Thanks Cassius and Dory. Well I had the U/S and it had to be internal as we couldn't see much with the external one. I am 6 weeks today and we saw the heartbeat as well at 105bpm which the lady there said was good at this stage.
I am so over the moon at the moment. Now I guess I am just waiting for the dreaded 8weeks to get over to feel safe. We have decided not to tell anyone till the first trimester ends.
Thank You God!! For the time being, we are trying to be "cautiously" happy.
I know its hard, but instead of cautiously happy, just go all out and be happy. You have a bub! Relish this preg, in this moment. It is a blessing, as you know. If you can try not to let fear hobble you. I know its hard, I seem just to be having a positive day, where I can feel the happiness and not the fear, and it's wonderful.
I have passed one vodoo date and have a few still to come, but whilst I know I will be anxious, I know I will also be anxious until I am holding a bubs who has made it. I don't want to look back and think that if that happens, this pg was just misery for me, waiting for something unhappy to happen?
Right now I am truly blessed and I want to give bubs as much love as I can. It might just be me and my eccentric coping style, but it's mostly working for me. If it could work for you, it would be another blessing.
Thanks Dory. I don't think you are eccentric in your beliefs, instead I would love to have your thinking too. I can see that you have gone through so much and it's commendable that you have such positive attitude. I wish with all my heart that this time your dreams come true in the best possible way.
I have started having MS and have literally been bedridden for last couple of days due to extreme tiredness....but it all feels good.
Thanks Cassius.... it was a very wonderful feeling to see a strong HB.
Dory - Congrats on completing the 1st milestone. Good to hear that you are well again after the gastro.
Summer - Thanks for your advice. I know that I should be like that, but it's getting a bit difficult nowadays as last time these days were the ones when I started spotting. I am trying really hard to stay positive after every ache and pain though.
Just wanted to ask something.....is it normal to have pain in leg during PG? And does MS change every day....I had just been throwing up all my food till the last 2 days but today it's just dry retching...is this normal[sorry for TMI]?
yep and yep! the leg thingy i get too. i always have put it down to the moving bits and bobs hitting against nerves etc causing achey legs or the sharp pains. but it can also be all the relaxin hormone that is being released (to loosen up muscles and the pelvis so bubba can fit through during labour).
the m/s thing is a constantly changing feast. some days i am flat out like a pancake over the toilet then other days i am 100% super dooper, then a few days dry retching...this time i had a whole week of feeling fine then BAM it comes back again LOL!
I am with Cassius2 - M/S is a moving feast! You're miserable when you're sick and worried when you're not. Mine has eased, which initially worried me, but is more of a relief now to be through the worst of it. It's only realy mild infrequent nausea now
I get all sorts of weird aches and pains which I put down to the relaxin causing all the tendons and ligaments to loosen. I get very sore hips and restless legs. In the past i have had severe cramping in my calves, but so far so good!
GSB - I am sooooo happy for you. I am sorry tht you are tired, but that's a good sign and evern better that you are taking it easy. But i reckon you don't have much a of a choice? That early pg tiredness is pretty compelling and overwhelming.
Summer24 - good luck with your pg. Good to hear that things are going well after a bumpy start. I agree stress doesn't help.
AFM - well a sort of milestone reached for me today. 12 weeks, only 28 to go! Not really a significant date for me in my journey, but statistically important. It's good to have reached it anyway. I have had a mild bout of gastro this week and am feeling better again. Phew! Not nice, even though I wasn't that sick. I would way prefer the type of M/S I get than gastro. At least I still have an appetite with M/S!
Cheris all the milestones you reach! I cherised every day and every week, especially reaching 12 weeks, then 20 weeks etc.
Just remember - positive thinking is best in life - negative thinking only manifests horrible things - and you dont want horrible things to happen.
Just keep thinking to yourself and putting it out there "that i AM going to give birth to a happy healthy baby"!
Goodluck everyone - cant wait to hear and see pictures of your beautiful little babies.
GSB - how are you doing? Are you still bedridden? Hope the M/S has improved or that at least you are working out ways to manage it. It's tough to say the least.
i'd hazard that the pains you are feeling are all the bumping and stretching going on. there is a big growth development at that 9 week mark and there is sooo much moving around down there. sometimes i get sharp stabbing pains in the lower ab and it can radiated down either through the vagina or down the inner thigh ITMS.
hope you are travelling along ok, and that the m/s is being gentle on you!
Cassius - if its ok to ask, can I ask you about your PND, when you first became worried about how you were feeling and what you were feeling and your journey to make it through?
GSB - cassius is a wealth of info, isn't she? I find the pain that radiates into the vagina the most disconcerting and uncomfortable. I also get pains in each of my hips, but I know from the feel of it, its the ligaments and tendons relaxing. Its not an oesteo type of pain. So all that sport and injuries did come in handy for something - I do know how parts of my body work and feel, But not all! I also get pains in the lower abdomen on the sides, if I get up too quickly or move too quickly. Again, just part of the expanding and relaxing process.
Thanks Cassius and Dory and Liz. You always put my worries to rest. Although sometimes I wonder at what stage of my PG will I be totally be free of worry. My M/S has gone down substantially, limited to just nausea sometimes in evening and night with the vomiting in the morning. One of my aunts has come over to look after me, which has been a blessing as we keep chatting all day and I am on complete rest. I have decided to take a break from my job and study as I want the best chance for this PG. I am not planning or dreaming ahead, but am taking each day as it comes.... maybe this will change after a few more weeks have passed.
I also keep getting this pain in my inner leg and I read that it helps to lie down on the other side and if standing to shift your weight to the other leg. It's working a bit for me.
GSB - I have to say from my own experience, it's all worry, it's just a matter of degree and how you manage it. (but having said that I've never yet made it to the finish line, but this time will be different). The things that you worry about change and you get used to dealing with some of the worries. I know its hard to be happy and to dream and hope. We each have to find our own way and some people need to protect themselves from what they perceive as potential for hurt.
For me, a turning point came in my pregnancy with Amelia when I got to 8 weeks. I realised that I could spend the rest of my life worrying about this child and not enjoy the moment ( my brother had just been in a near fatal accident and I watched my mother worry over him in ICU).
I also thought, whether I have today or alifetime, I want to look back and have enjoyed this pregnancy and been thankful for it. I have used that same approach since. I am not always great at putting into effect 1005 of the time. But what it gives me, is a greater opportunity to be thankful for what I have, which means, more often than not, I enjoy this pregnancy.
In reality, how I think about things and try to peerceive them is the only thing I really have control over.
I also think I would hurt just as much if not more if I tried to protect myself by not loving my pregnancy and bubba.
In the end, I've never made it to holding my healthy and term baby, but by and large I have given myself permission to love each pregnancy and baby and to hold their preciousness close to my heart.
It helps me, but may not work for everyone.
One of my friends daugthers had 4 m/c interspersed by healthy bubbas, and for her last bubba, she couldn't even look at the screen during ultra sounds and basically ignored that she was pregnant. That was a tough pregnancy for her and that was her way to manage.
As I said we each find our own way. My way is a bit zen and does take a lot of work. It does probably make me seem a little bit "polly anna" and maybe "emotionally simple" to some. It's not, its hard, but its a conscious choice I make.
Hi,
just wanted to say congrats hope all is still well
Dory, I have just stumbled on this thread - I am soooooo pleased that you are with bubs, I do hope that all is well I will pray for you, sending you so much love you have been such a support
Hi am back again..... You are quite right Dory, I intend to enjoy this PG as well from today onwards .... after my scan. Me and DH are pretty excited about it, though I couldn't sleep last night thinking of all possible things that could go wrong . But so far so good . How are things going with you?
Thanks Mummylion for popping in with your good wishes .
and we saw the heartbeat as well at 105bpm which the lady there said was good at this stage
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. We have decided not to tell anyone till the first trimester ends.
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. But so far so good 
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