Juniper, it is a really hard decision to make and one ultimately for you and your husband. I wish mums could be more understanding and just accept our wishes, but speaking about my own, although she means well, I could have strangled her at the time for adding to my stress in an incredibly stressful situation because SHE wanted to tell the world I was PG when WE didn't want her to. It made me feel like we should have kept it to ourselves and only told her when we wanted the world to know - because once mum knows, everyone knows! My mum was the first person we told the good news to, and god I wish I hadn't told her when she was being difficult but that would have been a major wrong in mum's books if we kept it a secret from her! Your plan sounds like a good one. Let us know how it all goes.

Hi Paula, how are you feeling? Ready to meet your baby I imagine!

Airline, I had a terrible time in my first trimester with sleep, but I did IVF and had to take pessaries and tablets every six hours so set my alarm to wake myself up at some godawful hour of the morning, and then could never get back to sleep. Plus I needed to go to the toilet every half hour throughout the night. Then once I got into the second trimester the need to frequently go to the toilet ceased but very bad headaches started and also waking up at 2 or 3 am every night from about week 13 for a couple of weeks, from memory. I remember thinking the 2nd semester was supposed to be the good one! But it's got better now (I'm week 20) apart from feeling tired and getting achy feet! Ha, ha. Oh the joys of being UTD!