Pregnancy after Miscarriage or Loss August 2009

**Mrs McAwesome** · September 27th, 2009, 11:11 AM

HI guys...

I just had to share my news, I have peeed on a stick the last 3 mornings and every day watched the test line get darker... I feel the force is strong with this one seeing as my period is not even due yet.

My husband refuses to get too excited until I have had a scan and blood work done, We have just had wayyy to many losses, I don't think he can do it again. I just can't think negatively. If I do i feel like I have given up hope. I have had 3 psychics over the last year say that sept was the month for us. Please pray for sticky baby vibes...

Cara

**Greenslw** · September 27th, 2009, 11:43 AM

Erybery yaya for ending work. surry bubs is hanging in there,

I was late some bubs just love mums belly too much.

zstar goodluck for amnio

WTH had to cancel Peddi due to no time

but rescheduled

Hope you're coping without shopping. rest sounds good.

JulsWA hope you are still relaxing. twinges are normal I still get them.

Babymiracles weather! is that what it is, oh my the rain, my garden is happy but it is horrible to drive in, wow another 2nd of october. not long hope you're going ok

Esha

welcome Jaida

Mrs Hendo congratulations, when's the BT

Hi to all.

ATM DF just cleaned out all the cupboards in the kitchen, he's a bit ****ty but glad he did it not me

Too stuffed for up and down atm. I tried filling my new robe the other day and ended up on the floor catching my breath. Also when I was teaching yesterday I really felt tired. I guess it was bound to happen.

Found out no teaching in this school next year, bit sad for lack of $$$ but maybe I do need less in my week, Just need to get a good payrise to be able to really relax (universe I'm asking).

DF is being a bit moody, complaining about his back, the bed, the city and anything else that may upset him, I've gone into denial mode cos I don't have the energy to deal and he does this quarterly, wish he'd see the GP re medication for depression but there is no shifting him.

So I forgot a 2nd b'day party today didn't I omg I have baby brain. I left my purse in the class room yesterday too. Very lucky all cash still there.

**Karen van** · September 28th, 2009, 06:55 PM

Hi Everyone

Bub is about to make a dinner call - so it will be quick!!

Congratulations Easha on the lovely Jaida!!!!

May she bring you great joy on the long and fascinating road we've put our feet on...

Erybery - got my fingers crossed for you to have your little one in your arms soon sweeting!

Mrs Hendo - many, many congratulations for your great news!!!! May you enjoy your pregnancy and its wonderful gift.

Smallfry - if you can stomach it - just some regular tinned pear juice will clear up constipation in a second - I use it after birth to make things easy on that front and it always works a treat (and is cheap and doesn't require a run to a doc/pharmacy)

babymiracles and LizJessie - we should be putting odds on this race!!!!

I think DP is taking Joss for a bath with him at the moment so I will duck in and change my pregnancy ticker which is still powering along without us!!!!! DD has been absolutely fantastic during the birth and after - I have a beautiful photo of her with the midwife's stethoscope listening to the baby's heartbeat

Joss was a bit unsettled but a bit of reflexology from the midwife for a touch of meconium backup has got everything sorted and he is sleeping and feeding very contentedly now - wish I'd known this with my DD who started out the same way with lots of distressed tummy issues but I didn't know first time you could do reflexology on such young bubs - ah well - you do the best you can with what you've got at the time

Much love to everyone - look forward to maybe catching up with some of you on the parenting forums - may everyone continue to enjoy their time with bubs in utero (finally put the umbilical cord aside in the freezer for DP so he can bury it in a special place with DS later - and placenta is safely stored in the freezer after a bit of art print work - ready for planting under a special tree next year for Joss' naming day!!!) Starting to believe I am back in a bit of a flow now!!!!!

Karen van

**josh'smum** · September 28th, 2009, 07:39 PM

Hi ladies,

Quick post for me today so sorry not too many persies.

AFM- had my 1st tri scan today which I was really nervous about due to having a missed mc last time. Anyway I'm pleased to say that the scan went great, however when I saw my ob straight after my combined screen had me at 1:177 risk for downs- which is considered high risk. He seems to think that the chance of downs is probably lower than that because my scan was so positive- however has chatted to us about having a CVS or amnio. We are thinking amnio!

z star- I can't believe how similar our pg seem to be progressing. I was more worried about no heart beat or the size not coresponding to weeks etc- not really downs how quickly things change.

Mrs Hendo- congrats on your BFP.

Hi to all the other fantastic ladies on this site- I will do some persies tomorrow.

Cheers
Lisa

**Greenslw** · September 29th, 2009, 12:18 AM

Karen Van, Glad DD is being an angel and DH is helping you out so you can pop in and see us

hope you're holding up well.

Josh'smum glad your scan went well, from all I've heard the amnio is the best option. I didn't but I was low risk. I think if I was going to I'd want to know 100%

ATM: Heartburn and brain awake

can't stop thinking work, baby, work, baby and then heartburn so I'm up trying to drain my brain and put the fire out in my belly. Squeak has been pretty active today. Although I must say my tummy is starting to feel big. I love it but I get uncomfortable easy. Not good for all the mega meetings coming up.

I wonder if it's rude to pace around the room?

**Mrs McAwesome** · September 29th, 2009, 08:08 AM

Well I am about to leave to get my blood test results... I am sooo nervous.. Surely I have to be pregnant. 4 positive tests and they were getting darker every day. I am just soo anxious. I have had this before where a urine test is positive but then the blood work comes back under 5. It's just so heartbreaking. I feel preg, By boobs hurt and i'm nauseous and i even had to have a nap at work yesterday..

Wish me luck

Cara

**LittleOnes** · September 29th, 2009, 08:09 AM

Greenslw, I reckon if you want to pace, it's not rude, you're UTD and deserve some common courtesy and understanding to be shown to you. If anyone says anything just say "pregnant, shut up or behold my hormonal wrath!" hehehe

Josh'smum, I agree, excellent news about everything being ok and yeah, would probably go for the amnio as well. I know a number of women who have had them with absolutly no dramas at all and none who have had any complications after having one.

Karen van, Sounds like lots of fun with baby Joss in the family

thanks for the advice re pear juice, I'll certainly give it a go and hope to be able to stomach it. I should be able to because lately all i want is fruit and fruit juice, which is really unusual for me because most fruits and nearly all juices trigger migraines in me but now they're not so I'm making the most of it! Hey, anyone reckon this is a sign of things to come? I'm 20 week scan in a couple of days (19 1/2 week) and will be finding out the gender.

Welcome Mrs Hendo and a huge congratulations on your two pink lines!! There's nothing more amazing and terrifying than those lines hey?! I

everything goes perfectly for you this time around and that in a few short months you are holding your baby in your arms.

AFM have been getting some random waves of extreme nausea lately and I think it's to do with both eating too much and eating not enough. In some ways looking forward to that diabetes test but I think I'm ages away from that being done. For some reason feeling a little paranoid about it, probably due to a couple of friends getting quite serious gestational diabetes recently. I'm sure I'll be fine as I was for my first two.

As mentioned, also have our (final) scan on Friday afternoon, I'm so excited about it! We're taking our girls with us and they're excited too and have great debates about if it's going to be a girl or a boy! Of course, they both swing back and forth between the two as well.

Trust everyone's well

Karen

PS. We posted at the same time Cara, good luck this morning with your results, I'm praying everything is perfect for you!

**zstar** · September 29th, 2009, 11:02 AM

big hi everyone

karenvan - good to hear all is going well

erbery - my god...you are sooo close. so exciting.

greenslw - go for the pace! chop everyone else. they will get over it

smallfryplus - good luck with your scan. will be great for everyone to see bubba. very comforting to hear you know people who have had the amnio with no problems at all. they are the stories i need to hear!!!

wth - hope all is good with you

josh'smum - i feel for you. i am now comfortable with our decision to have the amnio. it has taken me two weeks to get my head around it - to believe in the test and believe in the process and now i'm good to go. many tears cried. i spoke to a lot of people and had so many opinions that just did my head in. it has to be your (and dh) decision in the end. my ob said the risk of m/c is now around 1/1000. you will read it to be 1/300 and those results are from the 1980's when the needles were twice the size and a lot of specialists not trained up. my mum sent me a text that i keep in my phone and read it daily "my darling daughter, be brave, be strong, pray for calm and patience. be confident that your baby is strong & healthy & your little family is happy". i now pass this on to you as my bellybelly friend. Stay strong and be brave and stay positive. we will have our healthy little bubbas in our arms very soon. i am thinking of you. i am booked in 15th oct.

mrshendo - can't wait to hear your positive results!!! i keep logging on to check if you are back yet!

big hi to everyone else. i hope you are all having a good day!

afm - my belly is starting to stick out. It is hilarious. by the time i have had dinner it is all hard around the sides and sticking out quite a bit. i am used to having a fairly flat stomach so it is quite a novalty! i keep laughing at it. i am so enjoying being pregnant and keep talking to my bubba. it is a wonderful gift - we are lucky to be women and get to experience it!

**josh'smum** · September 29th, 2009, 11:36 AM

z-star- thanks heaps for your positivity and your words of wisdom. We are feeling pretty happy with our decision to have the amnio now, that's not to say that I am still terrified. I really believe that everything will be ok, but we need to know so we can make an informed decision. We have a 2 1/2 year old we also have to consider the impact on him so have decided that we need to know. The bizarre thing is that the scan was so positive. My ob mentioned that 6 years ago before the bt came in we would have been low risk. My amnio is scheduled for the 13th of Oct, I was hoping you would be able to give me the low down on the procedure but looks like I will be pm you instead.

Hi to everyone else, I will persie in the next couple of days as I am heading away until Thursday. So until then, farewell my pregnant friends.

Cheers
Lisa

**Mrs McAwesome** · September 29th, 2009, 01:04 PM

Joshsmum - Good luck with the amnio, i know that must have been a really hard decision to make.

zstar- thank you for your encouraging words, and everyone else I might add.

Well I got back from the doctor and I am definately UP THE DUFF!!!

My blood levels were at 46, she said this is ok for so early I am showing at 3 weeks... have to go again tomorrow to make sure they are increasing...

Really praying this one is a sticky bubs.....!!!!

**Where there's hope** · September 29th, 2009, 01:34 PM

Hi everyone

Just a quickie to let you know I am still about. I am super-huge, super-low and taking things very easy as instructed by my ob recently. Sleeping well, but having much stronger BH, lower-back pain and period-like pain which may be pre-labour or even early-labour. BUT just when I start to think there is a pattern developing...it stops. My CS is booked two weeks today (at 39+3), but my Ob still thinks I will be in labour before then

Just wanted to also congratulate Mrs Hendo - wishing you a H&H PG

Karen Van - great to read about your beautiful baby moon

Smallfryplus - I had rotten headaches at the same stage as you. Panadol did sweet nothing. It did pass, though...

Greenslw - sounds like squeak is becoming quite a character. Glad to hear about all your reassuring wriggles and bumps.

Z-star - are you looking at maternity clothes yet? I found it exciting to finally get to that section in a department store which I (sadly and also superstitiously) kept away from for some time.

Josh'smum - You've had a hectic few days. I hope you have a relaxing time away x

Erybery, Babymiracles and LizJesse - surely ONE of us will have a BA any day now...

to everyone else

**ElleJay** · September 29th, 2009, 01:43 PM

Mrs Hendo - Good luck, I hope that bub is a sticky one for you!

WTH - I do agree.. I was starting to think it was happening for me because starting last night, I had the most horrible pains - the thing that made me realise that it wasn't happening just yet is that they weren't regular... Well, they were regular, but they weren't iykwim. I'd have pain for about half an hour, then it would stop for 20 minutes then go again for another 20, then stop for an hour etc etc... It was horrible!

to everyone else - Had my Obs appt - he said everything is going well, now it's just the waiting for the bub to be here! Head is down, but not engaged just yet - and if I keep having the back and stomach pains, take Panadeine.. If it doesn't get any better, just to go to the hospital

**zstar** · September 29th, 2009, 01:49 PM

mrshendo!!!!!! sticky vibes for you! so glad to hear!

wth, lizjessie, babymiracles and erbery - come on girls!!!!! i'm sitting here with a big smile on my face waiting for the good news! can't believe i will be in your shoes one day. massive!

**Mrs McAwesome** · September 29th, 2009, 04:03 PM

Hi guys..

Just wondering if light cramping is ok.... I feel a little bit like my period is coming on. But not really intense cramping or anything. Is this normal.. I have never experienced a little cramping before without it leading to a miscarriage.

**LittleOnes** · September 29th, 2009, 04:06 PM

Lizjessie, with both my dd I had BH for a week prior to giving birth. I was induced with dd2 because i had BH ALL night every night 15 minutes apart for a week (of course it would stop first thing in the morning!) and was exhausted when I then picked up the flu so I went to my ob and begged him to induce, I think I was about a week late by then but can't remember as it was all so exhausting and foggy! Good luck with yours! (ps my DD1 is 18/10!!)

Mrs Hendo, great news re your blood work! Congratulations!!

Go team!! lol can't wait to see some announcements

It's always so exciting!

**LittleOnes** · September 29th, 2009, 04:14 PM

Hi guys..

Just wondering if light cramping is ok.... I feel a little bit like my period is coming on. But not really intense cramping or anything. Is this normal.. I have never experienced a little cramping before without it leading to a miscarriage.

Mrs Hendo, I have had loads of cramping with this preg, particularly the first 8 weeks or so. I think (from what others have told me) that it's to do with the uterus expanding and everything starting to move around and settle into the pregnancy. Ironically, when I miscarried earlier this year, I had no cramping and no idea that anything was wrong until I woke up covered in blood, the cramping didn't start until after the bleeding. Retrospectively, 'something' felt wrong but I still couldn't pin point it if asked. The cliche is applicable (but annoying to hear I know!), try to stay calm and not to stress.

for a happy, fun, life changing pregnancy for you

**starangelk** · September 29th, 2009, 10:13 PM

Hi everyone, is it okay if I join this thread?

I had a miscarriage last cycle at around 7 weeks, it was my first pregnancy and I was lucky enough to conceive the first month trying. Unfortunately it wasn't meant to be and it was really one of the most difficult things I have ever been through. I really leant on the women on BellyBelly to help me get through. Last Wednesday I POAS and got 2 lines but had some spotting. The Dr took my levels then and again on Monday and it is increasing. Unfortunately, I am still spotting but the Dr said that the pregnancy look "viable" and sometimes bleeding does occur so I am tentatively posting in this thread.

I am going to go back and read through this thread and learn your names. I look forward to getting to know you all better.