Where two embies were replaced, but only one made it...

[visitor10]

Not a strange question but I kind of feel the same way about that other little embie that didn't survive as I do about my other 5 that were put in that didn't take before.

I feel a closeness to them however I also believe that though beautiful they just were not meant to be. This little one however was strong enough to survive and was ready to become part of this world.

I have to agree with infinity though..it is truly a remarkable gift that we are given to see our children right from the beginning. It certainly puts a positive light on IVF which I love. Many, many people never get that chance.

Just my take on things!

Best of luck with everything xx

[MeredithD]

FG I know exactly how you feel so you are defnitely not alone.
I think the failure of an embie to continue after IVF is very similar to a m/c
All but one of my pgs were achieved with ART. The last 2 cycles being IVF. My first IVF/PGD cycle we transferred 2 and neither progressed to a BFP - it really rocked me and I still have similar feelings about those embies as i do about all the babies we have lost to m/c/
This pg has been by far the worst. 2 embies transferred and both stuck so we had the very real prospect of twins for a number of weeks, seeing healthy HBs several times. Then we lost "upsy's" twin at 8 weeks... a very traumatic complete m/c. Upsy some how stuck through that and many complications since so yes, i too know i should feel truly blessed to still be expecting a child ( and i am!). However, like you, as this pg progresses, I feel the loss of her twin more and more. I can't actually post in some forums because of the number of twin pgs in there and every time i go anywhere, there are just twins, twins and more twins. The what ifs are a horrible part of IVF &/or m/c which never go away. We just have to try and move forward and focus on the "what we have".
I hope the arrival of Tex brings you enough joy to at least dampen the losses a touch

[visitor10]

I guess everyone reacts differently. But just personally i am constantly wary of comparing my situation of losing embryos that haven't taken to those who have had actual miscarriages. Just the pain & suffering that these beautiful women have to go through after losing such a miracle is so hard to watch (and it appears that you are one of them MeredithD and I am so sorry you have had to go through it!).

Hope you are feeling ok about it all FG!