Pregnancy after LT TTC #14

Lairdoz, if you're still eating healthy, then I'd guess that the weight you're gaining is all related to bub rather than a growing behind, so try not to let it bother you. I'm sure you look great! I'm one of those women starting from the other end and I'm currently 14kg less than I was at EPU. I've had more "luck" losing weight while pg than when I wasn't. Not that I'm trying. I'm just continuing to restrict my refined sugar intake (ie soft drink, chocolate, etc, same as before our IVF) because I'm dreading the GTT (which I have to do in about 2 weeks)... Every time I get on the scales, the midwife gives me a pat on the back... Sorry to hear about your job. That's terrible timing. I hope your DH's business kicks off quickly and one of those deals comes through soon.

Hi to everyone else. Sorry to cut this short, but have to run... :(

Airline, you're making me laugh thinking about your purple maternity dress and purple hued hair! I bet you look great and certainly not like Violet (I think is her name) from Willy Wonka.

Lairdoz, sorry to hear you're stressing about finances, hun. I've been doing a fair bit of that too, and I still have a job to go back to after maternity leave. Damn huge mortgage! FX your DH's business starts with a bang and continues that way so you can try not to worry about money.

Kelly, how bizarre you're on both the babies born and expecting list! Well done.

Renee, I can't believe I'm now fourth from the top! I hate to say it, but I think I'll beat CK! I don't want to beat Miss K or Em Star, though! Yikes.

Juniper, well done on losing so much weight. I've put on 11 kilos so far at 30 weeks today, not bad for 2 I reckon!

Lairdoz maybe we need to do some marketing for our thread!!!

Brunette........ HAPPY 30 WEEKS :happyforyou:

Lairdoz maybe we need to do some marketing for our thread!!!

Brunette........ HAPPY 30 WEEKS :happyforyou:

AFM- off on a weeks holiday!!! Byeeeeeeeee

Ha, ha, thanks Jaki, it was nice though to see a double post congratulations on my reaching 30 weeks!

Airline, you are cracking me up with your purple! I myself seem to only own stretchy things with horizontal stripes, so .. I guess I look kind of like a beach ball ... or I will soon ... And glad to hear MS waning ... As for movement, my friend didn't feel anything til 24 weeks (healthy babies both times) and I didn't really feel anything for sure til .. 19 weeks? Even now, the baby stops for a day or so and then I freak, and then eventually a get a double-punch or kick to reassure me.


Lairdoz, sorry to hear about these continual stresses. Don't feel like your stress will affect the baby though. I have done a bit of research on that and I think baby's at risk only when mum's living in situations of extreme trauma (like living with violence or war). Anyway, I know it's still bl**dy crap to have stress, and I too worry about this effect on my baby in the womb. Hoping that this eases up soon.

Brunette, congrats on 30 weeks!

Juniper, hats off to you for restricting refined sugars. This has been my New Year's resolution for about 10 years. I yo-yo on it. With self-pride, I relinquished 2 home baked cupcakes to my DH's parents yesterday. I fantasised about them all night. The cupcakes, that is...

Wishing everyone a lovely weekend. Anyone in Melbourne (?), well, it's your typical stay at home and watch a movie weekend, which is great (ie rain again). Though we're going to an active birth class. Should be ... strange?

Take care all,
WW

Yeh Brunette!! 30 weeks wow!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Yes girls, my first day in my maternity dress/tent was wonderful. DH's last words were, 'that looks atrocious!'....and my male supervisor thought it was from my own wardrobe - stupid bloody man! Anyway, on the way to work, I decided having driven past so many, that if I stood and swayed on the spot, I could be mistaken for a Jacaranda tree.

Oh well, may the bump grow and make it more obvious that I'm UTD and don't just have bad taste :-)
Yes I think we need to promote our forum!! Where are the other girls going??!!

Lairdoz - sorry to hear about the redundancy. When I got the news of mine, it was such a shock. I'd worked for the company for 9 years at that stage... I finish up on 26th November and my redundancy should be paid within 24 hours. That money is supposed to renovate our kitchen and bathroom and essentially be my income while I am at home with baby. I had really hoped to take 12mths but realistically I'm going to have to look for a new job at the 6mth mark and that is just stressing me to the max, so I totally understand the stress you are under currently. I really wanted to do a full 12mths of breastfeeding but with having to find a job halfway through I just don't see how I can do it, expressing milk in the work toilet every few hours - sounds fantastic.

WW - have you tried on your back with one leg up kind of on DH's shoulder, it kind of gets him in more of a kneeling possie so he's not lying ON you, and if on your back isn't the most comfy you can kind of roll at bit to the side. That was the position we did last time, which was MONTHS ago, yes MONTHS ago - poor DH.

KellyD - welcome back :D and congratulations!!

MaggiePie - thanks for sharing the strep story, I'm not sure now whether to lie to the doctor and say a cousin (or something) had that happen to them and I demand antibiotics - what do you think?

Ummm... after MissK delivers, I'm next.(well technically, but yeah Brunette I guess you will probably beat me, those little twins will be too crowded in there to go full term). How time flies, I can remember those early weeks like it was yesterday. I hope my child growing up doesn't pass this quickly.

MissK you must be so excited (or nervous?, or both?).

Brunette, I am totally with you on your belly being more interesting than the telly, it's just a non stop footy match in there isn't it! I swear this baby does not sleep.

We're off to the final parenting class tomorrow, and then next week the hospital has 'dog, baby and you' - preparing your dog for your newborn's arrival. If anyone's interested it's at North West 23/10 10am-11am. Being that my boxer is very exuberant and is treated like our firstborn, I can see her nose being out of joint when baby turns up on the door step..

Take it easy this weekend, hope you all have a great one (and a bit of sunshine for Brissy wouldn't got astray).

Chrissy xxxx.

Brunette- 30 weeks!Wow, time does sure go by quickly!!! Hope your little bublettes are brewing nicely :)

CK77- I have two ****er spaniels, one timid and one very affectionate (read:sits all over you). Our dogs were and occassionally still are known to share the bed with DH and I so I too was worried about them. In the all day ante-natal class they talked about pups and bubs, the best thing I did was play babies screaming and the dogs were so used to the noise than when our DD arrived, they weren't interested. It's like they knew she was a baby (of what kind they didn't know!).

Juniper -great news you have been able to lose weight (assuming of course this is good news for you from a health perspective). My friend is a larger frame and she lost about 15 kgs with her DS, I think from all the morning sickness though!

Airline - glad you enjoyed the 1st day in your purple dress,sometimes you just have to laugh don't you!

Jaki - I agree and think we need to do some promotion as there haven't been many newbies in here for a long time!

Hi to everyone !! Have a GREAT weekend:)

AFM - I have to say you ladies are fabulous - thanks so much for your kind words. I am obviously a bit unhappy with the timing, but when I calculated the redundancy (I don't get made redundant until I want to return to work (2 years after bubs is born) and in the meantime I keep accruing service years for my payment and it's way more money than I thought it would be!
Had my OB appointment today, and my crappy hip from the last pregnancy which caused me to be induced has started up as of the last couple of days -with the OB telling me that of course I can't take anything of any use, so will be induced at 38 weeks, likely to be immobile from about 32-34 weeks - yippeeee!

Lairdoz, great news about getting way more from your redundancy payout than you originally thought. Bad news about having to be induced at 38 weeks and probably immobile from 32ish weeks. I really feel for you as I know what it's like to be on bed rest; it totally sucks. I've had the threat of bed rest hanging over me my entire PG and it's awful. It has made me walk nearly every morning for half an hour as I never know if it's going to be my last day out. FX that your hip gets better and you can go to term without any immobility. Have you tried acupuncture and physio?

Chrissy, how did you hear about the dog, baby and you class at NW? Sounds interesting. I think I have a massage around that time on saturday, though, which is a bummer. Sorry to hear that your redundancy won't stretch as long as you wanted to and you may have to go back earlier. That's rough. I was planning on having 12 months too but being on bed rest and not working full time throughout has meant I have way less leave than I would have. Still I have just put in my leave and have stretched it out (on full pay and half pay) to 10.5 months so am pretty stoked. DH will then take about 3-4 months off so the twins will be at least 1 year old before they have to go to child care a couple of times a week. Try not to stress (as I type this I know it's probably impossible because financial stress is hard to stop). Hope you get a way better job than the one you're leaving in terms of flexibility to look after bub.

Quick update for me: had an appt with my OB on Monday and we're doing well. Blood pressure good, no strep B (yay!), both heartbeats seen and heard. OB estimated weight of twins if I get to 38 weeks to be 6 and a half pounds! Other than fluid, swelling, carpal tunnel and a very sore right heel for the last few days, I'm feeling pretty good. Not long to go now. If the twins play ball, about 6 or 7 weeks! We have our second growth scan this Friday, so wish me luck that my low lying placenta has moved up so I don't have to have a CS under general and be knocked out and be the last person to see my babies!

just wanted tp pop in and say a big hi to all you beautiful pg girls .wow your all going so well and time is flying most of you are up near 30 weeks with not long to go so best of luk to you all.

Hello everyone, hope everyone's going well. Just a quick hello.

Brunette, great news from your OB appointment. Fingers crossed that your placenta moves up!

Lairdoz, I hope your hip stabilises a bit, or at least that you're not too long on bed rest. That's at least a bit of a mixed blessing then with your redundancy package.

AFM, I'm fine. Got a bit stressed over weekend after attending an active birthing class and feeling like the only person there who had a private obstetrician and wasn't going to a birth centre and planning to have an ecstatic birth, or something. It felt a bit preachy and a bit alarmist, like "the cascade of medical intervention" is unavoidable unless you home-birth with a doula, so will chat to OB tomorrow. Does anyone else feel concerned that they will be sort of strong-armed into medical intervention and won't really have the willpower to say No? I'm confused. Also, what is up with my ticker? It keeps going backwards.

Hello WorryWart,

I hope you don't mind me intruding on your thread!! I hope to be a bona fide member myself one day (currently on clomid after ttc # 2 for several years). I just wanted to comment on what you said about being "strong-armed" into medical intervention. It's kind of ironic you say this because I actually feel the opposite is true. I have read a lot of pages on this forum and I think that sometimes within this community there is a subtle (and sometimes not so subtle) "pressure" to home birth with a doula or some other non-medical intervention otherwise you are somehow doing both yourself and your baby a disservice, or are lazy or selfish or a bad parent. The "pressure" then continues to use cloth nappies, breastfeed (usually for several years), use attachment parenting techniques, etc, etc....From what you are saying in your post, this attitude does not seem limited to this forum or others like it, and is alive and well in the "real world". I personally have no problem in people conceiving, birthing, parenting in any way they deem fit or are able (*usual disclaimer - as long as it is not harmful, etc). It makes you kind of think people need to mind their own business and be a little tolerant about other people's choices. We are very fortunate in this country to have affordable, high quality medical care and support at our disposal during pregnancy (and throughout our whole lives!). Perhaps that's why we have such low maternal/perinatal mortality rates. Your choice is as valid as everyone else's choice. If you trust your OB, you have to accept he/she will partner with you and keep you fully informed so you can make decisions together. If any additional interventions are needed - eg. induction, caesarian, etc - then you also have to assume that your OB is doing what's best for your little one (and you!). Stay strong in your choices and remember the only thing that matters at the end is a happy, healthy baby in your arms :)

Ok - sorry for the rant....!! I hope I have not intruded too much on your thread.

Take care - and best of luck x

n2l

Hi n2L, Welcome to the thread (I think people are looking for some excitement here, so your arrival is very timely) and thanks so much for your comments. They make me feel so much better.

Yes, I agree with what you're saying. I think that there's a fairly militant group advocating for "natural" or "normal" (which bugs me immensely, the use of that particular word) childbirth. At this class, I asked "ah ...what is 'normal' exactly?" and was told it was vaginal birth. Of course, that is the way nature planned for it to happen, and it's certainly something I'd like to try for, but I don't want to feel a failure if it doesn't work out that way. Also, it was so hard to get pregnant and there was so much "medical intervention" there, and I don't think I'd be pregnant if I hadn't had the surgery for endo (which is thanks to modern medicine and doctors). Also, it may be our only chance to have a child, for all I know.

Still, I have a ... kind of slight unease about doctors and authority figures generally, so I guess my concern is based on my own personal psychology, which is very ... compliant ... and wanting to please people in authority ... and non-assertive.

I hate to hear that about that kind of judgment you're talking about. I feel it a bit too, at times. I guess it will increase, as we make choices. Still, my other personality trait is a sometimes unreasonable sense of being right all the time, so that's handy! No, not really! I am full of self-doubt. I don't know what to do. But over the years, I am becoming stronger at disregarding others' judgments. F- them!

Anyway, n2l, just wanted to wish you best of luck for your next little one arriving very soon! I hope you're back here again soon with good news.

Lol....It's nice to hear I might be a source of excitement WorryWart! I am sure my comments will rile some people. But then, again, it riles me when I hear the term "normal" used for vaginal birth, etc. Does that mean I am abnormal given my DDs birth was via c-section??? It saved her life so I thank God every day that I chose to be "abnormal" and have her running around, annoying me today, almost nine years later. Cheers to being abnormal and unnatural!
(ps. my dirty little secret is I will be using disposable nappies when, and if, I am lucky enough to have a baby lol --- I am just pure evil ;) )

haha n2l, I love your comments about being "abnormal". I must be super abnormal then... DD was via a (shock horror) planned c-section - which I decided at 10 weeks - she only wears disposable nappies and is even.... wait for it.... formula fed.

When the next 2 arrive, they will also make an entrance via the "sunroof" and wear disposable nappies and will hopefully be both breast and formula fed (more out of expense) if possible, if not then it will be 100% formula fed.

I think that everyone has the right to choose however they wish to birth their child and that ultimately all we are aiming for is to have a healthy baby and mother in the end. If that is via a home birth, in a birthing centre or in a private hospital then that is the choice we as parents to be make to feel comfortable and safe.

OMG Kelly!!!!!

You are going straight to hell!!!!!

See you there ;)

Hi Brunette - really glad to hear Monday's appt went well (especially the Strep part, I was freaking out for you about that!!). Regarding the dogs and newborns sessions at Nth West, they run them every few weeks and I think there are some in November. If you just give Bris City Council a call they should be able to tell you when they are, or go to their website and in their search I think I *EVENTUALLY* found the info by typing dog newborn everton park - or something similar.

Next OB appt for me is not until the 28th, which is a scan. Totally hanging out (literally) for it!

Hope everyone's week is going well.

Chrissy