oh kaybee never be embarrassed to ask! i learnt that this pregnancy. I was 10w5d when i had to go to a gp in my hometown who i'd never seen before to get a referral for the doc here in darwin (we moved when i was 8 to 14 weeks preg ugh what a hassel getting scans done etc)... anyhoo, I asked on the off chance if he had a doppler as i was feeling anxious etc... He went one better and gave me a sonogram. Not the best quality but we coudl see the bub and the heartbeat and it just made my day. He later said that he doesn't get asked much cos - bieng a country town - there aren't alot of ivf mums coming through but seeing as I was an old pro with scans etc he was happy to show me in other words, if more women asked, he'd give them one too!

on the private v public, personally for our 2nd i was happy to go public when living in Newcastle cos the big hospy there has a very good rep. Differnet matter here but fortunately i got inot the birth centre which sends us home about 4 hrs post birth. I just feel as this is my 2nd i'm probably going to want to be home with my darling lovely little Ashton and husband, rather than seperated from them. BUT i went private all the way for DS and it was great. DH could stay the whole time and we got lots of help... we didn't even know how to change a nappy lol

aimee - huge congrats on a little girl!!!!!! that's so wonderful and tell FIl to "shud upa ya face" lol. Sorry but I would not respond well if he said that to me so i think you've done well not to give him teh forks and a wtf. that probably doesn't help, but i'm sure once bub is here he'll adore her. all talk iykwim.

kelly - that is exciting that you may get a VB. I know you weren't mentally ready for that and i can highly recommend you read Juju Sundin's Birth Skills book, I found it helped me put in the right frame of mind and find that focus you need. Did you have a CS with Tara? i can't remember. I have heard of women doing a VB with one twin and CS with the other... not sure where tho but i wasn't surprised when i read your post. It must be getting a bit scary and a bit exciting for you now! I'm so glad you can stay in ballarat like you want tho! Sounds like you really have to give up any expectations and go with the flow. Anyhoo, i'm thinking of you!

Hope all our girls are doing well and bubs are doing great

ox