Well i've posted on a mums group on fb to give another lady advice and have been shot down with a sarcastic comment. i'm tired of peoples comments they should keep them to themselves if they can't say something nice or helpful!! Especially since all the mums in this group fell pregnant pretty much right away or within a few months. I told them i'd been trying for 6 yrs through IVF and now to have a baby we've been through alot. people never seem to understand unless they have been through the same thing...its come down to me hiding away at home not wanting to go out see people just being at home with my baby girl. Family only come when it suits them, Even friends who say sorry they have been so busy but on facebook their status says they have had quiet weekends. sorry ladies i've needed to let that out
I've often found it hard to fit in with some mums groups due to our difficulties in TTC. I guess that you think that when baby comes along it will be different but sometimes it's not.
Sorry to hear you are struggling.
You never 'forget' being a Long Term TTCer. It stays with you LONG after you bring your baby home. I always cringe when people say dumb, insensitive things about TTC and pregnancy. It still can hurt, even now when I have my two boys.
I was given a copy of a Women's Day magazine on Monday. I couldn't believe that every second picture was of a pregnant woman! It was amazing. If I was still TTC, it would have had me sobbing in bed for days.
Enjoy your lovely baby girl. And don't feel bad about what you said on FB. You might have just made ONE person think about infertility and maybe they will be kinder to someone in future. That's all you can do.
I can sympathise with you on that one, when we decided to try for no 2 and went back on the FET bandwagon a couple of mum's in my MG were already pregnant "by accident". I don't hold any grudges about them being pregnant as they didn't rub it in my face however when we were successful with our second FET and found out we were having twins another mum (who then got pregnant and is due a month before me) got really catty about it and even made comments of "it has been known for one baby to die, so this will probably happen to you" WTF. I got the feeling that she felt I was taking away from her pregnancy and it has now made me cautious about who and what I share, although now there are 2 more mum's pregnant so she can vent her frustration on them as well.
I have now found that I go to MG purely for DD to socialise with the other kids but try to keep as much to myself as none of the other mum's have experienced LTTTC and I prefer to share those journey's with my BB friends who I consider to be some of the most genuine people I have never had the chance to meet in person.
Enjoy your DD as she is your special miracle and know one can take that away from you.
Thanks ladies, i'm glad you understand me! DP even says it was ages ago we did IVF but he doesn't understand the emotional side of it either. I'm getting counselling soon got an appointment and found other support services. I think its a step in the right direction anyway. Its a shame we didnt live closer so we could catch up and yes btw i am enjoying my baby girl she's just gorgeous i still pinch myself i've got her!
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It sounds like you're struggling quite a bit at the moment. Hope the counselling and support services are helpful for you - glad to hear you're enjoying your little girl.
Sometimes we're lucky and get a good group for MG, and sometimes we don't. It is really hard to understand anything unless you've been there (or know someone who has maybe), and like Lenny says, it doesn't just go away.
On FB stuff - try not to take that sort of thing personally. It's really easy to take a knock when we're feeling down, but quite frankly people write the stupidist **** online sometimes and it's really all about them and their 'issues'.
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