM - not a lot happening - still fighting ms on a daily basis, and trying to work out when next scan will be. was hoping to push morphology scan to close to 20 weeks for more clarity and stuff like that, but worked out we've hit safety net, hit 18w the sunday after Christmas, so if we have our scan done between then and new years eve, we can sneak in under the medicare safety net and pay maybe 20 for the scan out of pocket, instead of 100... DH loves the idea of finishing the year with morph scan, so will have to get referral from the doc next week and book it in.
we've also decided to have a 4d scan. it was for a while a maybe maybe not scenario, but we queried our local 4d scan mob, and they are, from what i have read elsewhere, about $80 minium cheaper than the places down in the city - and they do the scans from 26-29weeks (where i've read a lot of people saying they have to be 30+ weeks). timing works out that i'm 29weeks on valentines day weekend, which is when we got together, so we're looking at having the scan the week before that....
There is no way I can properly catch up on what's been going on in here!
Will have a go though, and try to get back into things.
Scooby and Numa - hey belly buddies!! Hope you're both doing marvellously! Not much longer now, it's getting scarily close!
TL - congratulations on your girl! Wonderful news. So glad that everything is going smoothly, and I love the name Charlotte.
Shannon - huge congratulations on the arrival of Julia and Owen, you must be so happy that they are here at last.
BG - LOVE the new avatar! So glad all went well at your 12 week scan. Very exciting to have a 4D scan!! I love getting a quick 3D glimpse of bubs at each appointment.
Kahlan - great news on your levels!
on tra_k - I hope you get some good news on your levels soon
BW - really glad to hear that all is going well with munchkin. My baby is also measuring ahead and OB is making 'big baby' noises, which concerns me a bit. But the u/s measurements have such a big margin of error, I'm sure we both have babies within the normal range. Hope work calms down a bit soon, when do you finish?
Hippy Mum - you said something a couple of pages back about being vegetarian. I wouldn't worry about it, I'm vegetarian too and all is fine. I haven't really had anyone hassle me about it. No idea what some people might be saying behind my back though!! I was vegan but thought it might be contributing to my issues with conceiving, so I took up dairy and free range eggs, and cut back on the soy products. I think it may have helped (well, that plus the fertility treatment )
LS and Nicole - congrats on the great 12 week scan results!!
Megan - congratulations on your little boy!! Wonderful news!
I'm really sorry girls, I just can't keep up with everything that's going on in here. I will try to keep up more from now on. But I am just so happy that this thread is so busy!! This has been one fertile year for LTTTCers.
As for me, had an awful start to the week that has turned out fine. Went to my ob checkup on Monday to find that there was lots of sugar in my urine, and pin pri*k test had blood sugar level of 9.9. So stupid midwife got in a flap and started saying I probably had gestational diabetes. She really scared me, and I got very upset. Finally got in to see Ob and he started talking about early induction (meaning he wouldn't be at the birth). Anyway, he sent me off for the 2 hour GTT, which I did the next day, got the results Wednesday night and I passed, thankfully. It was such an up and down week. But it has made me think more about my diet and that I need to do some more light exercise.
I am getting really impatient to meet our baby. Got a good look at him on Monday, he is looking pretty cute!! Ob says 100% a boy and that he is very well endowed! I think he may have been saying that to flatter DH.
Anyway, I'm really sorry to those girls I have missed. I've been reading off and on and trying to keep up with what's happening. Sending you all massive and happy mummy and baby wishes!
Devon
xxxx
Last edited by Devon; November 21st, 2008 at 10:05 AM.
I find that if I take a day off, I end up being hit hard the next day, so it just doesn't seem worth it. I'm now extremely behind with my reports and things will be quiet as I spend the next few days trying to catch up and get on top of things again. I'm just hanging out for the end - three weeks to go now! We have a scan this afternoon to check on Munchkin's growth, should be the last one we have.
hang in there may all be ok
I'm just so completely over this! I'm ending up too tired to even sleep properly.
DH has instructions to call her back today and tell her that we simply don't have space and if she does come (because she couldn't tell us that she would of course, just to make things even worse - I'm not going to wipe myself out cleaning up in a hurry for someone who only might come because she may not be well enough!) she's better off staying with SIL. Not very happy with SIL at the moment - not just for telling MIL, but for insisting that DH spend the day with her husband and son while he's just as swamped as me because he's having to do pretty much everything around here because I'm out of action as well as entering into the most insanely busy time of year for him...
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and happy mummy and baby wishes!
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