So at what stage did you tell your employer?

I'm in a icky situation. I just started a new permanent job just this week gone! And it was two weeks before starting that I found out I was 5 weeks along. Was almost tempted to pull out, but I really need the steady income now.

I really don't know how I'm going to have the conversation. Already this week I feel guilty that I'm hiding something especially when new boss has talked about in 3 - 6 months time where he wants me to be in terms of knowledge etc (it's a PA role) and how he wants me to get involved in things (panic at the thought of long hours). All going well, in 6 months I'd be leaving (dr has said to leave work at 32 weeks, no later than 34).

I'm also concerned about long hours and the health of me and the pregnancy. I always thought I'd get a chance to get in, work out what I was doing, work hard for the rest of the year, and then start IVF again next year. I expected to be busy initially but not whilst handling a pregnancy, (my post was lost a couple of weeks ago where I said I've had my miracle natural conception, so that's why this timing with the job is all odd). Obviously my priority is not with work and if push come to shove I'd leave, but he needs someone that can commit. I'm also worried people will judge me when they find out - why would you take a permanent job if you were going to get pregnant straight away? that kind of thing.

I think I'm getting way ahead of myself in terms of worrying about things, I have my first scan on Tuesday, who knows if everything will be okay then (been scaring myself by reading about blighted ovums).

Sorry, I have waffled on more than I thought. I've been quite bloated the last week or so, my belly is protruding already. Thankfully because I'm new noone knows that I'm looking a bit chubbier there.

So how far along were you before you told your boss? Any tips on how to handle telling them, especially when you've only just joined the company?