Lairdoz, I'm glad you've got your plan in place. That is such a hard one. How strange that your sister chose exactly the same name. I can totally understand you being p***ed off. God, I would be. Actually, my younger bro's wife is pregnant, due a week or two before me (conceived easily) and yes, actually, he told us their names straight away (he is a sensitive one, I'm lucky) and thank god, they were ... well, hilariously different to the ones we'd had our hearts set on for a while now (my bro and his wife are performers, and me and my DH are basically public servants, kinda different personalities!). But still, these names are kind of so way out that we still worry, what if they change their minds once the baby arrives and choose one of "our" names. You can also feel like you're being an "idiot" because thank god, you're having a baby and what's in a name, and so forth. But I think names are really special and they're for life, so I think they're really important too. Plus it's that tiny bit of "confidence" or "attachment" that we can have, having had such a rough time with TTC, and sometimes it's hard to know what else to hold on to. Maybe that's a bit melodramatic. I'm exhausted. I just dropped a beef casserole on the kitchen floor and thus simultaneously missed out on lunch, and had to clean for half an hour!

Juniper, actually we were both like that at first, because my mum was being kind of pushy, plus she was telling everyone about my brother's impending "fatherhood" (which sounds ridiculous to me, because he's younger, but then I kind of forget my own age!), and it was kind of galling, somehow. If anything, I was the most resistant one. And my DH did say that exact thing "it's our news" but then we decided we just couldn't be a**ed phoning everyone, and also my cousin said something, which just made things seem really simple. He said "Well, it's nice for the grannies to have a bit of a role". And I thought, oh, yes, hang on, my mum really loves us and she's just excited and not "gossiping" and this is a good way to involve her. Anyway, the deadline was today. It will be out as of now.

And as for colds, steam inhalations are pretty good at killing germs in the sinus.