Pregnancy after Miscarriage or Loss #9

Oh WW I am so sorry you are having to deal with something so stressful. Your almost 24 weeks right?

Keeping everything crossed your bub a stays put and happy for another 5 or 6 weeks minimum

I'm crossing everything for you too WW xox
Just remember they are onto it and you are getting good help. I agree with lots of lying down rest. It can't hurt in this situation. And remember the anxious feelings are just feelings. Ride the wave of feeling and let bit pass. You might find some stuff on the happiness trap website helpful to deal with those feelings. I've found it's really helped change the way I think about emotions (although I went to some training on ACT which is the type of therapy it is).

Will be stalking and crossing everything for all of you xoxox

Still thinking of you WW and praying things are progressing well.

Hiya all. Thanks for the mention Mildez! Congrats mummas on your precious pregnancies. I am with child too. Yay. Stitch in 3 weeks ago. Now in hossy with threatened miscarriage ...heavy bleeding, cramping...I was totally petrified on Friday but having several good scans since showing baby alive is giving some hope. Only 16 weeks.....a long long road ahead.

Congratulations Dory. I am so happy to hear your expecting again but also sad to hear things have been so tough. I wish I could give you some of my weeks too. Do they know where the bleeding is coming from? Sounds very very scary. I have been so fortunate that my problems have only been early in the pregnancy and conceiving. Sending you all the sticky vibes in the world xxx

WW just wondering how you are going?

Not much longer for you Mildez, does it feel real yet that your bub will be here soon,?

Congrats again Dory, wishing you a smooth uneventful journey from here til 40 weeks

Mildez....I am home now but still bleeding intermittently... mostly fresh blood but some old blood and clots. The cramping has eased which is a relief. No real answers. Baby is well on scan....active, good heartbeat, lots of fluid. There may be a hindwater leak...it's not clear. Obs suspects some bleeding on the edge of the placenta. No big abruption on scan. It would be nice not to have the drama....but I am not totally petrified now....but the feeling of being in limbo is tough as is thinking it's 10 long weeks to even get to viability and after seeing Blessed at last's journey with Jett baby button that prospect is really daunting...of a 25 weeker gest NICU journey but the alternative too is hard. So not really any wins unless baby hangs on a lot longer. But here I am 6 days later and I didn't think I would be, so that's a small miracle....and the midwives seem to think so too. Fingers crossed for 10+ weeks longer. On a plus cervix looks great.

Thinking of you in this heat.

Thinking of you we and hoping you are traveling OK.

Mumma T yes it feels very real now with the prospect of going into labour any day. Not so much the bringing the baby home part. I think that will be a shock. I am so not prepared for looking after another bub. I think because I am still working I have not had any time to mentally prepare for a baby. Or even have the physical aspects ready. I should have gone on leave sooner as the exhaustion is extreme and when I get home I can't even do the basics. Its all I can do to recover enough to go to work again the next day.

Dory I am so pleased to hear things are stable for now and am praying for both you and WW that things become uneventful and your babies hang in for so much longer. Hopefully the bleeding stops completely. Do you have some help with the girls? It would be hard to take it easy. I am going well. I have absolutely nothing to complain about :)

Mlidez.... saw the Obs today and baby looks good in scan, plenty of fluid, plenty of movement, great trace and lovely to hear the heartbeat. Bleeding is now old manky blood! Yay! And usually only scant. Only complication from having me do a happy dance is that we've all had a nasty virus that has kept me almost bed ridden with aches and pains and a wicked sore throat and headaches and fatigue. DH and RB had similar symptoms... oh dear, poor wee RB, no wonder she was so miserable. HB seems to avoided the achey part of it and just gone to a croup like cough. So I rather suspect there are some more sleepless nights ahead before I can feel rested again. So I've stopped the meds to assist with clotting ( an attempt to stop the bleeding) and just on AB's now. I next see the Obs for a scheduled visit in a week. A whole week! I am hoping for blissfully boring from here too..... I won't hold my breath. I seem to attract drama in pregnancy. I was talking with one of the middies today and my notes say I lost at least a cup of blood.

You have plenty to complain about. The extreme exhaustion and the feelings of just barely functioning are so hard, especially when you're used to doing so much. Can't believe your little one could be here so soon.... Your ticker says 20 days to go! OMG. Babies honestly don't need much. A place to sleep, some clothes ( and not many in this heat), some muslin wraps, their mumma and their family. Oh a car seat to get home from the hossy. Apart from that, you don't need much else. So excited for you.

Are you hoping to go into labour spontaneously? Who have you lined up to mind the kidlets? When I was in hossy on my "mother's holiday" ( ie I did squat all and was waited on hand and foot) a woman came in about midnight and I heard a little toddler voice..... she ended up having a caesar and the Dad couldn't go with her into theatre as there was no one to mind the toddler.

WW - how are you doing?

Oh and I changed my signature, I guess it's official now, we're expecting! And today is 17 weeks! After the events of Friday before last no way did I think I'd get to say that. Woot woot.

Oh and WW another for you...... we have 3 cats too, and one is so highly anxious that the vet has prescribed prosac for cats for him. The only thing is remembering to give the poor creature his meds..... of course he won't take it in food, even foul smelling anchovy paste ( though he will eat it sans meds) , so we have to give the meds (liquid) orally, which he hates.

Oh and on another note..... I saw some of the quilts that my MIL makes for the SCN on the isolettes when I was at the hossy today. So colourful and bright. It was so nice to see. I can't sew to save myself, but my MIL loves quiltiing and since about December 2012 has been making quilts for the isolettes in SCN. Sadly a whole bunch of them never returned from the laudnry service but luckily she is a prdigious quilter. Anyhoo, I am off to make use of this child free non bed ridden time I have on my hand just now. .... aka the reason for the longer post and the signature change. LOL

Nice to hear from you Dory. I am glad things have settled to a few degree's and I continue to have everything crossed they remain so. Hope the virus in the house buggers off. Just what you all need.

Yes due in 20days. I have been very guilty of expecting bub to arrive at any moment lol. Because my last two were around my current gestation. This bub I believe is much smaller so I guess I am hanging in for the long haul. With my last bub my Ob was keen to induce me around 38weeks but it wont be necessary with bub expected to be significantly smaller (shoulder dystocia). All my labours have been spontaneous so expect the same thing this time. I am nervous about it but also very keen to meet this little person. Nervous things will go wrong and keen just to hurry up and do it. Sad too that I will never do it again but also relieves to be closing this chapter of our lives. The thought of ttc again makes me feel ill.

Hi Everyone!

Thanks Mildez, Dory, MummaT, Lee, My Turn for all the well-wishes. How is everyone?

Mildez, not long at all now! So this one is a bit smaller? Hoping for a nice uneventful delivery. How are you going? When the baby comes, you will just manage. Some friends of mine foster newborns and they get like a few hours notice sometimes, and they just run and get everything (different if you've been in labour etc) but whilst it is nice to feel prepared, we can manage somehow. I often imagine if a baby was left on the doorstep. I guess this is from years of infertility.

Dory, nice to meet you and congratulations on reaching 17 weeks. Great to hear that the bleeding has settled down. Hope you feel a bit better soon. My DH and DD are both really sick with tonsillitis and on ABs too, and me on partial bed rest. Are you on bed rest?

AFM, I have an appointment next Tuesday. I can't come on here very often because I am trying to lie down a fair bit. I feel ok, but some days I get really caught up in worry about "what if" this happens or that. Today I am mainly thinking about the very sad events in Sydney though.

lots of love and peace to all,
WW
x

WW I am so thrilled to hear from you and that bub is cooking along nicely. It wasn't long ago that you didn't know if you would still be pregnant now. Hopefully in another few weeks things get easier for you. Yes I have been upset today too about the events in Sydney. I was hoping to wake up to good news. So incredibly sad on so many levels.

Yes not far away now. I am just waiting for some sign this bub is going to arrive. Obviously it would still be a month away. That's the problem with having had early bubs before once you get to that gestation your expecting the baby to arrive. Almost finished work at the end of the week. It would be a relief if it wasn't straight into Christmas.

Mildez - yes, the waiting now would seem soooooo long. YAY for 1 more sleep til no more work for a while!

WW - thankyou. Sort of "resting". There is no firm evidence to suggest that bed rest actually assists, although even having known that I still spent close to 7 months on bed rest for my 1st rainbow's pregnancy, some of which I tried to be inverted for. And from 27 weeks for my second rainbow's pregnancy. When there is nothing else, at least "bed rest", feels like you are doing something.

But the risk of DVT and other health risks from being so inactive, and the emotional difficulty and isolation of bed rest make it very tough. So for the first 2 weeks after this bleed, I was on pretty much strict bed rest. But I was so tired physically and emotionally that it was quite easy. I remember feeling very acutely that anything I did, would "kill my baby". And I even felt like that just recently and even today.

It's a tough gig. So is feeling so apart from your own family and not being able to "do things". I can't pick them up to cuddle them, we can't do our usual activities. But we'll get there. It's worth it, even though it's hard.

I am resting now... so as of today. So I sit a lot, I lie a lot, but interspersed with light activity. Today I hung some washing out for the first time since the bleeding started. I sat on the floor and washed some low windows that have mucky hand prints on them and I have been meaning to clean for 3 months. I washed up. Sounds pretty darn exciting huh?

I haven't left the house since Sunday when DH drove us to the park and I sat and they all played. Though when I am feeling better I will drive to the park and sit on the seat while the girls play. Luckily they have been sick too so they are happy enough to take it easy. Though I think they are feeling better.... they took over the cleaning of the windows and are now sweeping and now are chasing bubbles outside. LOL. It's hard too. DH can't stay off work indef to help me out, so I am at home alone. We have no family close by to help. And my two best friends are both moving away. DH has a sister about 20 mins away and she would help, but the same day the bleeding started for me, she was in emergency, and then ended up having an emergency hysterectomy. She's recovering now, but it's a long road for her. We had arranged to interview a Nanny, who could help out a few hours every couple of days, but we cancelled as we were so sick. Hopefully next week before Christmas so we can at least get everyone used to each other.

But look at you, 25 weeks. No one wants a NICU journey but it certainly gives me some comfort to get to the gestations where survivability is even spoken about, and then the stats look good for. Though pre term labour is not the only hurdle in pregnancy.... and that's the thing that is soo darn hard, on top of everything else.

As you can tell from my LONG post.... I have had a fair bit of time to "sit" down just now.

Hi all,

WW yeah 26weeks. I truly hope things are going well for you and during the festive season you have some help with your DD and around the house.

Dory how is the resting going? Do you have your morphology scan soon? I hope the bleeding has gone and the sickness in the house too.

AFM I am terribly uncomfortable. Trying not to complain. I am exhausted and aching all over. Worried about going into labour in this state as I am so tired and nothing has even started yet. I feel so lethargic and weak I don't know if I could even hold a newborn right now let alone push one out. Worried there is something more serious going on for me to feel so terrible. Maybe its just the festive season, heat, pregnancy etc. I see the Ob tomorrow. Probably need to have my iron checked and thyroid etc.

Doing ok MILDEZ.... saw the Obs today... pre term delivery after viability was mentioned out loud today..... so after some initial shock, I am action stations in trying to prepare ourselves. But I seriously need to get some more clothes! And get some baby stuff washed and ready..... just in case, be it for an angel or a NICU baby. Sickness is lingering, esp when we are tired. But generally getting better.

Hope you get some answers... low iron is a possibility as is thyroid. It's miserable to feel that fatigued. Hope baby waits til after Christmas for you too.

Perked up a bit this afternoon. See the Ob tomorrow. I will see what he says. Probably just a waiting game and I'll see how I feel after this bub is born.

I am really sorry to hear what the Ob said today. I hope to God he is wrong and just stating the worst scenario. As always I am praying for you and the family and your tummy bub stays put for a few months yet. Praying hard that you don't have another angel baby or extreme prem.

Dory I hope things have settled down and bub is hanging in for the long haul.

WW I hope everything is going well for you too.

Mildez....phew no Christmas day bub for you! I thought I had replied to your post so I apologize if it seemed like I was ignoring you. It's hard to tell....I don't think I have felt Popsicle move as much, I thought perhaps the bleeding had stopped today but had a huge gush as I was laying down with the girls before bed, and I think I am a bit crampy tonight. I am just chilling now and wondering if I will be visiting the hospital tonight.

So FX things settle and it's just wind. Seems my bowels make me feel crampy before they move. Is that TMI ?

This is so hard but at least it wasn't a Christmas Day baby.

How are you feeling?