Pressure to have another.......

[Miss.B]

Hugs lovely! Tell them to mind their own business! Pft!

I'm lucky as the only pressure I have is from the good 'ol me! lol. I sould start soon before my eggs decide to do a runner on me! hahaha.

Do it if and when all three of you are ready

[MummaSue]

But don't you know you're a selfish parent if you don't give your child a sibling...? (or something? )

Yep, I have had this conversation with people soooooo many times. And then we get all of the stupid reasons why we MUST have another baby. The latest one being "what if something happens to your DD and you're left with no children". There really are no words to respond to that one.

Pressure. It's mad. People force so much unwanted attention/criticism etc on us no matter where we are in life.

I can't believe people ask if/when you are having more children. No of your business. You don't go asking them what their bank balance is? How often they have sex? I mean how much more personal can you get!

My mum said to me that i would get pg naturally after DS1, and wouldn't that be nice. Because clearly the 'non-natural' version was an inferior product! (Sorry this was your vent LOL)

So so true Lenny, it's like we did IVF but now that doesn't matter. Completely invalidates the whole process and heartache of TTC DD.

Waaaaaa!
Thank you for understanding. I guess it's not pressure really but I'm just perceiving it to be so because people just love to ask the question.

One of these days I will come up with a sharp and witty response.

[Lily Dust]

You know what?? I dont even have any words So Im just offering my support and understanding that some people just simply do not get 'it' *sighs* Im sorry you are being hounded by uneducated and nosey people.

[Muraho]

I'm only a 'noob', but I wanted to say how much I empathise.

It took a bit of 'help' to get our Rhino; then I had medical complications during my pregnancy that continued on for the first six months of his life. Thankfully, even before TTC, we were pretty solid on only wanting the one child - but this was solidified with all the drama we had.

It's very hard when people pressurise you to go try for another, especially when the first time was so tough. I also hate it when they tell me all the 'bad' about only having one - I am an only child, and for me I really didn't see any negatives. There were lots of ways my mum orchestrated things to avoid the pitfalls often mentioned when discussing only children - so I know we can do the same.

I get very frustrated too, so I understand...

[MummaSue]

I get very frustrated too, so I understand...

Thank you lady, I know this post was written a while ago but the pressure still seems to be there..... especially when almost everyone in our mothers and ABA groups is pregnant with number 2 or 3 or even more!

Ah well, I realised not long after I wrote this post that the pressure is coming from me, in response to comments about only children.

At the end of the day it's our decision and no-one elses. And I ended up being one of "those women" (who fell pregnant naturally after IVF) in October but unfortunately it was ectopic and stuck inside my "blocked" tube.......

What will be, will be.

[Lily Dust]

And I ended up being one of "those women" (who fell pregnant naturally after IVF)

I ended up being one of 'those' women too MummaSue....means you dont 'fit' in anywhere

[MummaSue]

I ended up being one of 'those' women too MummaSue....means you dont 'fit' in anywhere

That's so true! I never thought about it like that. Especially since the pregnancy was lost...... huh.



Hope you're ok LD xx