Molar Pregnancy returns!!!!

[*LovemyKids*]

Ok so this is for my sister not me, and she would kill me if she knew that i was putting this onhere but she does not know that i am a member so all good:-)

Also if i have put this in the wrong section please move it sorry

She found out she was pregnant then at about 12 weeks had a scan and found out she had a molar pregnancy. She had a D&C all was good. Went for a blood test a two weeks ago and her hormones were up so she had a scan today and she now needs chemotherapy every second week for eight weeks.

The thing is that her pregnancy was not planned so she had not told my parents and they still do not know about it. She is NOT going to tell them. saying that they are not close and she does not want them asking her about it and annoying her!!!!!!! I feel really bad keeping it from my parents. I am not going to tell them as i see it as she will NEVER talk to me again. She just keeps saying its not big deal!!! Well i think it is a big deal or am i wrong for thinking that!!!

I just want her to have some support

Its not like they would get angry with her they would be sooooo supportive of her. I am also worried that she might get a bit depressed just the way she is saying oh its no big deal it does not matter, i just want ot get it over with and forget about it, i dont want them (parents) talking to me about it!!!!!
I dont know what to do i cant tell them............

Also is it a big deal, having chemo and everything???
obviously i know chemo is a big deal but is she right in saying its not a big deal that does not really make sense i know!!!

Thanks for listening i dont even know if any of that made sense.

[Floweryfields]

Tough situation, I am a little confused - the chemo is for something not pregnancy related? How can she have chemo and keep the baby - or is that the point that she won't be keeping it?

[STARRYSKY]

aus girl- a molar pregnancy is when the cells dont make a baby, they form a (possibly) cancerous growth, which can in some cases (as in this one) lead to cancer treatment.

lovemy kids- so sorry for your sister, that would be my worst nightmare. sorry for you too, stuck in the middle like that. i think its good that at least you know and can offer her some support

[Just Me]

Sounds like a pretty traumatic thing for your sister and for you. I suppose everyone deals with loss differently. She might really be okay with it or she might have a bit of a melt down later. Grief also hits everyone differently. At the moment she may just be feeling that she has to get through it and just needs to get on with things.

I think it is okay for your sister to feel however she needs to feel at the moment. It is great that she has you as such a fantastic support. Just keep an eye on her, talk to her about it and let her be however she needs to be. I think that is all you can do.

I would worry about depression and stuff as well, but the only thing you can do is just keep an eye on her and keep communicating with her about what is going on. It might not hit now or ever. It could come a long way down the track like when she plans to have a family or gets pg again or after she gives birth. Just be aware and keep supporting her.

Good luck with everything, I don't think this would be a very easy time for you either. It is great that she has you to support her and trusts you to share everything with you.

[DaintreeDream]

Tough situation, I am a little confused - the chemo is for something not pregnancy related? How can she have chemo and keep the baby - or is that the point that she won't be keeping it?

Unfortunatly in the case of a molar pregnacy there's no embryo instead the placenta forms a mass of cysts, this is removed by the D&C.

I do not have an personal experience with chemo in regards to molar pregnancies but I have had losses and that is hard enough without the extra stress of a molar pregnancy and then chemo so I do personally believe it is a big deal. In saying that I am not aware of the relationship she has with your parents and I can understand that she may be experiencing emotions that she is unsure herself how to deal with. I think that if is a case of loosing your own relationship with her you should keep it to yourself am offer her all the love and support you can as she will be needing it even if she does not realise it herself just yet.
I hope in time she will be able to share with your parents what she has been through.

I pray for you sister that the chemo goes well and that it has not spread beyond her uterus.

[josijo]

Lovemykids,

for both you and your sister. You are a great sister.

Yep, a molar pregnancy is a big deal. I was diagnosed with a partial molar pregnancy (2 sperm, 1 egg) at the beginning of June. I'd just started to wrap my head around the m/c 3 weeks previously, so a big shock for me!

Fortunately, my HCG levels went to normal within 6 weeks of the d&c, so I am not facing chemo. But I have spent loads of time on a UK website that is dedicated to molar pregnancy - I don't think I'm supposed to post a link here so I won't! There is a lot of info on the site and also chat forums - there are quite a few threads about treatment with chemo, you may have already found this website.

I don't know much about treatment with chemo, but I do know that the abnormal molar cells are very sensitive to chemo and respond really well. I think after chemo you are generally told to wait up to a year before TTC again.

Maybe your sister is saying it's not a big deal as the cure rate is so high? Perhaps this is her way of dealing with it? A molar pregnancy is a hard thing to accept and chemo would certainly make it even harder.

But you sound lovely and caring and you are doing all you can for her.

Josijo

[*LovemyKids*]

thank you all for your support

I will try my very best to be there for her, i am so worried for her.

I am definitly not going to tell my parents as i dOnt want to lose her!!

I am not too sure what type of scan she had but would she already know if it had spread beyond her uterus??

Thank you all so much for your kind words i really do appreciate it and iwill keep you all updated.

[josijo]

Hi Lovemykids,

Your sister may have just had a normal pelvic scan. I had one on after my d&c to check there was no molar tissue still there. On a scan molar tissue will look like a bunch of grapes.

I know it's pretty standard to have a chest x-ray too just to check the abnormal molar cells haven't got there. There is a hydatidform mole registry in Victoria at the Royal Womens Hospital and they do a chest x-ray on everyone when first registered.

I think they get a lot of calls for advice, maybe give them a call and they could help reassure you?

Josijo