When did you stop being worried?

[Possums]

Was it after the first trimester? We are so thrilled with our BFP, but also of course, anxious. I still panic a bit whenever I feel a tiny twinge. My clinic has agreed to keep checking my HCG levels for a little while, to set my mind at ease (especially after the ectopic I've had).
Just wondering when you started to feel a bit more relaxed with it all?

[Kitt3n]

Possums, congrats on your pregnancy!

Personally, after 2 mc's, I stopped worrying at about 20weeks!

Try and relax and enjoy yourself hun - its the best thing for the baby!

[satya]

I can't say I ever stopped worrying. It took me 14 years to birth my first bub. I didn't have a good track history & I was 41 so the odds were against me. My worries just kept changing.

I started to feel more confident at 18 weeks after we got the amnio results back, but still every little odd thing that occurred had me a little worried still.

When I got more advanced I worried I'd go into labour early. I didn't. Then when I got to about 36 weeks I worried I'd go over & the placenta would deteriorate. I went 1 week & 4 days early so I shouldn't have wasted my time worrying about it.

Even whilst giving birth I didn't feel confident that it would be a good result. I remember thinking that my baby must be dead during the labour because the midwives were having trouble finding his heartbeat - and then they would find it and relief would sweep over me.

My worries were for nothing. If I could do it over I'd worry about nothing & just enjoy every little thing.

[dusty]

Possums have you heard of the book "IVF and Ever After"? You may find it helpful in understanding that the worry in a sense is normal and it helps you deal with what happens once you fall pg with IVF and then have a baby. Some of the other BB find it has helped them a lot.

Wishing you a stress free pg as much as possible.

xx

[AJC]

Possums - I agree with Satya in that my worries change but are always there. I think the worst for me was up until 15-16 weeks, after that I eased off on the stress and started enjoying the pregnancy more but just started worrying about silly little things that change with each week that goes by.

[Possums]

Thanks for the responses. I guess some degree of worry can't be avoided, but I will also try to relax and enjoy it.

Dusty- would you believe, I just bought that book after hearing the author chatting on ABC Radio! I look forward to reading it, because her comments were very insightful and touched on many of my own feelings