Parenting after LT TTC #4

[Lenny]

It's great to see so much chatter happening, and now it's time for a new thread!

You'll find the old thread here.

[TaRhLi.]

Just jumping into the new thread.

Has that much time gone by already?

[butterfly_warrior]

You lot talk too much!

The last week at work was a bit better. I'm very slowly getting on top of my classes and had a break through with my year 12 class - FINALLY!

Feeling erky at the moment as I had to do a two hour glucose tolerance test this morning... not fun!

DH seems to be settling well into the role of SAHD, but is starting to understand why I was always feeling so starved of adult contact - and he gets more than I did!

BW

[briggsy's girl]

just touching base - been a bit of a full on week this week and i've managed to once again stuff my wrist so i'm in a bit of pain. (oh, and i stuffed up both shoulders - one WITH the wrist, one BECAUSE of the wrist - overcompensating yada yada yada!). At least E is now mostly mobile so will come to me when she wants a drink or whatever. and DH has been home a fair amount to help me out.

still hating teething time - poor poppet is just miserable one minute, fine the next. it makes life very interesting!

must go - chocolate calling while the bubba sleeps in her bed and her daddy on the couch. lazy beggars!

[MissMagpie]

Hi girls,

Sorry have been MIA

My DP had a foot reconstruction surgery on the 11th and we were desperately trying to get things done before then as he is now out of action for 6 weeks which has put alot of pressure on me, now have TWO babies to take care of, lol

Just wanted to pop in and say HI! And thank you for my birthday wishes. My day was very quiet, just watched movies on the couch all day Cant leave the house unless someone comes over to take care of DP and Trent as DP is on crutches so cant do much other than hold Trent while lying on the couch! DP took me out to dinner the week before and also bought me a GORGEOUS topaz and diamond ring for my b'day

Trent will be 4 months next week, how time has FLOWN! He is having his 4 month needles on Tuesday and then off to the MHCN for his check up on Thursday. The poor little thing has 4 teeth trying to come through so has been unsettled of late. The most I was getting out of him a night was 5 hrs, prior to this, he was sleeping 8/9 hrs! Although he surprised me last night and did 6 hrs straight, woke and I put the dummy in his mouth and slept a further 3 hours

Have been going to my mothersgroup which has been a godsend these last few weeks, a chance to get out of the house once a week! We went to the pool last week and Trent enjoyed it.

I started weight watchers too last week in hope of losing some weight so we can HOPEFULLY start trying for number 2 by maybe the middle of the year

BG - I know what you mean about the teething, lots of fun...NOT! Sorry to hear you've hurt yourself again. Take care of yourself

BW - Glad work was better for you this week and how funny about your DH! Unless they do what we do, they dont quite get it, lol I miss the adult contact too but I cant imagine leaving Trent for a whole day. I really dont want to but have to go back to work at some point soon.

Hello to Kelly, Murph, Grub, Smithy, Poppy, Green, Janie, Neptune, Marcellus and everyone else. Will try to keep in touch more often!

Take care all and enjoy your weekend

Cheers,
Tania

[barney]

jumping into the new thread too hehehe and a big hello to missmagpie and baby trent all the best with the weight watchers hun.

ive got a little video if you girls would like to see of my gorg girl
YouTube - DSCF4456.avi new blue bird bracelet.
hope you like it lol..

[Greenslw]

KellyD I think staying inside with loads of support (mums aunties etc) would be great for a month. I think what you do with Tara is so nice.

Smithy at the washing machine it never stops does it.

Grub we always figure things out before we go to sleep even if we agrea to disagrea but have a cuddle and a kiss. He's still going but is being alot more supporting and asking if he can take bubs in slig alot more. Just needed a poke me thinks I was at the child youth health clinic wed with a mum who's daughter was off feeding too, it's normal and they grow out of it was the sensis but she was so frustraighted. Hang in there.

Janie the walk idea is a good one, will try it while MIL is around. So gelous at reading about your trip. glad you had fun.

Briggsy's girl I hope your teething settles enjoy chocolate

MissMagpie glad you are going well and still around. Nice to have an update.

ATM well Linc is definatly sensitive to me eating dairy. I had yoghurt this mornign and OMG stinky farts all day and very distressed little man. I feel so bad but glad I know what it is, I think the AB didn't help either.

MIL is here and DH is getting ready to leave, I'm getting ok with it, not having any choice and I'm hoping that he get's loads done loads of rest and comes back with arms open to help me out.

[onthefly]

Hi guys, just a quick one as A is on my lap

Lovely to hear all your updates as usual.

Green - that's a really posiotive step if you've identified somethign that can help, so feel good about it if you can! That sucks about your DH Not great timing...

Glad to hear work is going better BW

You need to clone that man Janie!

Grub -try to relax about it if you can. Have you called the ABA ata ll? They helped me through similar problems

Hope your second baby is all better soon MissM

Oh, and A's run off....

Hi everyone else!

[Neptune]

sorry, this will be a quicky as I typed a massive reply, even reading the previous thread for updates and it all got wiped somehow so I just can't do it all again.

BW - so glad work is settling a bit for you, makes life much easier huh?

BG - Sorry to hear about your injuries, why has that happened? You poor thing, hope things improve soon.

Murph - hope the packing is going well!

Grub - hope little Ash is settling with his feeding.

Hello to everyone, sorry again for lack of persies!

Adam a little cherub, but I've given the poor little boy my cold. I tried so hard not to give it to him, but I guess it was inevitable. Luckily it's not too bad, he's just a bit snotty. I set up the baby monitor for the first time because I got it my head that he could stop breathing. anyway, the little talking sounds coming form up there is just gorgeous. He sound slike he is proacticing his vowel sounds. AAAAAEEEEEEE, EEEEEEEE, OOOOOOOOO.

I'm taking my poor little dog to the orthopedic surgeon tomorrow! She will maybe have the op tomorrow depending on what he assesses.

[Murph01]

Hello,
just jumping on the new thread. The move date has been brought forward and we have a house to go to ...yay! I started wondering if it wasnt your DFs house on KI Green, cos i didn't know he had one, then I got cranky at him for leaving you to work on the house while you are struggling. My real estate agent says the owner just wants to do some painting etc and i thought how funny it would be if it was his house we are renting. It's a big 4 bedroom, 5 carport! After living here in one bedroom, it's a bit extreme but it was slim pickings for renting with dogs. Gees, dogs are better than people. Must dash (albeit slowly, or the wee one will drop to the floor)

BBL

[briggsy's girl]

BG - Sorry to hear about your injuries, why has that happened? You poor thing, hope things improve soon.

long story, but dot points are that i broke my arm when i was a kid, tearing the cartiledge between the two bones at the time. surgery hasn't corrected it, so my wrist dislocates itself if pressure is put the wrong way (which can be something as big as me falling on it, or putting weight on it as i stand up, or as small as carrying E and her weight shifting, cuddling DH in bed and him moving my hand the wrong way) - anyhoot, i know it is a weak point, but i try to not keep it strapped all the time as it will weaken it further. i'm probably in need of more surgery on it to try and stabilise it again. this time, i did something stupid that popped my wrist and jarred my shoulder and possibly torn muscle through my shoulder/shoulderblade region (bloody red head temper!) - because that side of my body is really uncomfy, i was overcompensating and using the other side for everything and it has created pain in my right hand side as well. E being as big as she is now, carrying her weight on the same side all the time has made things nasty for me. she is also still being rather clingy with the teething gig and wonder weeking at the same time. it's been full on!

new mummy's - if you haven't already, see if you can get hold of a copy of the wonder weeks book - it is a fantastic resource - it explains so much of what goes on during those really fussy periods. it doesn't by any means FIX the fussy periods, but it helps so much to understand WHY they are doing it - and how to help them through it with appropriate activities. i am someone that gets very easily frustrated (hence the dodgy wrist incident this past week) but i am not only able to put that frustration aside when E is wonder weeking, i'm able to help her through it. understanding what is going on with her is a key driver for my own sanity lol

fourth tooth is on the brink. i almost went so far as to say it was through earlier - but it still feesl a wee bit spongy over the top of it - so i might make it official later lol. i now have my very own little vampire girl. all she wants for Easter is her two front teeth lol

[grub17]

Bg sounds like you are having a rotten time of it right now. I empathise with the arm thing... i had a bad break when i was a child and now have a arm full of damaged nerves and scar tissue attached to the bone.. ouchy! but nowhere near as nasty as what you are experiencing.

thanks for the wonder week advice. i'll keep an eye out. I think we are having one right now mind you! brh.

Murph - wow things seem to be moving very quickly! you must be so excited - bigger house! does that mean that jazzy isn't in the wardrobe anymore lol.

neptune - good luck with the dog's visit tomorrow. poor little thing. And how cute is Adam's chatting! lol. Ash did a similar thing this morn, he was sort of laughing (he isn't quite giggling just oooohhhhing a lot). They are so precious atm

lol marcellus - your post made me glad ash isn't moving very far from where i put him. hope you are well.

green - that's good he acutally listened. i reckon dh is better at listening thesedays. and hope it all goes smooth with the MIL. thanks so much for the encouragement love.

miss tania - So happy to hear from you. 4 months! are you sure? lol. and for you for taking on such a full on job with your two babies at home and managing to start a diet as well! you are awesome lady Hope trent goes back to his "good boy'' sleep pattern.

Hi Smithy, Lenny, Kelly D and BW - I don't talk too much, it's all murph lol.

Special Shout out to Poppyfairy - How are you love? have things settled with your feeding.

Thanks for all your advice/support re fussy feeding. Rang the ABA and spoke to our health nurse - consensus is reflux. ugh. poor little sod. so have to try and just keep doing what i'm doing and hope it clears up soon. if not i'll go to the docs. He's nearly 3 months so i'll leave it til at least then. It's off and on and that's what has been confusing me.

He has decided today that if we go 1 second past when he says it's bed time he will absolutely crack the biggest tanty - screaming to hoarness and nearly making himself sick! All Dh did was lay Ash on the change table to dress him after his bath (for which he was all smiles) and it was the end of the world! lol. You should have seen the quivering lips once i settled him down a bit. Felt bad for Dh as he would only settle for me. on the up side, i got him calm and popped him to bed and he has been asleep ever since

Has anyone got a long, thin bub & if so any tips 4 getting clothes or particular brands? ash is in 00 already even without the cloth nap on! but they fall off the shoulders and fit on the length.

oh dear, BW maybe it is me who talks too much!

[butterfly_warrior]

Grub, we went through the long, thin baby a few times. With some of our size transitions... I'd sometimes put something on Sam, pick him up and have his shorts fall straight off! In winter it's really hard as you need long sleeves and long legs, and it's just impossible. I've got through most of Summer with Sam wearing both 0 and 1 as the length when wearing t-shirts and shorts isn't so critical. For a while he still had a pair of 00 shorts that still fit. There was a time when he was wearing 00 shorts and a size one t-shrt to get his shorts to stay up and have his t-shirt not expose his belly. He's grown a bit now and we can get most size 1 shorts to stay on (but not always up!). He wears a lot of overalls just to stop things falling off or down. When it came to winter clothing I would try to find jeans or pants with cuffs so that I could get some extra length out of them and would often have to put him in a top/jumper that was quite baggy. Sizes can very a lot between different stores, too. Kmart clothes are always on the small side (great for the start of a size transition), especially in the under 0 sizes. Dymples which you get at big w always tend to be HUGE and so I try to avoid them until he's quite solidly in a particular size. More of an issue once you get to starting to look at size 1 clothing, but from target the size 1 clothing from the baby section is smaller than the size 1 clothing you can get from the kids section. If you can't get overalls, go for stuff with elastic waists as they tend to stay up a bit quicker than something that only has a button or part elastic waist.

Anyway, crap day at work yesterday so I'm doing all I can to avoid getting ready to go this morning, so I should go... and will try to get back later, but not likely to happen today. Once DH has picked me up he needs to drop me and Sam at home and take our car out to get new tyres. Hopefully Sam will consent to having two naps today and I can put him to sleep when we get home and all will be well.

BW

[Janie71]

Just getting on the new thread, but gotta run! Back later to catch up.

Janie and Jasmine xxx

[TaRhLi.]

Hey Grub I've found that if you buy anything "bonds" from Best & Less or any of the Target Baby stuff it is smaller. Tara is moving up to size 0 now in most clothes and I went to Target to get her some all in ones and they show the length up to 76cm, where the Dymples brand from Big W has size 0 up to 104cm (WT). So basically anything I have from Target for her in a 0 she can wear or if from Big W it's 00.

Murph: about the new big house. I bet you guys will end up camping out in just one room (ie: Family Room) anyway. I can just imagine you at night going into Jazzy's room half asleep and bouncing off the wall of the hallway as you haven't had to negotiate those before...

BG: So sorry to hear you are in pain, at least you DH around to help you out with E.

Hello to everyone else, not much time this morning I'm trying to get the washing done before little miss wakes up.

Now I don't want to sound like I'm bragging but Tara has now decided that going to bed at 8.30pm is the ideal time and waking up at around 7am for a nappy change and bring in to the big bed and then going back to sleep until 9.30am-10.00am is now the norm. When she wakes for a nappy change she is not hungry and even when she wakes later in the morning I still get about 15mins to get her breakfast ready. She has now increased her solid feeds to twice a day as well. Breakfast and lunch and is still having the same amount of bottles so she is taking to solid food like a duck to water, and man o man the nappies..... yuck..... we are now getting on average 2 dirty nappies a day (the other day we had 3) so I definately know we have no constipation issues here. She is loving anything put in her chubby gob, sweet and savoury, so looks like (fingers crossed) we don't have a fussy eater on our hands - not yet anyway.

Anyway girls, better get moving I'm off to Target to buy some size 0 and 1 all in ones for Tara (on special for $5) as I don't have any all in ones with feet in the bigger sizes and as they will fit her nad the weather is starting to change thought I had better stock up. Thanks for the reminder Grub (re: clothes sizes).

[Greenslw]

Neptune I don't know how we can't pass on a cold. I hope he gets over it soon. at baby monitor. I'm getting one cos when I'm outside I hear nothing (good and bad)

Murph were are you living? Kingscote? out house is in Penneshaw and our unit is in Kingscote but it's a poky 2br. I hope you and DH are getting things done, wow this is so quick for you but I think the best decisions always are.

Briggsy's girl thanks for the book tip.

Grub I have a long skinny bub too, I had him in 0 bonds suit yesterday. Length is right but feet are way too big.

KellyD I just went bright green, lucky you enjoy it.

ATM MIL is being a saint, she took link from 10pm till midnight last night and I slept. He didn't wake till 1pm good feed bum change then zzzzz with mum in bed, then 3am but I got a boob in his mouth before he woke up and he 1/2 drained it and slept till 5.30am. He wet through but next time I'll change him before I feed. So I got some great sleeps in last night.

Ped said that Linc must be intolarant to cows milk (yaya someone believes me) due to what I've observed. So no milk products except if cooked for another 7 weeks. then try again. I feel much more validated today and like I'm not a nutter.

So I need to change off of butter then I am completly dairy free. Baught some dairy free choc and icecream (not bad) and babe is so much happier which means I am too

Missing DH He's home Friday till Sunday then not home for 10 days but MIL and mum are pitching in heaps.

[barney]

hello girls,
hope your all well,im a bit to busy for any perssies today but im thinking of all you beautiful mummys
luv 2 all xoxo

[Greenslw]

Bit of a sad day today. After another night of wind and upset little man I decided enough was enough and onto formula.

I saw the pead yesterday who said linc is most prob lactose intolerant so he may be unsettled on my milk for 3+ months

So when he decided he only likes one boob and not the other and was starving but wouldn't take the other one I went to the chemist and baught soy formula.

But he is so much more settled, he slept in his bed! (first time in a fortnight) for an hour and in his sling for 90mins. He looks so much happier and isn't waking up screaming.

I do feed guilty for giving up but it's not working for me and I don't think it's working for him either.

I was so sad this morning I cried over the top of linc while he was screaming with hunger but wouldn't take the other boob. MIL came in took bubs and gave me a huge hug. I rang DH and blurted out all my feelings and he was so sweet, telling me how fantastic a job I am doing etc. I still really wish he was here.

I still feel sad but linc is so much happier already and I can eat food again which I'm sure I"ll grow to love more daily